EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
A few weeks back I was at a party with my boyfriend at his friends' house (they're a married couple). At one point during the night we were out by the bonfire, me, my boyfriend, his married male friend and a friend of his. Then the married guy started saying disgusting things about the female anatomy - which were untrue - so I went back in the house. He stayed out there to listen to more lies.
Then when he came in I confronted him about it and he said "Well, it's the gross, ugly truth." This made me cry harder and I told him, "So you think my body is gross and ugly? Thanks a lot!" I told him what the guy said was B.S. and he backtracked and said he took everything the guy said with a grain of salt. I tried to forgive him for this but even weeks later it still bothers me because my boyfriend is The One otherwise. I talked to him more about it the next day and he blew up at me and told me to move on. But those words are tattooed in my mind now...
"It's the gross, ugly truth." I guess I just needed to vent and have other people give their perspective on all this.
Your bf sounds very immature. Most guys are secure enough to not refer to female anatomy as "disgusting". Your bf agreeing with what the guy said is insecure of him. Maybe they are just too emotionally immature. I have had good guy friends/bfs at that age and they didn't refer to female anat as disgusting, more likely they wanted gfs and to get laid. So it is odd to here guys say it disgusting unless maybe they are gay.
It sounds like an insecurity of youth. Your bf may have agreed since it was a "peer pressure" type thing where he felt he had to agree? That would be immature on his part. If his truly disagreed,he should have spoke his mind.
11 Jan 2013, 5:49 pm
