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Do guys make too big of a deal about sex?
Yes - and I am a woman 28%  28%  [ 13 ]
No - and I am a woman 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
Yes - and I am a man 32%  32%  [ 15 ]
No - and I am a man 30%  30%  [ 14 ]
Other... 9%  9%  [ 4 ]
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16 Sep 2010, 4:39 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Even so, Erisad, I never expressed a desire for him to stop seeing his little whore. Craig be trippin'.



True but wasn't he the one who said that he was unsatisfied with the experience and that he never wanted to go back? I remember him saying something along those lines. Maybe he had a change of heart? :?



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16 Sep 2010, 4:40 pm

His little whore, huh? I thought they were called sexual workers these days :P


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16 Sep 2010, 4:42 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Even so, Erisad, I never expressed a desire for him to stop seeing his little whore. Craig be trippin'.



True but wasn't he the one who said that he was unsatisfied with the experience and that he never wanted to go back? I remember him saying something along those lines. Maybe he had a change of heart? :?


Aye, that he did. lol


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16 Sep 2010, 4:42 pm

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His little whore, huh? I thought they were called sexual workers these days :P


*hangs head in shame* They're sex workers. I just couldn't resist.


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16 Sep 2010, 4:46 pm

It's never too late to mend your ways, my daughter :jester:


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16 Sep 2010, 5:06 pm

*crawls on knees*

Show me your ways, oh wise one!


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16 Sep 2010, 5:08 pm

No - I'd say we just go crazy trying to tell ourselves that it isn't. Its not that it even needs to be all the time but, to say we don't need it we either would be or are lying to ourselves. Not all guys perhaps, but most? Yes.



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16 Sep 2010, 5:14 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
*crawls on knees*

Show me your ways, oh wise one!


I'm sure I couldn't do that :oops: - natural modesty and all...

Thanks for playing, Tea - I've had a grim couple of days and smiling is always good :)


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16 Sep 2010, 5:27 pm

Sallamandrina wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
*crawls on knees*

Show me your ways, oh wise one!


I'm sure I couldn't do that :oops: - natural modesty and all...

Thanks for playing, Tea - I've had a grim couple of days and smiling is always good :)


Ah, me too. I'm the owner of a forum and I guess the drama the last few days over there really got to me. :oops:


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16 Sep 2010, 8:29 pm

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You do realize that at this point, you're fighting over nothing, right? I mean, you all were fighting about hot-button issues, but now you're just fighting about fighting. I fail to see the logic.


Those two want Aspie men to stop seeing prostitutes and call girls. They are both female and you know how females on these boards can get. I see a woman once a month and I'm not going to stop seeing her. Why should I?


I'm too lazy to see the other threads that deal with prostitution, but I'm slightly curious as to how your statement has anything to do with my quote whatsoever.



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17 Sep 2010, 12:20 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Even so, Erisad, I never expressed a desire for him to stop seeing his little whore. Craig be trippin'.


Your against prostitution in general due to the "suffering and abuse of its victims". The victims being women. Meanwhile this "victim" is ripping me off! Its one sided and thats all I expect from a female regarding this particular issue - the man is the villain! :roll: Ever since women had the power to speak out, you can't shut them up now.

Its the same with the sex industry. Women always moan that female performers have the bad part and are doing it against their wills. Well. women performers make a damm lot more then the male performers in revenue. Whats more, they enjoy what they do.



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17 Sep 2010, 12:47 am

Craig28 wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Even so, Erisad, I never expressed a desire for him to stop seeing his little whore. Craig be trippin'.


Your against prostitution in general due to the "suffering and abuse of its victims". The victims being women. Meanwhile this "victim" is ripping me off! Its one sided and thats all I expect from a female regarding this particular issue - the man is the villain! :roll: Ever since women had the power to speak out, you can't shut them up now.

Its the same with the sex industry. Women always moan that female performers have the bad part and are doing it against their wills. Well. women performers make a damm lot more then the male performers in revenue. Whats more, they enjoy what they do.


You have me confused with someone else.


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17 Sep 2010, 3:19 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Ah, me too. I'm the owner of a forum and I guess the drama the last few days over there really got to me. :oops:


Drama on the internet? Don't say :lol: What's your site about? Would you post a link - I could use a distraction.


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17 Sep 2010, 7:32 am

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I'm glad to see women are still each others worst enemies. I was beginning to think WP was a lesbian commune


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17 Sep 2010, 2:30 pm

Sallamandrina wrote:
I'm not sure how much this helps - I think for some men here the problem is that this important part of their life is never or rarely satisfied for reasons they can't control, so they don't have the chance to achieve sexual balance and maturity.


You couldn't have said it better. And there seem to be very few women who find pleasure in providing the "service" of helping a guy achieve that balance.

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But you still get the urges? Is there anything a doctor could do to help you reduce your testosterone levels? To be blunt, this narrows your chances to get a partner, but it's not impossible. I was convinced I'll never get married because I was unable to share my personal space with someone else more than 3 days in a row (I know it's not the same)


I am kind of offended by that suggestion about a doctor taking away the urges, and that solving the problem. There are many ways to be sexual other than having full sexual intercourse, some which I suspect might actually be more fulfilling to me. So to have the idea that sexuality has to be about one thing seems really narrow-minded. And while on your comment, I might find it hard to share my personal space with someone more than 3 hours at a time, never mind 3 days.

So to answer the topic of this thread in general, it seems men and women both make a big deal out of sex in different ways (whether it is too big a deal is a subjective matter). I think men are more bothered by not having an outlet for their sexual feelings, but women make a much bigger deal out of the transition from a platonic relationship to any form of sexual play. If I'm any indication, men would be happy with sexual play being "sprinkled" among all sorts of relationships with women, but women consider anything that requires that a man touch their body sexually to be a big thing that redefines the whole relationship much more seriously.



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17 Sep 2010, 2:45 pm

Craig28 wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Even so, Erisad, I never expressed a desire for him to stop seeing his little whore. Craig be trippin'.


Your against prostitution in general due to the "suffering and abuse of its victims". The victims being women. Meanwhile this "victim" is ripping me off! Its one sided and thats all I expect from a female regarding this particular issue - the man is the villain! :roll: Ever since women had the power to speak out, you can't shut them up now.

Its the same with the sex industry. Women always moan that female performers have the bad part and are doing it against their wills. Well. women performers make a damm lot more then the male performers in revenue. Whats more, they enjoy what they do.


I think the person you were arguing with was Hyperlexian.