Men, Love and Physical Attraction towards Women

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I wasn't disagreeing with you

Not exactly cannons, but fireworks coming out of the breast area.
I happened to see the video by mistake one day and was laughing the entire time.
It was worse than the "chest monkeys" that they had in Tin Man.

Yes.
Clothing enhance appearance. A beautiful/hot woman is beautiful in almost anything and is sexy in sneakers even. In fact, well thought "comfort" clothes can look very cool.

Stepping away from the OFF TOPIC mine field of weight issues, here is my advice to the OP.

First, as posts here indicate, there is no one thing that is attractive to all men. With any of this, we are going to be talking about how far you cast your net, but nothing absolute.

Do most men seem to like the way women look in heels? It would seem the answer is yes, but how much they like it varies a lot, and there is no rule that you can never get a guy if you never don a pair of heels.

But there is also nothing wrong with giving in a little to societies constructs in order to help get yourself noticed. In my experience, most women do just that, put out a little false advertising simply because it seems to be expected. But I really want to empahsize the concept "a little" because if you go too far it serves no one. Ultimately, you have to be in a relationship as your real self, and not a constructed image.

Finding the right balance on that can be difficult. If you do nothing, you look uninterested in attracting men, and men (speaking very generally here) are likely to honor that projection, and not try to connect with you romantically. If you do too much, you send out the wrong signals in the other direction. The trick is to maximize your attractiveness while still projecting a sense of who you are and what you like.

As a friend of mine once commented when I ran into her in a make store during lunch hour, because we'd both forgotten our essentials that day, "you have to try." And it is true, the world expects you to look like you tried.

I think, in the exact debate at issue, I'd shop for some low heels that you like and feel pretty in. Just try some on, look around, be open to it, but don't promise your sister anything and don't buy any if you really hate them all. Just try going a little out of your comfort zone and see how it feels. You could surprise yourself. There is nothing wrong with feeling pretty through the tools of socially acceptable construct. But it only works if it does, in fact, make you feel pretty.

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I do have one more thought for you.

You'll find this funny, but I don't like wearing sneakers. I always get heal blisters from running shoes, I had no idea why, so I stopped buying them, living mostly in slides. But without a decent pair of sneakers, there are things I really can't do, like hike. So for my birthday my husband gave me a gift certificate to a premium running store, saying they were known for their service, and they would help me find sneakers I would actually like. And the amazing thing is, they actually did. I was afraid they would kick me out of the store, being as out of shape as I am, but they were perfect. They were consummate professionals and got me my shoes, and they don't give me blisters!

So, you need the same type of thing for you and some feminine heals. A store that knows how to work with a wide variety of customers and actually get them to leave happy. Where I live, the store I would suggest would be Nordstrom; I am sure you have something comparable. Yes, you pay for service via higher merchandise prices, but here is the deal to make with your mom and sister: you'll wear heals IF you can go to a store that offers good service and a wide selection, and a professional is able to help you find some heals that you actually LIKE and might feel good wearing. A good store can do that for you. They'll listen to you, experiment, and find something that you will want to wear.

Pretty sure a little boy didn't have a "bra cannon".

Are you talking about Firework?

Yeah. Always wondered why people seem to equate chest area with boobs.

In the video, I think it's supposed to be coming from the "heart" of the person, but it just looks wrong.
I think it was because of a Japanese movie I once saw that....I really won't go into here....but it primed my brain for already thinking the wrong thing about the music video.

OK, then. Panty dagger.

Hey, you, we're not in the adult autism section...

Besides, that Japanese movie primed my brain for a different kind of crotch weapon than that. I need to poll a couple friends to see if any of them remember that movie. It was so horrible it was great - one of those kinds.

Isn't this thread supposed to be about external clothing, not internal weaponry? The high-heeled shoes were specifically mentioned by the OP.

(Yes, I'm being a kill-joy.)

Found this, didn't read every page but skimmed it and agree with every point, which explains pretty much everything:

http://search.bwh.harvard.edu/concourse ... exEcon.pdf

I didn't even read the OP. Sorry etc.

I can think of a lot of things that I'd associate with attractiveness before heels. Psychologically and expressively femininity seems to go hand in hand with pensiveness. Also if you're looking for other things to wear that are 'hawt', get a pair of knee-high fashion boots or two for the winter, for summer I don't know - I'd figure the right platform slippers would get it done just as well.

Those nice boots women have do lend a certain appeal, I agree. They can also look sort of cool/sharp/smart/whatever you want to call it. Maybe it's the Canadian in me, but I limit that observation to winter boots; I think long boots in summertime look a bit odd. But that's just me.

Also, printed Wellingtons, depending on the design. Stuff like this is pleasant and catches the eye:

It might sound weird, but I like shoes more than is normal. I collect trainers/sneakers and I like girls with good taste in shoes.
It has actually been the difference between a first and second date.

Interesting. I never considered myself a shoe buff (no pun intended) but do know a fair bit about them and while I don't expect a girl/woman to wear specific stuff I do find things like those plimsol / pumps and heels and flipflops / sandals more attractive esp if they are feminine looking ( a given with heels lol ).

Does anyone else find that you don't actually have any sort of ideal at all? You can describe an example here and there of something, but there are a thousand alternatives that are just as appealing? Not just looks but personality too?

I'll say sometimes that I find women who dress casually or in male type of clothes appealing, but then ... I'll see a particular woman in a very feminine style and it works too? Like there are no rules that can possibly be described?

Also I would ask the same of women - is this true for you too?