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13 Feb 2013, 4:20 am

MCalavera wrote:

Well, nessa, people with Asperger's come in all sorts. And every Aspie experiences a different life that leads them to be a different individual from other Aspies.

Some Aspies are rude (like me somewhat). Some Aspies are liars. And some Aspies are quite passive-aggressive.

Not all Aspies conform to your ideals of being an Aspie.

The only thing that's exclusively common among all Aspies is they're naturally social inepts ... and even that is to varying degrees.

Well I wish there was a blood test for Aspergers because I know for a fact many on here would fail it outright!

The board should be divided into two sections - Aspies and Wannabe NTs, then I'd be a lot happier!

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13 Feb 2013, 4:54 am

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Well I wish there was a blood test for Aspergers because I know for a fact many on here would fail it outright!

The board should be divided into two sections - Aspies and Wannabe Aspies* , then I'd be a lot happier!

Corrected

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13 Feb 2013, 4:56 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

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13 Feb 2013, 4:57 am

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

Replaced Wannabe NTs by Wannabe Aspies.

And yes, I think that many here who claim to be aspies aren't really aspies and don't have any frigging autism - but I won't name any.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:01 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

Replaced Wannabe NTs by Wannabe Aspies.

And yes, I think that many here who claim to be aspies aren't really aspies and don't have any frigging autism - but I won't name any.

I just notice a large contingent who, whatever their condition, seem insistent on promoting an overtly NT agenda as regards conforming to NT culture and ideas

I find it very oppressive and always feel a natural inclination to fight back against it

I fail to see the point in even seeking or getting an Aspergers/ASD diagnosis in the first place if all a person wants to do is find out how to fit in better with the NTs! Forget the diagnosis and just carry on sucking up to them, just don't bring it onto an Asperger board because the best people to tell you how to be more NT are NTs themselves!

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13 Feb 2013, 5:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

Replaced Wannabe NTs by Wannabe Aspies.

And yes, I think that many here who claim to be aspies aren't really aspies and don't have any frigging autism - but I won't name any.

It's likely some may not actually have Asperger's, but I really don't think you could make a proper judgement online on who has it or not.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:37 am

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Quite frankly, it's no-one's business why person A won't go back to person B. If person B doesn't like it, then tough toenails. Person A has every right to be left alone.

Move on. Just because she dated you once doesn't mean she has to again. My ex could make all the changes in the world and become the perfect man but there is NO way I would EVER go back to him.

hey billiscool: Like I said man, they are stronger inside.
Get a new girl.

why do you keep saying that women are stronger inside? there is absolutely no evidence of that.

Why do you keep crying for 'evidence' when the advice of your own experience will tell you the truth of it?

i don't "keep crying" for it. i am asking for it now. if you make a claim you should be prepared to back it up.

you made a sexist claim, and people in another thread suggested that in order to combat sexism members should start demanding evidence. since your statement was benevolent sexism as opposed to a negative form of it, i figured this is a perfect opportunity to put this method to the test. apparently when you are faced with the charge of having to back up your claims, it will force you to be less sexist in your posts.

we'll see if it works. i highly doubt it, but i couldn't dismiss their idea without trying it first.

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I know men who are so much more stronger than myself. They are the strongest people I know.

Don't generalise.

Inner strength.
Emotional fortitude.
Walking determinedly away from someone you have deep feelings for upon the basis of a thought or belief, into the arms of loneliness or solitide and staying there no matter what.
Never met a guy who could do that without being the victim of physical assault.

that's not evidence.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:38 am

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

Replaced Wannabe NTs by Wannabe Aspies.

And yes, I think that many here who claim to be aspies aren't really aspies and don't have any frigging autism - but I won't name any.

Some Aspies are like this and some Aspies are like that. Why does it bother you that much that there are Aspies who don't think the same as you do?

You see only one Aspie, you've only seen one.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:44 am

MCalavera wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Corrected

What do you mean 'Corrected'?

Replaced Wannabe NTs by Wannabe Aspies.

And yes, I think that many here who claim to be aspies aren't really aspies and don't have any frigging autism - but I won't name any.

