02 Apr 2015, 11:57 pm
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
sly279 wrote:
darkphantomx1 wrote:
Well if your passion is cockroaches, good luck finding another girl to discuss cockroaches with. You find a pretty girl who has a fascination for cockroaches and likes you back, you better not let her go.
Some interests are just more popular then others like music for example. Girls like guys who sing and play guitar right? If you're a decent singer and you play pretty good guitar, you will impress some ladies. Unfortunately I sound like an out of tune billy goat when I sing so I will just stick to lead guitar. But someone who sings and plays guitar is usually more valuable then someone who doesn't sing and plays guitar.
Some interests are just more popular then others like music for example. Girls like guys who sing and play guitar right? If you're a decent singer and you play pretty good guitar, you will impress some ladies. Unfortunately I sound like an out of tune billy goat when I sing so I will just stick to lead guitar. But someone who sings and plays guitar is usually more valuable then someone who doesn't sing and plays guitar.
as one of the very few int he world who has no musical talent it sucks.
when women talk about talent or giftedness its almost always playing an instrument or art. guess women prefer more liberal men. o.O
I hate to break it to you but it's TRUE: Women generally do prefer more liberal men. But even though you have no musical talent, do you have any artistic talent? If yes then by golly make use of it! If not, find *something* that you're good at and really focus your time and energy at doing it.
The most sagacious piece of advice I've ever come across about finding romance is...............*drumroll*........
If you are looking for the love of your life, STOP. They will be waiting there when you are doing things that you love.
looks around his room ... nope they aren't around for my video game playing.
looks around the woods, nope they aren't around for shooting/camping/airsoft.
don't seem to be around money collecting either.
turns out people gather around only popular hobbies like music, arts, poetry, crafting, etc.
advice only works for people into mainstream hobbies.
for others you better be out looking for love cause it isn't going find you.
people do like happy people as friends, don't mean you'll get a gf, but on the flipside, sad people get gfs all the time too it seems. so maybe being happy/sad has nothing to do with it.
plenty of people like me, its never got me a gf.
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03 Apr 2015, 12:31 pm
sly279 wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
sly279 wrote:
darkphantomx1 wrote:
Well if your passion is cockroaches, good luck finding another girl to discuss cockroaches with. You find a pretty girl who has a fascination for cockroaches and likes you back, you better not let her go.
Some interests are just more popular then others like music for example. Girls like guys who sing and play guitar right? If you're a decent singer and you play pretty good guitar, you will impress some ladies. Unfortunately I sound like an out of tune billy goat when I sing so I will just stick to lead guitar. But someone who sings and plays guitar is usually more valuable then someone who doesn't sing and plays guitar.
Some interests are just more popular then others like music for example. Girls like guys who sing and play guitar right? If you're a decent singer and you play pretty good guitar, you will impress some ladies. Unfortunately I sound like an out of tune billy goat when I sing so I will just stick to lead guitar. But someone who sings and plays guitar is usually more valuable then someone who doesn't sing and plays guitar.
as one of the very few int he world who has no musical talent it sucks.
when women talk about talent or giftedness its almost always playing an instrument or art. guess women prefer more liberal men. o.O
I hate to break it to you but it's TRUE: Women generally do prefer more liberal men. But even though you have no musical talent, do you have any artistic talent? If yes then by golly make use of it! If not, find *something* that you're good at and really focus your time and energy at doing it.
The most sagacious piece of advice I've ever come across about finding romance is...............*drumroll*........
If you are looking for the love of your life, STOP. They will be waiting there when you are doing things that you love.
looks around his room ... nope they aren't around for my video game playing.
looks around the woods, nope they aren't around for shooting/camping/airsoft.
don't seem to be around money collecting either.
turns out people gather around only popular hobbies like music, arts, poetry, crafting, etc.
advice only works for people into mainstream hobbies.
for others you better be out looking for love cause it isn't going find you.
people do like happy people as friends, don't mean you'll get a gf, but on the flipside, sad people get gfs all the time too it seems. so maybe being happy/sad has nothing to do with it.
plenty of people like me, its never got me a gf.
If hobbies and interests don't work, you really might wanna go for online dating. Quite frankly, hobbies and other real life social activities have NEVER helped me get a gf....let alone get dates. It is often a useful way to make new friends and get practice socializing but when it comes to finding twue wuv it really doesn't work for everyone. The point of making art and music is that they are things that you can share with other people and for some reason women really get turned on(sexually)buy it. Art is not even unique to humans! Males from other species, like bower bird, use art as a way to broadcast the quality of their genes. As for music, just observe the mating calls of songbirds and humpback whales.
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03 Apr 2015, 1:16 pm
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03 Apr 2015, 4:40 pm
goofygoobers wrote:
darkphantomx1 wrote:
A lot of aspies have trouble with dating and relationships. It's not that having aspergers makes us unattractive, it's some of the traits associated with it that makes it harder to date and appeal to the opposite sex.
For one thing, the social difficulties. Every single one of us have social challenges to a certain degree. Some of us for instance, come off as rude and cold because we're brutally honest or we seem to not care about the people we're talking with. Others are very shy and have very bad social anxiety so it's impossible to maintain a conversation with someone we like. While others aren't very good social talkers in general, talking isn't their natural state and talking is required for building relationships. Dating is hard for anyone, having Aspergers probably makes it slighty harder.
Hygiene and look wise can also be a problem but this one is easily preventable. No offense but I see a lot of aspie guys who don't put a lot of effort into their looks. Never combing your hair, never brushing your teeth, not caring about how you look, wearing the same baggy clothes. Smelling like a trash can isn't going to help either. The good news is that you can make yourself better looking by making changes to your hygiene.
Actually us aspies are some of the coolest people you'll ever meet once you get to know us. Many of us have a unique sense of humor and unique perspective on life and unique special interests as well.
For one thing, the social difficulties. Every single one of us have social challenges to a certain degree. Some of us for instance, come off as rude and cold because we're brutally honest or we seem to not care about the people we're talking with. Others are very shy and have very bad social anxiety so it's impossible to maintain a conversation with someone we like. While others aren't very good social talkers in general, talking isn't their natural state and talking is required for building relationships. Dating is hard for anyone, having Aspergers probably makes it slighty harder.
Hygiene and look wise can also be a problem but this one is easily preventable. No offense but I see a lot of aspie guys who don't put a lot of effort into their looks. Never combing your hair, never brushing your teeth, not caring about how you look, wearing the same baggy clothes. Smelling like a trash can isn't going to help either. The good news is that you can make yourself better looking by making changes to your hygiene.
Actually us aspies are some of the coolest people you'll ever meet once you get to know us. Many of us have a unique sense of humor and unique perspective on life and unique special interests as well.
I put effort into appearance, yet I still look terrible. I take a shower every day, yet I still smell and my hair is greasy. I really wish I could look more attractive.
Those feels.
Ive heard washing every 3 days helps. Some people no poo.
03 Apr 2015, 4:53 pm
04 Apr 2015, 4:16 pm
Because I look like this when talking to women. LOL
04 Apr 2015, 6:13 pm
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04 Apr 2015, 8:37 pm
^ Yeah. As long as we show interest in what others are thinking these quandaries eventually resolve themselves. All we really need to do is be patient.
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