06 Nov 2011, 3:31 pm
^i'd date someone who couldn't spell if they were nice. everyone moans about being judged in a department they're weak in, but then go about judging other people in other ways 
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian has the talent to find partners anywhere and anytime, even if she's thrown in some rainforest.
06 Nov 2011, 3:36 pm
OneStepBeyond wrote:
^i'd date someone who couldn't spell if they were nice. everyone moans about being judged in a department they're weak in, but then go about judging other people in other ways
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian has the talent to find partners anywhere and anytime, even if she's thrown in some rainforest.
My priorities are not the same as yours. There's no right and no wrong, just different things matter to each of us. I don't see that as a bad thing. As a writer, I place a high value on literacy skills.
06 Nov 2011, 3:43 pm
06 Nov 2011, 4:55 pm
LexF wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
^i'd date someone who couldn't spell if they were nice. everyone moans about being judged in a department they're weak in, but then go about judging other people in other ways
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian has the talent to find partners anywhere and anytime, even if she's thrown in some rainforest.
My priorities are not the same as yours. There's no right and no wrong, just different things matter to each of us. I don't see that as a bad thing. As a writer, I place a high value on literacy skills.
I'm a writer, but I realize that some very intelligent people have issues with online communication. (my sister is a perfect example) It's not so cut and dry for me.
As for my OkCupid success so far... I'm getting a few initial interests but then they stop sending me messages quite early on so far. It's not terribly important for me to find a partner, though, so I'm not bothered by it. Fact is, I have no burning desire to couple right now. I just felt I was ready to be open to something if a promising relationship showed up.
Whether or not OkCupid will be the source of such a relationship or not is irrelevant. I suppose one could describe me as indifferent.
It'll happen when/where/how it happens.
06 Nov 2011, 4:57 pm
06 Nov 2011, 6:41 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy. 
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Yes. I got one at some point. I got a lot of, "hey baby, u so pretty. Wanna hook up?" No. No I don't. :/
06 Nov 2011, 6:57 pm
06 Nov 2011, 11:43 pm
08 Nov 2011, 4:40 pm
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy.
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Yes. I got one at some point. I got a lot of, "hey baby, u so pretty. Wanna hook up?" No. No I don't. :/
Sounds about right so far. Only a couple of people that messaged me have bothered to mention anything relevant.
08 Nov 2011, 7:55 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy.
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Yes. I got one at some point. I got a lot of, "hey baby, u so pretty. Wanna hook up?" No. No I don't. :/
Sounds about right so far. Only a couple of people that messaged me have bothered to mention anything relevant.
Right. That's a common problem with online dating. Few people seem to bother to actually read profiles. :/
08 Nov 2011, 8:09 pm
08 Nov 2011, 8:20 pm
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy.
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Yes. I got one at some point. I got a lot of, "hey baby, u so pretty. Wanna hook up?" No. No I don't. :/
Sounds about right so far. Only a couple of people that messaged me have bothered to mention anything relevant.
Right. That's a common problem with online dating. Few people seem to bother to actually read profiles. :/
It's true. I get e-mails that say, "I read your profile and I really liked it! Where are you and what do you do?"
I tell them, "If you actually read my profile, you would already know that."
They say, "Tell me anyway."
End of convo.
On the other hand, speaking as a guy who has read thousands of profiles, I have to sat that 99% of them are a complete waste of time. They're either empty ("I don't know what to write here," "Anything you want to know you'll have to ask"), or just strings of cliches, or so poorly written I can't make out what they're trying to say.
08 Nov 2011, 8:28 pm
LexF wrote:
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Erisad wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy.
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?
Yes. I got one at some point. I got a lot of, "hey baby, u so pretty. Wanna hook up?" No. No I don't. :/
Sounds about right so far. Only a couple of people that messaged me have bothered to mention anything relevant.
Right. That's a common problem with online dating. Few people seem to bother to actually read profiles. :/
It's true. I get e-mails that say, "I read your profile and I really liked it! Where are you and what do you do?"
I tell them, "If you actually read my profile, you would already know that."
They say, "Tell me anyway."
End of convo.
On the other hand, speaking as a guy who has read thousands of profiles, I have to sat that 99% of them are a complete waste of time. They're either empty ("I don't know what to write here," "Anything you want to know you'll have to ask"), or just strings of cliches, or so poorly written I can't make out what they're trying to say.
Well, if they don't have any details or interests down, then why would you message them in the first place? You'd have no idea what her personality or interests are? She could also be a dude in real life.
08 Nov 2011, 8:34 pm
08 Nov 2011, 8:47 pm
OneStepBeyond wrote:
i think, in defence of the people who send lousy impersonal first messages, it must be really frustrating to put effort into an interesting, thoughtful, witty introductory message only to have it ignored or replied with 'hi asl lol'. maybe the crappy first messages are just like an extra filter for them, rather than an actual attempt to get to know you?
Perhaps. I've always put a lot of effort into the first message. Then again, I studied writing so that's to be expected.
08 Nov 2011, 8:50 pm
Erisad wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
i think, in defence of the people who send lousy impersonal first messages, it must be really frustrating to put effort into an interesting, thoughtful, witty introductory message only to have it ignored or replied with 'hi asl lol'. maybe the crappy first messages are just like an extra filter for them, rather than an actual attempt to get to know you?
Perhaps. I've always put a lot of effort into the first message. Then again, I studied writing so that's to be expected.
but from the sounds of it men send out lots more initial messages than women? so any male you contact is going to be more likely to respond, so a nice lady message has less chance of going to waste?
