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28 Feb 2011, 3:05 pm

I believe in Asp-Z's theory , your instinct will always make you feel wrong when you're single for too long.

And , I think, that being single since ever without any relationship/sexual experience would create a worse feeling that being single for too long yet had adult experiences before.

Not only that would make you feel alone , but also totally rejected.



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28 Feb 2011, 5:36 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.


True, but sometimes you can really have strong feelings for someone at first sight, or in the early stages of knowing them. I guess you have to keep them under your hat until later.


Yes. My previous partner of four years was very much a "love at first sight" cliche moment and I had never experianced anything like that in my life before, nor do I think I will again. It was far too powerful and surreal and also mutually shared.

It's not something most people probably experiance. So I consider myself fortunate to of had the experiance.


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28 Feb 2011, 5:53 pm

Laz wrote:
zen_mistress wrote:
Laz wrote:
spongy wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.


True, but sometimes you can really have strong feelings for someone at first sight, or in the early stages of knowing them. I guess you have to keep them under your hat until later.


Yes. My previous partner of four years was very much a "love at first sight" cliche moment and I had never experianced anything like that in my life before, nor do I think I will again. It was far too powerful and surreal and also mutually shared.

It's not something most people probably experiance. So I consider myself fortunate to of had the experiance.


That's a bit how I feel.


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28 Feb 2011, 6:21 pm

Laz wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.


True, but sometimes you can really have strong feelings for someone at first sight, or in the early stages of knowing them. I guess you have to keep them under your hat until later.


Yes. My previous partner of four years was very much a "love at first sight" cliche moment and I had never experianced anything like that in my life before, nor do I think I will again. It was far too powerful and surreal and also mutually shared.

It's not something most people probably experiance. So I consider myself fortunate to of had the experiance.


Well, you never know, it may happen again. : ) Maybe it wont be as intense but still something pretty good like that could happen.


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28 Feb 2011, 6:30 pm

zen_mistress, Moog and Laz, you guys are so rose-mantic. I hope it strikes you all again. :heart:



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28 Feb 2011, 6:36 pm

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That's a bit how I feel.


That sucks. Have to talk about it over some decent Malt Whiskey sometime methinks.

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Well, you never know, it may happen again. : ) Maybe it wont be as intense but still something pretty good like that could happen.


I think so many things have to fall into place and so many factors and patterns have to correlate together in such an exact match that such situations are few and far between.

I'm not in the right frame of mind to be returning into that kind of companionship at the moment. I need a period in my life of contemplation and re-evaluation before I can think of the possibility. At this moment in time I need to start to reflect outwardly what I internally am feeling and expressing in order to achieve this kartharsis i need a time to myself.


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28 Feb 2011, 6:37 pm

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zen_mistress, Moog and Laz, you guys are so rose-mantic. I hope it strikes you all again. :heart:


Sounds like your proposing a threesome :mrgreen:


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28 Feb 2011, 6:41 pm

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Anyone out there happy about being single?


Nope. :?

My last relationship ended last July. I still miss her. A few dates since then. I've got another one coming up on Saturday. Maybe...

There are a lot of fun things I plan on doing (travel, etc...) and I don't want to go alone. So that's all on hold.

It is nice having someone to talk to when life sucks. I miss the big smile greeting me whenever we got together.

There's one more thing. When I'm single I feel almost obligated to talk to good looking women. Going out becomes a source of anxiety for me because of this. It is nice having someone in my life because I then don't have to deal with this. :? "Oh she's cute... HEY I'm taken! I don't have to talk to her!"

Whatever. This is all messed up. The dating rituals are pretty much in no one's best interest. It is no wonder the vast majority of relationships crash and burn. Men chase and women choose. Ergo: men lie to impress and women are highly skeptical. The entire sorry affair is built on lies, or omissions at the very least. We don't get to know the true nature of the other person until AFTER we become emotionally attached. "Whoops he's abusive/she's a controlling b***h." And vice versa: we reject potential compatible mates on our first dates, based solely on impulse decisions. :?



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28 Feb 2011, 6:52 pm

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Sounds like your proposing a threesome :mrgreen:


Well, if a zen-Moog-Laz sandwich happens in the future, just call me Cupid. My job here is done. :mrgreen:



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28 Feb 2011, 7:01 pm

Poor moog, he's in the middle.


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28 Feb 2011, 7:14 pm

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It is nice having someone to talk to when life sucks. I miss the big smile greeting me whenever we got together.


These are two big things I miss too.



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28 Feb 2011, 7:21 pm

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Poor moog, he's in the middle.


In my experience, sandwiches can go all over the place. You should see my pastrami Subway!

So all is not lost, unless of course Moog insists on just being in the middle the whole time. He may not want to share you, Laz.



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28 Feb 2011, 7:29 pm

Who said he had a choice in the matter?

He better not be getting any funny ideas about human rights or anything


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28 Feb 2011, 7:57 pm

Laz wrote:
Esther wrote:
zen_mistress, Moog and Laz, you guys are so rose-mantic. I hope it strikes you all again. :heart:


Sounds like your proposing a threesome :mrgreen:


Aww, you guys are too far away from me to have a threesome with :( .


:lol:




Na, I wouldnt have a threesome because

1) one person always gets left out,
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2) At least one person is supposed to be a stranger to the others.


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01 Mar 2011, 4:23 am

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I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc

You sane people confuse me. :roll:


:huh:

Yep, that's the correct emotion. "Dating casually" seems an oxymoron; isn't the whole point of dating for you people, to attempt to start a relationship? Or are you just 14 years old? :P

From what I gather she is 19.

As an aside I dont think it has anything to do with age, as long as its clear to both members that it isnt serious from the start.

I believe most relationships nowadays start this way. For example telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


By "dating casually" I mean we are not exclusive, and we're in a stage where we're hanging out/doing activities similar to the way friends would...we might go out on "dates" but we aren't making major compromises in our relationship yet. It's hard to explain in words, it's easier to just do in practice.

When I was 14 years old I believed in something closer to fairytale love, I would have been put off by this idea of "casual" dating :roll:


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01 Mar 2011, 4:31 am

Esther wrote:
zen_mistress, Moog and Laz, you guys are so rose-mantic. I hope it strikes you all again. :heart:


Cheers hon. :D

I wake up this morning and see what you guys have been doing with me in my absence. I thought my bum was a bit sore. :P


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