Why do I rarely get any attention on dating sites?

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Nobody has argued that, but in this thread we are dealing with creating attraction. Bot yet there on picking a good woman and sustaining attraction or how to present oneself. All of that is for another thread.

I have a question for you. Around how many okc questions did you answer and how did you answer them? As the only things in okc that you can see are the profile pic, match %, and username. I already know the pic, the username is iffy, but have no clue on the questions

As for the questions, I answered them truthfully.

Here's some of the questions I got..

How do you feel about kids?

Kids are precious - they love me and I love them!
They're okay, but keep the unruly ones at bay.
God, how revolting. *shudder*
I'm indifferent.

Explanation
I love the playful energy kids have and haha, excuse for a Disney or Shrek movie marathon!

Do you like to cuddle?

Yes.
No.
Sometimes - It depends.

Explanation
I invented snuggles! and I'm working on something called Cuggles which is a snuggle and a cuddle combined.

Would you--for any reason--read your mate's email or pose as him/her online, without his/her knowledge and permission?

Yes, they shouldn't be keeping secrets anyway.
Yes, I'd be too curious not to.
Only if I suspected them of something.
No, I'd trust them and that would be invasive.

explanation
No, without trust, relationships are pointless. I wouldn't be in the relationship in the first place if I didn't trust the person.

I think it's important to answer questions that are relevant, if the question doesn't hold any relevance, it is definitely best to tick irrelevant and focus on the questions that are most important.

I honestly do not know how to sell myself well, that and my carrying on a convo is tough for me.

You didn't have to say it like that. There are days where I act normal and days where I feel desperate, I KNOW. I'm still fighting with myself to act more normal, back to a time I was before this notion controlled me.

I haven't gotten one 'bite' as it were, on OKCupid......... Yet.

I'm now thinking I should stay off these sites for a while, swallow my pride and try it in the real world.

and i'm still quite angry, frustrated on how another girl lead me on OkCupid

None because I have a high standard of what i look for in a woman. And that as a person I have not been ready to date. Even turning down oportunities for sex with attractive women because I dont have my personal requirements to engage in such activities. Its also why i dont message girls. My dating profiles are just experiments for when im ready to enter the field for real. And that said I focus all of my energy in creating attention only through real life. Because I dont feel like playing the silly games that are so common on dating sites, all the hidding of things and twisting them.

How many have you met for a second date?

they are b*****s for wasting my time. I usually got messaged first with my old profile and the ones i liked i would chat with and the theyd give me their number an when it was tie to meet they'd come up with bs..and say ''gl with your search; as if it was no s**t but of their ass that they got my hopes up.
I agree with mxh though, wolfheart's profile is dumb. actually did get one girl who messaged me saying it made her laugh...but she probably like my pics...since i'm an american and so is she.

you said the profile gets you girls who initiate messages..so my personality shouldnt nattem bc I nver got first messages to show my personality through.

Have you ever heard the phrase: "Quality, not quantity?"

I'm sorry if it came off as rude, I didn't mean it that way, but I'm sick and tired of reading threads about guys like you who desperately want a girlfriend but then are picky as hell about who they'll even give a chance... And there's nothing wrong with being picky, but you're being picky about stupid things. You can't deny someone a chance for a folly that you yourself have. That's ridiculous. And you should be picky about WHO someone is, not just what they look like(not that i'm saying YOU absolutely are, but a lot of people are, and that's the only thing they're picky about. It makes no sense). There's a reason they say "beggars can't be choosers."

I'm not saying you should act normal... Normal is a meaningless term because we're all different. You shouldn't act "normal." "Normal" is boring. I'm just saying, since you're desperate and lonely, you should give someone else who is also lonely and desperate a chance. What do you have to lose? It might not work out, but you won't know until you at least give them a chance. And for all you know, you might discover the love of your life because of it. Even if you don't, I think you'd at least feel A LITTLE better that someone actually desires you. Then you won't feel so lonely or desperate. And the more you go out with women and get to know their company, the more comfortable and less awkward it becomes, which then makes you not seem so desperate or lonely to others in the future, which makes it easier to talk to them.

The first date I ever went on, I was nervous as hell. But by the time I met my current girlfriend, of course I was still a little nervous, but I was used to the whole initial meeting thing to where I was mostly indifferent about it. If it worked out, great. If not, oh well, then off I go to give a different girl a try.

lol im surprised to hear u say that since you always say that people should give the lower quality girls a chance and meet a bunch to gain experience lol. although you and differ in what the definition of quality(looks vs personality)

i get a decent amount of visitors.