Describe your love life.

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it's where you have a loving mate that you also love, or it's where you get to have sex with people and have couples fun in general. a regular life, IOW.

Got it! wish me luck!

luck duly wished

It's going pretty good with my current girlfriend. I have two exes thou. My anxiety & OCD caused me to screw those relationships up. I'm taking a couple meds for those things which will hopefully keep me from screwing this relationship up to. I also have a huge crush obsession with a celeb that's being going on for like 7/8 years.

Every so often I find someone who seems interested in me, but then it never goes any further.

That is my love life in a nutshell.

That's been my experience trying to get a girlfriend offline & on different sites. What they were really interested in was just friends & they kept complaining to me about guys they liked or were with or how they wanted a boyfriend while never giving me a chance. I also had a couple get upset cuz they thought I was gay. One women made work more difficult for me till she left to join the marines.

We don't even become friends though. I'm too distant in my personality. Guys find me attractive but are never comfortable enough with me just to become my friend and talk away like a friend would. That would be nice in a way. At least I would have some male company.

It would be nice if girls found me attractive. None do though. And I can't make friends. This is a not a helpful combination for trying to find a partner.

^^^what is worse if one constantly POs people without understanding why or how to prevent it.

I tend to piss people off on the internet a lot. In the real world, I just baffle people and become a laughing stock. Or get ignored. Either way, it's not ideal.

My social life barely exists, it's no wonder that my love life would be so...dry most of the times.

^^^at least it is not ALL of the times.

They see you as a friend, only, because you let them treat you that way. A 'potential boyfriend' would never allow her to put him in that category. You are allowing yourself to be eliminated from her potential boyfriend list. You are submissive beta. She is using you. You're kind of a gay friend, who she can ask about guys.
Get out of that friend zone now, and if you are lucky she might put you back on the 'potential boyfriend' list.

Could it not just be that they aren't attracted to him?

Also, he has a girlfriend so your point is wasted on him anyway.

The friendzone is a myth, in a way.

You can not make someone attracted to you if they are not.

In my experiences first impressions count and plenty of N.T.'s have reported anecdotally that they pretty much decide their opinion of someone 'within the first few seconds of meeting them' and whether or not this person would ever get into their pants.

I do this too.

I think it is biologically inherent and we all instantly sub-conciously analyze and size ourselves up to others.

If someone isn't attracted to you and only wants to be your friend from the get-go, there's no chance.

At best you can AVOID the friendzone by expressing your mutual interest in someone that is ALREADY attracted to you, first.

It is also in my experiences attraction can fade - you can lose interest in someone overtime and/or if your feelings aren't reciprocated.

So, yeah, it's still possible to 'end up' in the 'friendzone', as it's happened to me - people who were even slightly interested back and would have given me a chance had they been single or other reasons now can not be attracted to me.

I guess one has to be able to make friends with anybody in the first place, before one can attract a lover.