How would your dream guy/woman be like?

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I could list the adjectives of the qualities that I like but, I am afraid it could be considered too long.
Also, I've read someone mentioning Pokemon, and I was reading this I was thinking of the theme song the whole time
The original theme is one of my favourites

I will be the very best
Like no one ever was
To catch them is my real test
To train them is my cause
I will travel across the land
Searching far and wide
Each pokémon, to understand
The power that's inside
Pokémon It's you and me
I know it's my destiny

Someone who shares my appreciation of a beautiful beech hedge!

That's not a euphemism, btw.

Exactly like me but it's a relief to meet men like me or who find me "cool" or "awesome" or "beautiful" and "fun",actual words that have been used to describe me.Coming out from my shell! wahooooo! It feels really great.

"a woman who recognizes the effect her body will have on me, and takes appropriate steps to help me control myself until marriage"

oh wow. i am now leaving this forum. this is sheer idiocy.

Some of the traits I'd be interested in are a little bit embarrasing or personal in their nature so I won't list them all, but below are the main traits which I would imagine my dream girl to have. Any keepers reading this?

Personallity Traits:
- Kind
- Honest
- Empathetic
- Goal oriented and passionate
- Intelligent but still naive
- Emotionally mature
- Good sense of humour
- Positive
- Playful
- Creative

Physical characteristics:
- Not too done-up or preppy
- Simple but sophisticated clothing and make up
- Good hygiene
- Tall
- Well-built
- Geeky but still charismatic
- Brounette or naturally blonde

Age:
- Minimum 1 year younger than me, maximum 8 years older

Interests:
- Science fiction films/tv shows
- Comedy
- Retro/platformer games
- Film and animation
- Animals
- Classical / Alternate Rock Music

Ethnicity:
- White British/English/Scottish/American/Australian

Loyal, truthful, caring, emotionally and physically tough, loving, free spirit, passionate, romantic, positive, inspiring. comforting, beautiful, eccentric.

I like a person that is faithful in what i do and helps to make my life more interesting and less repetitive. a way of showing me i can live life the way i can like it and not so much boring. a world where i can explore dangerous temples and see what chances i can take. now that would make life interesting for me in one part of my life. but i don't know if i wanna pursue it. it's just an idea.

Nice, not too dull, and having a similar body type to mine.

I found her. Or a good approximation to her. Sadly, I was nowhere near ready to be anybody's boyfriend at the time and she is now dating an AS (well, some sort of ASD) guy much younger than her. He must think all his christmasses have come at once

Reverting to the generic idea, and talking about ideals (I am aware that she doesn't truly exist in any one person):

Psychologically: AS like myself. I really want somebody that I can have a good mutual understanding with. She must be rational and intelligent. As a consequence she will be an atheist (of the "God almost certainly doesn't exist" kind) and despise superstition for all the harm that it does and and religion for all the misery that it causes.

Behaviourally: A near "female clone of me" but with enough differences to make life enjoyable and mature enough for us both to be able to negotiate around the problem of us both trying to being in control all the time on matters where we disagree. Shares several interests with me so that we can spend time together at clubs or groups, as well as having some of her own. This applies to television shows, films and music as well as hobbies; I'd kinda hope we'd be spending a life together.

Educationally: A genius in the style of Saul Kripke or somebody like that; somebody I can admire for breaking new ground in philosophy, mathematics, science or engineering. Otherwise, noticeably talented in some obvious way; for example, artistically.

Emotionally: As affectionate physically (hand holding when walking around is very important to me) as I am and, like me, would give her heart as completely to me as I would to her and has roughly the same level of sex drive as myself.

Appearance: Tall, slim to slender, dark hair worn long, dark eyes, small to medium sized bust and a smile that can light up a room.

Disposition: Kind: she would go the extra mile to help somebody in trouble and she would be generally just "nice". Honest: if she fell out of love with me, she would break it up telling me first, not going with someone else behind my back. If she had a problem with me, she would talk about it instead of grumbling or silently resenting. Able to take criticism, as long as it is ultimately constructive and diplomatically phrased. If she asks "how big my ass looks in this", she expects an honest, if diplomatic, answer.

Age: Same age group as me; that is, 45-55. Or somebody younger who is very mature for their years. Having a family isn't so much of an issue at my age and in my circumstances; but if I were interested in doing so, she would have to be no more than 30-35 when we stared dating, to give us enough time.

Other: If she doesn't like, or is allergic to, cats, she better be outstanding in the other departments

I've worked hard to eliminate my squeamishness to personality traits. Here's my list of remaining things I think are necessary.

Dream Girl:
Emotionally Stable. Enjoys Discussing (learning/teaching) Advanced Subjects. Realist. Very Forgiving. Motivated. Minimal Bias.


I want to put the bar low enough without making this a limbo contest. I'm not exactly a catch yet myself.

It doesn't matter because I will never meet him anyway.

Don't be so sure, Cafe. I met mine.

One other thing I recently realized is very important to me. I want a man who is technically competent, understands how things work and is able to fix them. The physical strength to do a lot of home and auto repairs myself is something I've always lacked, even though I mostly have the know-how.

I had an electrician come over a couple days ago to look at doing some fixes to the electrical system in my house (it currently has an old-style circuit panel which is known to cause fires - my late fiance was planning to fix these problems until his untimely demise).

I'm not sure how to describe the feeling, but I guess "safe" is the best word. When the electrician was describing what needed to be done to fix the problems, and how he would go about addressing the solution, I felt that sense of relief, of relaxation, that I used to get in my fiance's presence, that I could trust him to handle it and I didn't have to worry about it anymore. As I said, I know enough about these things that I can tell when someone else knows what they're doing, so for me to able to turn something technically critical over to someone means I have to trust that person's competence absolutely.

I always knew I admired men who were "handy," but I never noticed how huge an impact it had on my sense of well-being to be around someone who is truly competent and capable in that regard.

So, yeah, that's definitely on my list of necessary qualities.

Hmm...

- Musically-inclined
- Able to look after me like I'd look after her
- Pretty high libido
- Introverted
- Loyal
- Beautiful face
- Average weight
- Emo style

It's difficult because I'm kinda specific when it comes to being attracted to people. They could have all of those but if I'm not attracted to their face then it's not someone I'd really pursue.