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04 Aug 2011, 8:01 pm

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I am an Aspie guy who barely graduated from high school, but a couple of years ago I was a finalist for the Wall Street Journal's "Best on the Street" award, and now I own a successful business that is extremely well-suited to my AS.

One of my role models, John Elder Robinson, didn't even graduate from high school.


And I have a master's degree and am a complete failure at life. Education really means nothing.

I love that some of the people telling me to be positive are themselves only in their teens or early twenties. Let's see if you still feel positive when you're 28 and every girl has rejected you.


I'm sure you noticed my age, and I'm still getting rejected (a lot) - but that just means my love life sucks, the rest of it is pretty good - I have no real reason to complain and I am just as single as you are...



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04 Aug 2011, 9:41 pm

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Let's see if you still feel positive when you're 28 and every girl has rejected you.


Meh, maybe I'm positive because rejection hasn't exactly been my problem. Of course, maybe rejection hasn't been my problem because I'm positive... :wink:



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05 Aug 2011, 8:52 am

SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
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I am an Aspie guy who barely graduated from high school, but a couple of years ago I was a finalist for the Wall Street Journal's "Best on the Street" award, and now I own a successful business that is extremely well-suited to my AS.

One of my role models, John Elder Robinson, didn't even graduate from high school.


And I have a master's degree and am a complete failure at life. Education really means nothing.

I love that some of the people telling me to be positive are themselves only in their teens or early twenties. Let's see if you still feel positive when you're 28 and every girl has rejected you.


I agree. Let's see how positive you are if you get to nearly 29 (in my case), never a girlfriend ever, and all women ignore, humiliate, and avoid you



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05 Aug 2011, 8:57 am

Adam82 wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
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I am an Aspie guy who barely graduated from high school, but a couple of years ago I was a finalist for the Wall Street Journal's "Best on the Street" award, and now I own a successful business that is extremely well-suited to my AS.

One of my role models, John Elder Robinson, didn't even graduate from high school.


And I have a master's degree and am a complete failure at life. Education really means nothing.

I love that some of the people telling me to be positive are themselves only in their teens or early twenties. Let's see if you still feel positive when you're 28 and every girl has rejected you.


I'm sure you've heard this before, but why don't you try to view "women" as people rather than potential girlfriends? They probably wouldn't avoid you as much if they didn't think you were on the "prowl"...
I agree. Let's see how positive you are if you get to nearly 29 (in my case), never a girlfriend ever, and all women ignore, humiliate, and avoid you



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06 Aug 2011, 10:55 am

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Do you ladies think you're actually hurting me by saying "No wonder you're single. You have a bad attitude. I would never date you"? Nice try, but you can't hurt me anymore than I already have been. Oh no...you're not going to date me, as if any of you would've before I went crazy.

Oh yeah, that's right, I was born with a negative attitude according to you experts. It's completely impossible that I developed one after being used and abused emotionally.



I love this quote.

Clueless women think having a bad attitude is the reason I don't have a date or friends.

check out my qualities from another thread:

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1. I'm dumb and a bit slow. I dropped out in the 9th when I was 16, and I was in special ed most of the time. I have nothing more than a fifth grade education so I have no prospects for a good future. I can barely do simple fractions., which is pathetic since I'm 24.

2. I'm extremely ugly and poor. Me, my grandma, and my sis live off SSI and foodstamps

3. I take no more than probably a dozen baths a year, in fact I haven't bathe since march 1st this year. I also have fungi growing on my skin

4. I play video games and watch anime all the time. Most people (idiots) consider that negative.

5. I have no friends, except for people I talk to online, but since I"m so bad at conversation I have no real connection with them.

Be honest. Most people I come in to contact with don't want to be around me for an extended period of time because of me being slow/annoying and or dumb. It's been that way my whole life.

I've missed out on a lot of things like prom, having a gf, road trips, friends, going snow boarding etc. I feel like I was cheated out enjoying things like that because of the way I look and act. it isn't fair.

I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life in poverty. There is no hope for me.



Yah I think having a bad attitude would be way down on the list of reasons why women would never go out with me.



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06 Aug 2011, 11:18 am

It's just about numbers, eventually you'll find a girl who accepts you and loves you for who you are. Keep trying. Triumph sometimes comes by way of lots of sacrifice.



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06 Aug 2011, 4:49 pm

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Do you ladies think you're actually hurting me by saying "No wonder you're single. You have a bad attitude. I would never date you"? Nice try, but you can't hurt me anymore than I already have been. Oh no...you're not going to date me, as if any of you would've before I went crazy.

Oh yeah, that's right, I was born with a negative attitude according to you experts. It's completely impossible that I developed one after being used and abused emotionally.



I love this quote.

Clueless women think having a bad attitude is the reason I don't have a date or friends.

check out my qualities from another thread:

Quote:
1. I'm dumb and a bit slow. I dropped out in the 9th when I was 16, and I was in special ed most of the time. I have nothing more than a fifth grade education so I have no prospects for a good future. I can barely do simple fractions., which is pathetic since I'm 24.

2. I'm extremely ugly and poor. Me, my grandma, and my sis live off SSI and foodstamps

3. I take no more than probably a dozen baths a year, in fact I haven't bathe since march 1st this year. I also have fungi growing on my skin

4. I play video games and watch anime all the time. Most people (idiots) consider that negative.

5. I have no friends, except for people I talk to online, but since I"m so bad at conversation I have no real connection with them.