Some Aspies are like this and some Aspies are like that. Why does it bother you that much that there are Aspies who don't think the same as you do?

You see only one Aspie, you've only seen one.

Because the things they say don't sound like things I'd expect a person with Aspergers to be saying

It doesn't equate with the 'Asperger experience' as I've lived it and observed others living it

I have done a thorough analyisis of what constitutes Asperger behaviour and thought patterns and what constitutes NT hence a warning alert goes off in my head when I feel I'm on NT territory

I can sense who is Aspergers and who is not

That's just how it happens with me - I could be getting it all wrong, yes but my system seems pretty accurate to me

There's just a 'no threat' sense I get off people I think have Aspergers and a sense of NT aggression/threat off those who I summise might not have it/have some very different form of it to me

In the same way that the average NT immediately senses/detects that I am not the same as them I do the same back to NTs - it works both ways

Perhaps there's different sets of gene combinations making up what is termed Aspergers hence the condition is essentially comprised of a variety of genetic 'types' and I am able to detect my Asperger genetic type more readily than others.

It is very much like a species difference - the feeling is that overt to me

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13 Feb 2013, 5:48 am

please don't speculate on people's diagnoses on the board. we all have opinions on that, and i guarantee the lists of people that we consider "probably NT" have no overlap with your lists. you can't diagnose people on a forum. neither can we. we can speculate in our heads, but when you start to post about it in a thread, you are going too far.

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13 Feb 2013, 10:00 am

I'm actually fascinated by this........If someone with ESP so extreme that they can read thought patterns through internet message boards wants to diagnose me, by all means do it. I lack otherworldly superpowers so you probably know more about me than I do. :roll:

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13 Feb 2013, 10:06 am

Geekonychus wrote:

Peoples' thought patterns are shown by the type of language they use, what they talk about, their avatar, their board name, their signature, the type of people they get on well with - a multitude of clues are there

I am not diagnosing anyone though (it's not allowed on here)

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13 Feb 2013, 10:13 am

^^^Then by all means, PM me my diagnosis, Doc.

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13 Feb 2013, 10:20 am

Most of us have Aspergers Syndrome, sorry we can't conform to your specific version of Nessaspergers Syndrome to in your mind make any of our comments passable or of use to others. I'd like to bring it to your attention there was a time in your life you would have been seen as a normal person too but weirder than your buddies, so I see it a tad hypocritical for you to take that tone with others here.

The reason common behavior is mentioned, suggested and even hypothesized on these boards is because it is simply that, common and in some societies the norm. Many here want to understand why people are saying and doing what they are including untoward them which is what Bill is finding hard to deal with. If NT's find certain behavior creepy should all us Aspies find it uncreepy now to pass some sort of conceited test with no logical bearing? Moving on...

The comment about childbearing is a pretty common thought process. There are a lot of moms out there that are still looking for Mr. Right. There are a lot of people that feel the clock is ticking or yearn for families. And sadly depending which part of the social bracet you fit into there are alot of people looking to start a career in receiving welfare or to entrap a partner by conceiving a child with them and even they want to at least say they did that with a responsible, decent person.

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13 Feb 2013, 10:56 am

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Bill doesn't take heed of any of the advice he gets given though

He plays a classic example of the 'No, But' game that is detailed in Eric Berne's book 'The Games People Play'

I take your point about my version of Aspergers but I do have Aspergers remember, which makes me highly intolerant of certain attitudes and forms of behaviour in others

I freely admit my intolerance whereas most pretend theirs doesn't exist and try and put on a 'nice guy' act to everyone when something very different can be lurking beneath the surface

All I do is detect what lurks underneath and people don't like it

With me, what you see is what you get

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13 Feb 2013, 11:00 am

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^^^Then by all means, PM me my diagnosis, Doc.

I'm not familiar with your posting style at all so I'd have to read up on some of your posts

I took an instant dislike to your avatar picture though (is it meant to be a monster of some kind or a gaming device?)

So far you are a gamer type (which often denotes immaturity), with unpleasant avatar picture and pretentious avatar name

Oh dear, I've jsut seen use of the word 'bromance' in one of your posts

It's not looking good...

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