OkCupid experiences?

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I did not know this. Well I generally ignore it and first read the profile. It's usually pretty close if they answered a lot though. I answered 250~

Just want to say the best prospect I see on there for personality match with me based on her profile is not checking her messages and the box is full x.x I can't talk to her at all so I just added to favorites until I wanna pay a dollar to send one message doesn't seem worth it. Plus I smoke and she has breathing problems (asthma) Quitting smoking though. Hopefully she'll clear some out and I can send her one. She seems really cool on paper.

How the match % works: http://www.okcupid.com/help/match-percentages

perhaps I should do it just for "fun" anything greater than 0 % would come as a real surprise to me.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25410883

Found a BBC article that has some tips on how to present yourself.

I've had so-so results with okcupid. I'm not really clueless as to what is necessary to attract men on there (just copy the profile of NT women and post a very good photo of myself) ... it just wouldn't really be reflective of who I am. I do feel at times my ego gets a little bruised by being in the demographic that should be beating them off with a stick and instead I'm the initiator mostly. The upside is that it just strengthens my tenacity and positivity in the face of adversity. It would be great if other people were as honest as I am. When someone messages me, I'm very straightforward about my intentions. I've gone so far as to tell a guy that judging by his photos and profile I saw him as mostly friend material but would still be up for meeting. I guess my thinking is that there are actually a fair amount of people on dating websites due to general loneliness (I would be one of these people) so if a friendship develops, great, and even if not, you've met someone new and practiced conversing with a stranger, possibly even had a pretty good time. I'd probably have a heart attack if someone ever responded with the same type of straightforwardness.

OKCupid only worked right at the beginning, before they did "adjusted you for better matches BS"

I met this woman, online, we clicked, after the 1st week. She realised that it wouldn't work between us. I of course am stubborn as hell and said, I CAN adapt and understand and change what is required.

So I ended up paying for her ticket. She was bossy, self absorbed and plain old mean to me in the first 3 weeks. The last week, the 4th week, she wanted to go back and I gave in and took her to the airport and we had a long chat in the vehicle. To which we said we would try again. And we did. I have also asked for help from a member on this forum that is well versed with the feelings and people in general. I am amazed, honestly, with the valuable insight given.

That last week was like heaven. She left and I thought, wow, she is great. few weeks after she left, she dropped me, and is still on okcupid. I'm trying again, to get her here and is paying again for her ticket. But it just feels like I'm the friend and she gets the benefits. Because she gets to travel and have a holiday here on my expensive and I get nothing, well nothing when it comes to what I think love is, in return.

It doesn't really make her a bad person, only that she really has a different type of personality compared to mine. I'm sure there is someone out there with the same values as her. But I just don't don't seem to find someone with the same as mine. I also don't think I will find her on okcupid either.

Just got back from a date I met on OKC, things went really well, and she's texting me to set up our second date for later in the week. I really like this girl, she's smart and funny and attractive, a few years younger than me, and easy to talk to. We went to a bar with a band, which was a little loud, but I'd prepared with an extra .25mg of klonopin, which took the edge off long enough for me to get a couple of cocktails down, which finished off my anxiety. We ended up talking at the bar for almost 5 hours (and 4 cocktails), and for our next date she's coming over to my place, where I can dazzle with my cooking and bartending skills (hands down the most useful skills in dating outside of good communications), plus I made a note of her favorite shows and movies to load onto my media server. All in all, a very successful outing.

I've already explained most of my OKC strategy in other posts, but I wanted to reiterate because it came up in this case, that as a guy, you really should ask them out by the third message, otherwise you just go round and round and seem like a tire kicker. I got really lucky this time in that this girl messaged me out of the blue, and just so happened to live really close by, and since I just moved to the neighborhood a couple of weeks ago I was able to use "why don't you show me around?" as an opening to suggest a date. I took a bit of a chance in that this girl had a high match percentage to me but had some "unacceptable answers" buried in her questions, but since they didn't rank highly when I sorted by what was important to her, I figured they weren't that big of a deal to her, and I was right. It's an excellent example of why I don't really believe in "dealbreakers" for the most part, since when you click with someone, they really don't tend to matter as much as you might have thought before.

Something I've been noticing, alot of the women who seem the most interesting to me have very little in the way of a profile. But our questions on a lot of important things to me match up really well. Finding things to say is a bit difficult though. Plus they often have a college level degree and although I'm easily on par intelligence wise I never went for the degree. Silly deal breakers people have, I never understood deal breakers.

I agree. Some of the most intelligent people I've ever known don't (or didn't) have a college degree.

Deal breakers, IMO, should be things like bigotry, possibly religious beliefs, etc.

In my case, a deal breaker would be "smells bad." LOL

I don't drink alcohol. Will women in their mid-twenties have a problem with this?