Maaan, the friendzone is tough!

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I don't know if I posted her already or not but I'll say what I think. Why is the friendzone so bad? What's wrong with having more friends? More friends means you have more connections, which can lead to a relationship with one of their friends or acquaintances. Do guys who complain about the friend zone so focused on sex that they don't value the girl if she doesn't want to go out with him? That's kind of sad then. I don't get it. *shrug*

Because we romanticize and idealize she in the friend zone as the "perfect" girlfriend. She tends to be someone we're very physically attracted to and we subconsciously convince ourselves she's perfect all around. We see a glimpse of what we want and the thought of not getting it is very scary to us. Most of us have never had a girlfriend and can't comprehend the fact that there *could* be someone else out there.

That's an unhealthy mindset to have. Humans are imperfect by nature and putting them up on a pedestal is only asking to get hurt. I know it's difficult to get over someone but it's a necessary part of life. If I never got over being "friend zoned" by the first guy that rejected me when I was 14, then I wouldn't have had the experiences that made me who I am today.

Met a fantastic, smart, beautiful girl through OKCupid. Went on one date, and then she said she wanted to stay friends. We still hangout occasionally. In the meantime she's gotten a BF. I just saw a picture of him, and he looks like friggin drug addict, with this addled smile I'd love to punch out.

I've said in the past how I get mad when I ask a friend out, and subsequently loose the friend because she avoids me. So I'm trying not to be a hypocrite, and be a good friend to her. And I'm gonna stick it out in the hopes she dumps that loser, or he dumps her so I can swoop in.

But man, would I like to do some grievous bodily harm to that tool for getting he when I have so much more to offer her, and when we have so much in common. We'd be perfect together, and I just don't think I'll find anyone like her.

And if she doesn't want me in spite of all we have in common, there really is no one for me...