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26 Mar 2011, 7:15 pm

If I was going to have a non-sexual relationship I would still only have one with a woman



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26 Mar 2011, 7:16 pm

Grisha wrote:
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I don't want a romantic relationship with a woman because there are far more differences between men and women than their genitalia. :?
I've never even gotten along with women, the sole exclusion being my mother, and that's because she's evolutionarily-predisposed to tolerate me.


No need to get defensive, I was just genuinely curious as to what you meant - never really considered the non-physical differences between genders in this context before - it's interesting...


I'm not defensive- I'm sorry if I came across that way.

I would imagine most sexuals aren't cognizant of gender difference in a romantic context,
divorced from sexual attraction. :)


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26 Mar 2011, 7:19 pm

Volodja wrote:
If I was going to have a non-sexual relationship I would still only have one with a woman


Why?

I ask because I'm not very good at articulating the sentiment myself.

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26 Mar 2011, 7:20 pm

Bethie wrote:
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I don't want a romantic relationship with a woman because there are far more differences between men and women than their genitalia. :?
I've never even gotten along with women, the sole exclusion being my mother, and that's because she's evolutionarily-predisposed to tolerate me.


No need to get defensive, I was just genuinely curious as to what you meant - never really considered the non-physical differences between genders in this context before - it's interesting...


I'm not defensive- I'm sorry if I came across that way.

I would imagine most sexuals aren't cognizant of gender difference in a romantic context,
divorced from sexual attraction. :)


Maybe not cognizant, but that doesn't mean the differences aren't meaningful. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have tend to be female for some reason...



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26 Mar 2011, 7:23 pm

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Maybe not cognizant, but that doesn't mean the differences aren't meaningful. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have tend to be female for some reason...


I really can't stand being around women, and I've never met one who liked me, either. >.<
My mom says the way I talk intimidates them.
I just don't "get" them...male mannerisms and communicative styles are much more me.


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26 Mar 2011, 7:26 pm

Bethie wrote:
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Maybe not cognizant, but that doesn't mean the differences aren't meaningful. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have tend to be female for some reason...


I really can't stand being around women, and I've never met one who liked me, either. >.<

I just don't "get" them...male mannerisms and communicative styles are much more me.


I wonder if that's an Aspie thing? NT males tend to be a little more logical (as opposed to emotional) in their thinking...



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26 Mar 2011, 7:37 pm

Bethie wrote:
Volodja wrote:
If I was going to have a non-sexual relationship I would still only have one with a woman


Why?

I ask because I'm not very good at articulating the sentiment myself.

:)


For me it's simply the attraction. I'm not in any way (romantically or sexually) attracted to men. All the things you listed earlier that didn't involve sex (the kissing, cuddling etc) I can only ever imagine doig with a girl, whether we had sex or not



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26 Mar 2011, 7:37 pm

Grisha wrote:
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Maybe not cognizant, but that doesn't mean the differences aren't meaningful. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have tend to be female for some reason...


I really can't stand being around women, and I've never met one who liked me, either. >.<

I just don't "get" them...male mannerisms and communicative styles are much more me.


I wonder if that's an Aspie thing? NT males tend to be a little more logical (as opposed to emotional) in their thinking...


Meh. I don't know that it's more "logical", per se...but I don't feel like I'm navigating a mine field with men.

They (in my opinion) seem to say what they mean and mean what they say, and don't mind that I do the same.

I guess I'm attracted to strong, blunt personalities in general, and I find those rare.


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26 Mar 2011, 7:41 pm

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Meh. I don't know that it's more "logical", per se...but I don't feel like I'm navigating a mine field with men.

They (in my opinion) seem to say what they mean and mean what they say, and don't mind that I do the same.

I guess I'm attracted to strong, blunt personalities in general, and I find those rare.


This is the root of 99% of my problems with romantic relationships - you'll make someone a great girlfriend! :)



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26 Mar 2011, 8:01 pm

Grisha wrote:
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Meh. I don't know that it's more "logical", per se...but I don't feel like I'm navigating a mine field with men.

They (in my opinion) seem to say what they mean and mean what they say, and don't mind that I do the same.

I guess I'm attracted to strong, blunt personalities in general, and I find those rare.


This is the root of 99% of my problems with romantic relationships - you'll make someone a great girlfriend! :)


Right, cause there are SOO many asexy men. :wink:


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26 Mar 2011, 8:08 pm

Bethie wrote:
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Bethie wrote:

Meh. I don't know that it's more "logical", per se...but I don't feel like I'm navigating a mine field with men.

They (in my opinion) seem to say what they mean and mean what they say, and don't mind that I do the same.

I guess I'm attracted to strong, blunt personalities in general, and I find those rare.


This is the root of 99% of my problems with romantic relationships - you'll make someone a great girlfriend! :)


Right, cause there are SOO many asexy men. :wink:


I didn't say it would be easy... :wink:



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26 Mar 2011, 8:15 pm

Eight years old? 8)



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26 Mar 2011, 8:22 pm

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Eight years old? 8)



THE LINE:
You just crossed it.


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26 Mar 2011, 8:53 pm

Bethie wrote:
I agree with Nick.

Also, if a relationship - sex = friendship, then
does friends + "benefits" (sex) = a relationship?



Oh, and...I won't go younger than my own age...I'd prefer someone older, actually.


I happen to agree with Kick, as well. You do not need a sexual component to have a romantic relationship.

And no, friends having sex doesn't automatically make a romantic relationship. It really depends on the people in the arrangement.


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26 Mar 2011, 8:56 pm

Bethie wrote:
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Eight years old? 8)



THE LINE:
You just crossed it.


Hehe.



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26 Mar 2011, 8:59 pm

5264443377776444844 wrote:
Bethie wrote:
5264443377776444844 wrote:
Eight years old? 8)



THE LINE:
You just crossed it.


Hehe.


No.


:?


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