Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie?

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Exactly. This is what all of my NT friends been telling me for years, just until last week I realised this clearly. Being negative attracts negative life stuff. Being positive, will make them comfortable with you.

More recently I spending more time with my female NT friends for them getting a chance to get to know each others especially in two different perspectives. This is very reflective that I am not being negative. Giving NT friends a chance to get to you know, but being negative is scaring them away!

Speak for yourself!

Are you interested in any of your NT friends?

Currently I'm attracted to a NT high school friend of mine who I always used to hangout with at lunch, sometimes after school at his place. I've never had the chance to take it anywhere further since I had one boyfriend in the way, throughout my whole high school career. Now that we're both adults and I'm single, I think it's a good time to (lol) seduce him.

Not sure how I'll go about doing that in person, but so far we've been talking on Facebook daily and he's invited me over on his own a couple of times. I haven't gone over yet, (it's been a while) because I want to go shopping and look my best to make a new first impression on him.

Yeah, but you can't marry yourself unfortunately

Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie?

I am an aspie, high functioning ASD. To answer this question:
1. NTs do not like spending time with a 'negatively' minded aspies
2. It not that NTs waste their time with aspies because they would also waste their time with wrong NT person!
3. If you have a career pathway, and is proactive; saying they are wasting their times with an aspie means you are actually wasting your time with wrong NT person.

I always thought why NT cannot deal with me. Like I never had a date nor sex. But my friends told me they are in same situation. They are all NTs. They aren't wasting their times with me being around.

Why they aren't wasting their time with me?
This is because I am a happy and positive like minded person. I do not use my disabilities (including my hearing loss - I have to wear hearing aids) to make an excuse of issues between myself and them. They look past my disabilities upon reflection of my positive attitudes. I learn so much about the cues from them, including my family of understanding things such as someone need a hand to help and so on. It not about trying to impress them because you think they are going to see you being fully capable kind of person. It that they think and see you as a kind and special kind of person. We share experiences together, learning communication skills and perspectives. This is very much needed approach from many of you aspies!

Many friends and family always told me I am special because it is the way who I am. I never say I am special (unlike now) to everyone. They see it me. Life is a gift, and use it with people.

I am so tired of negative stuff on WP. I left two aspie support groups here in Brisbane, where I spent time with since February, because they are negative and spending too much time on complaining about NTs. They are targeting NTs in their awareness campaigns, in an offensive way. And I got bullied by someone (WP used to bully me years ago, on my old account) because I am different.

So please think about the differences in attitudes, not by what you got. Using your disabilities in a way of love, romance, sex, relationships, friendships and so on won't get you there.

I agree with all of this.

The title to this thread is negative. It should read "Why would a person waste their time with another person?" They wouldn't be wasting time if there were something being given from each person to the other that is beneficial. That's how friendships and relationships work. Negativity helps no one. I wouldn't want to be around any negative NT's either - it has nothing to do with being Aspie.

...so please think about the differences in attitudes, not by what you got...

Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie?

I am an aspie, high functioning ASD. To answer this question:
1. NTs do not like spending time with a 'negatively' minded aspies
2. It not that NTs waste their time with aspies because they would also waste their time with wrong NT person!
3. If you have a career pathway, and is proactive; saying they are wasting their times with an aspie means you are actually wasting your time with wrong NT person.

I always thought why NT cannot deal with me. Like I never had a date nor sex. But my friends told me they are in same situation. They are all NTs. They aren't wasting their times with me being around.

Why they aren't wasting their time with me?
This is because I am a happy and positive like minded person. I do not use my disabilities (including my hearing loss - I have to wear hearing aids) to make an excuse of issues between myself and them. They look past my disabilities upon reflection of my positive attitudes. I learn so much about the cues from them, including my family of understanding things such as someone need a hand to help and so on. It not about trying to impress them because you think they are going to see you being fully capable kind of person. It that they think and see you as a kind and special kind of person. We share experiences together, learning communication skills and perspectives. This is very much needed approach from many of you aspies!

Many friends and family always told me I am special because it is the way who I am. I never say I am special (unlike now) to everyone. They see it me. Life is a gift, and use it with people.

I am so tired of negative stuff on WP. I left two aspie support groups here in Brisbane, where I spent time with since February, because they are negative and spending too much time on complaining about NTs. They are targeting NTs in their awareness campaigns, in an offensive way. And I got bullied by someone (WP used to bully me years ago, on my old account) because I am different.

So please think about the differences in attitudes, not by what you got. Using your disabilities in a way of love, romance, sex, relationships, friendships and so on won't get you there.