octobertiger wrote:
Well a couple of weeks ago, I made a post and you said that I was too intent on imposing my world view on others - and you were right. I never thanked you for that.
I think sometimes we have moments of clarity - I think I'm having more as I get older. However, I'm not saying I can't be stupid or egocentric, far from it...I'm working on it

But I don't blame anyone else for this, or my happiness, but myself.
I am not saying it's not easy to let one's brain get to one's head..hang on there was a song about it once..from a Mancunian band if memory serves
anyhow..
Point is, neither you nor I nor anyone else has always been the fo(u)nt of wisdom we are now, so it is as well to try and be a bit more patient with those others who may not have got as far or maybe they never will be able to. You are just very impatient with people who don't meet your high standards. Well. I say that. I know I am like that and it is also what I have observed from some of your posts. Which would be fine if we weren't talking about people you first try to 'help'.
nb. the hardest lesson of my entire life was to learn not to try to help people. It took the best part of my life and I'm probably only now really starting to be cured.
Can you honestly say you don't feel slighted when your earnest attempts to be helpful fall on deaf ears?
I mean, here you are, going out of your way to enlighten and assist and all you get for your time and effort is insults or worse.
And yet, you know you cannot help yourself, you HAVE to answer the call. It's difficult to cope with that kind of pull push experience. I know this myself. So, when things get really on top of me and I feel very slighted and put upon, I think...to be truly zen, is to be zen even when the chaos rages all around me. I haven't achieved that yet, but that is what I am aiming for. It may not be the right thing for others though, so I stop myself most of the time before trying to advise people to make efforts in the same direction. We ARE all different, even if we are all the same .. what do I know?
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