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10 Aug 2012, 12:10 am

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For all the women complaining about abs shots and how it wouldnt attract their type of woman, then maybe we arent trying to attract the type of woman who complains about such dumb things


There's a difference in the way you go about it though.

If you just post a photo of your abs and you are on a dating site.... I don't know, there's something about that which seems a bit strange to me.

If however, you post a photo of you surfing (or doing martial arts, etc) or other such hobby and your abs happen to be visible, that seems to be more platable. At least you are showing something that is important to you, and you are also showing why. If people don't get the why, I can understand why they might be a bit put off or at least unsure about it.


the issue is not one of being put off by it, its one of speaking in a way trying to be superior because you dont like it. Here let me reverse the scenario.

I certainly dont even bother reading profiles of women with shots showing cleavage. Because they wwant to attract another type of man. Im not that type of man, so Ill just ignore you even without bothering to look at what you say or to even find anything about you simply because i see over 1/8th of your boobs in a public photo.



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10 Aug 2012, 12:13 am

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Oh - my bad. I don't see it as superior or inferior, they just different preferences.


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10 Aug 2012, 12:31 am

Kjas wrote:
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Oh - my bad. I don't see it as superior or inferior, they just different preferences.

theres no issue with preferences, if anything preferences are encouraged



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10 Aug 2012, 2:48 am

MXH wrote:
Kjas wrote:
MXH wrote:
For all the women complaining about abs shots and how it wouldnt attract their type of woman, then maybe we arent trying to attract the type of woman who complains about such dumb things


There's a difference in the way you go about it though.

If you just post a photo of your abs and you are on a dating site.... I don't know, there's something about that which seems a bit strange to me.

If however, you post a photo of you surfing (or doing martial arts, etc) or other such hobby and your abs happen to be visible, that seems to be more platable. At least you are showing something that is important to you, and you are also showing why. If people don't get the why, I can understand why they might be a bit put off or at least unsure about it.


the issue is not one of being put off by it, its one of speaking in a way trying to be superior because you dont like it. Here let me reverse the scenario.

I certainly dont even bother reading profiles of women with shots showing cleavage. Because they wwant to attract another type of man. Im not that type of man, so Ill just ignore you even without bothering to look at what you say or to even find anything about you simply because i see over 1/8th of your boobs in a public photo.

I have no problem with what you said there about the cleavage thing, as in, it doesn't make you sound like you think you are superior. Where have I made myself sound like I think I'm superior? I hope I haven't, because that was never the intent. Men complain often about "typical women", I hear it from many. Nothing wrong with trying to suggest what the opinion of an "atypical woman" might be, IMO.



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10 Aug 2012, 7:40 am

my okc profile got delete for some reason, i can't figure it out :(



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10 Aug 2012, 9:56 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
my okc profile got delete for some reason, i can't figure it out :(


Odd, it could be that someone reported you or you got reported for bulk spamming if you are using the same line.



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10 Aug 2012, 9:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
my okc profile got delete for some reason, i can't figure it out :(


Odd, it could be that someone reported you or you got reported for bulk spamming if you are using the same line.



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10 Aug 2012, 11:20 am

Wolfheart wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
my okc profile got delete for some reason, i can't figure it out :(


Odd, it could be that someone reported you or you got reported for bulk spamming if you are using the same line.


it doesn't even have that nb of locals



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10 Aug 2012, 12:50 pm

hmm wait, there was that israeli user i insulted in some dispute 2 days ago loooool