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Zinnel
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08 Dec 2011, 4:11 pm

smudge wrote:

Tequila wrote:

smudge wrote:

Men don't like drama queens like me, and men back off if you're needy in any way.

I think that's poppycock. It all depends on the kind of neediness and the circumstances and characters of each person. Basically it's a very grey area with a lot of variables. Some men have the "rescuer" complex that is hard for them to shake off for instance.

I don't nag. I say things once or twice.

As for neediness...I thought it was well known for women to "love too much" - see books like "Why Men Love b*****s" (not the real meaning of the word).

I just have to be especially careful as I'm seen as a needy person by men AND women. I deal with it by not talking to people when I'm upset/anxious.

out of curiousity has someone called u needy
or do u just view urself as a needy person?

and seriously theres a book called "Why Men Love b*****s"?

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08 Dec 2011, 4:37 pm

Zinnel wrote:

smudge wrote:

out of curiousity has someone called u needy
or do u just view urself as a needy person?

and seriously theres a book called "Why Men Love b*****s"?

Yes, I've been called needy. I don't view myself as a needy person, but I know I appear it.

As I said - the title doesn't represent the true meaning of the word. The author makes it out as a "Babe In Total Control of Herself". It's honestly a really good book. The sequel is OK, there's a few things you can learn. The first book helped me to deal with people generally, although I'd already figured some things out before I read it. Like, I used to be completely obsessed with finding a boyfriend, but I grew out of that. I still know women who are like that. The problem with self-help books is that people read the advice and apply their own rules on top of that. That book for example says not to change your interests or who you are to impress a man. My sister would follow rules such as delaying phone calls, yet she would still go out of her way to impress her boyfriend, including changing who she appears to be to people, in a really fake way. God, she makes me sick.

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08 Dec 2011, 5:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

So you're not boring anymore.

Very well timed barb. I'm sure he thought it was as hilarious as you did. FTR, I never called anyone boring. Nor ugly, fat, old, inept, et al.
I would really appreciate it if my personal life could be personal.

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08 Dec 2011, 5:31 pm

Fullofstars wrote:

FTR, I never called anyone boring. Nor ugly, fat, old, inept, et al.

It didn't come across that you did. I think Grisha did it as an indirect way of getting you to reassure him.

As for the rich guy thing - FOB likes to mess around with me cos I DO want a rich man!

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08 Dec 2011, 6:11 pm

smudge wrote:

I think Grisha did it as an indirect way of getting you to reassure him.

Well that worked out pretty well, didn't it? :roll:

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08 Dec 2011, 6:25 pm

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It's really just when he starts naming the trees endemic to his neighborhood by their Latin names in reverse alphabetical order that he gets boring... but then I just imagine rolling around naked in his piles of cash, and I remember why I like him. :roll:

I'm loving your posts here.

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08 Dec 2011, 7:09 pm

Allo, honey.

Grish? What the hell? why calling that late?

Honey, am I boring?

Oh not again Grish, NO hun, you're not boring at all!

But sweetie, what if I will be boring for you one day? What if you don't like my tree listing anymore? I am so worried hun!

Oh, don't worry my teddy, as long I am swimming every morning in your cash pool, I will ALWAYS love you and find you exciting!

Thanks honey, I love you too.

Me love you three hun, now just forget about those silly ideas and give me a goodnight phone kiss before bed, you have a meeting tomorrow morning, remember?

**mowwwwaah**

***mwwwahhh***

Umm, Allo? hello? Excuse me?

HUH???!

Grish!! Who's that woman with you??! !! ! What's going on???

Hun! It's not like that! she's like entered our phone call somehow!

Ooops....well, you can say I am sort of a phone operator...well I can't explain more, but i've overheard your conversation and heard something about a 'cash pool'. I Just wanted to know where's that? any fees to enter it?

I am calling the police now, hun. She's spying on us.

Yeah, you better do that and you better to do it quick.

Uh-oh ***hangs-up***