ArrantPariah wrote:
Solvejg wrote:
total dependency is unattractive.
What's unattractive about total dependency?
I would prefer a man is with me because he want's to be with me. Not because he needs to be with me.
There are variances of dependency. If a man is financially dependent on me, i would still want him to not be socially, emotionally, physically, intellectually dependent on me too. A sense of self worth is mandatory and I would encourage any partner to have activities i am not involved with on a continuing basis, be that work, study, hobby ect to get them out of the house and give them a sense of self.
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