Be honest. Most people I come in to contact with don't want to be around me for an extended period of time because of me being slow/annoying and or dumb. It's been that way my whole life.

I've missed out on a lot of things like prom, having a gf, road trips, friends, going snow boarding etc. I feel like I was cheated out enjoying things like that because of the way I look and act. it isn't fair.

I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life in poverty. There is no hope for me.



Yah I think having a bad attitude would be way down on the list of reasons why women would never go out with me.


Your bad attitude is the cause of a lot of that, and a good attitude can help you have success with the rest of that.



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06 Aug 2011, 7:20 pm

What has a good attitude gotten me in the past? nowhere. All the years growing up in my teens being optimistic and hopeful that people would accept me and be real friends with me if I dressed like them, listened to the same music, and mimicked their behavior.

IT GOT ME NOWHERE

People still treated me like s**t, mocked me, shunned me, used me.

Now look were I'm at now

Just turned 25, poor, ugly, uneducated, no friends, no GFs, and I'm a hermit that's been locked up in his house for the better part of the last 4 years.

My social life revolves around random people on message boards and video game chats. For all the s**t I've put up with I deserve to have a bad attitude.



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06 Aug 2011, 7:27 pm

MR20 wrote:
What has a good attitude gotten me in the past? nowhere. All the years growing up in my teens being optimistic and hopeful that people would accept me and be real friends with me if I dressed like them, listened to the same music, and mimicked their behavior.

IT GOT ME NOWHERE

People still treated me like sh**, mocked me, shunned me, used me.

Now look were I'm at now

Just turned 25, poor, ugly, uneducated, no friends, no GFs, and I'm a hermit that's been locked up in his house for the better part of the last 4 years.

My social life revolves around random people on message boards and video game chats. For all the sh** I've put up with I deserve to have a bad attitude.


I wouldn't depend so much on others' approval.



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06 Aug 2011, 7:56 pm

MR20 wrote:
What has a good attitude gotten me in the past? nowhere. All the years growing up in my teens being optimistic and hopeful that people would accept me and be real friends with me if I dressed like them, listened to the same music, and mimicked their behavior.

IT GOT ME NOWHERE

People still treated me like sh**, mocked me, shunned me, used me.

Now look were I'm at now

Just turned 25, poor, ugly, uneducated, no friends, no GFs, and I'm a hermit that's been locked up in his house for the better part of the last 4 years.

My social life revolves around random people on message boards and video game chats. For all the sh** I've put up with I deserve to have a bad attitude.


Teenagers aren't know to be the nicest people in the world. I suggest you start bathing every day and have that fungal infection treated. No one cares if you're ugly as far as friends go and many people won't care if you're a bit slow.



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24 Aug 2011, 11:00 am

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I don't know what to say except saying that I'm sorry about this. Go to the gym, make some muscles. Women like strong muscular guys. In all circumstances, never stop improving your physical appearance.

I think that the most important thing is to learn to love yourself first because even if you are not in a relationship with a woman, you are still in an inner relationship with yourself.

The greatest love of all is learning to love yourself first.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYzlVDlE72w&ob=av2e



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24 Aug 2011, 11:38 am

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I think that the most important thing is to learn to love yourself first because even if you are not in a relationship with a woman, you are still in an inner relationship with yourself.

The greatest love of all is learning to love yourself first.


+1,000,000

This is more important than everything else put together, because without it, nothing else you do matters.

Much easier said than done, though...



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24 Aug 2011, 12:11 pm

Calm down. Take a deep breath. Women are evil at times. Look at all the women who have hurt you before, identify why they did it, and be wary of them in the future. A lot of times I have guy friends who keep getting in serious trouble because of the women they're with, but when push comes to shove they LIKE those types of women.

Women are not a broad, generalized category. Believe it or not they're just like everyone else. And out there are the women who don't want to be deceived or abandoned again just like you. And we've all just got to stumble around a bit before we trip over the right feet for us.

So hit the gym. Go out with good friends. Rebound around a bit. And then emerge from this a 100% honest-to-yourself individual who is ready to be in a relationship and then see what the world has to offer.



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24 Aug 2011, 12:16 pm

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But when push comes to shove they LIKE those types of women.


The story of my life... :roll: :wink:



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24 Aug 2011, 1:21 pm

rasol wrote:
I think that the most important thing is to learn to love yourself first because even if you are not in a relationship with a woman, you are still in an inner relationship with yourself.

The greatest love of all is learning to love yourself first.


But if you love yourself above all others, doesn't that open the door to infidelity, meaningless relationships, and the like? Because loving yourself is the very definition of narcissism...



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24 Aug 2011, 1:32 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
rasol wrote:
I think that the most important thing is to learn to love yourself first because even if you are not in a relationship with a woman, you are still in an inner relationship with yourself.

The greatest love of all is learning to love yourself first.


But if you love yourself above all others, doesn't that open the door to infidelity, meaningless relationships, and the like? Because loving yourself is the very definition of narcissism...


Actually Narcissism is more like "lusting" after yourself - love has nothing to do with it - it's being infatuated with your image more than your actual self.

If you think you are a great catch, then it's probable that others will to. If you think your a pathetic loser...I'm sure you understand...