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23 Jan 2016, 12:17 am

Ha, ha, that's one of the few perks of being a walking lard ball: you withstand the cold better.


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23 Jan 2016, 12:35 am

Ha, I did withstand the cold better when I weighed more. But I hate winter anyway. It's cold, and wet, and there's no sun. There is nothing appealing to me about winter except that most of the bugs are dead or hibernating.



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23 Jan 2016, 1:57 am

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Why does a man have to workout constantly on his body at the gym to look 'good' whereas all a woman has to do is not overeat and just be relatively slim?


So...where did you find these rules at? Fat people get laid all the time.



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23 Jan 2016, 2:00 am

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It is a wall against which you can bang your head into a bloody pulp and still not make an iota of difference. So try not to let it get to you, or put you off posting here.


A wall I've hit and can now see why so many of these conversations end with no women speaking and many entirely dropping out.

Given that women are those mythical and desired creatures, creating an environment that keeps them around just might...keep them around. Alas...


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23 Jan 2016, 2:08 am

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I keep hearing mention of dressing well. What is dressing well? For males and females?


For me, it's wearing your underwear Under the other wear.
I don't pay any attention to men's clothing beyond that.


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23 Jan 2016, 2:12 am

I think it's pointless. Women here don't know what it's like to be a man and men don't know what it's like to be a woman. So both look and say the other has to do less. What's the point who cares. Most of the things no one is required to do and if stopped doing the most people wouldn't notice or care that you stopped.



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23 Jan 2016, 6:13 am

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nurseangela wrote:
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Why would I want to date someone that has wrinkles and gray hair?

Oh I dunno...cos they are a great person who you get along with? :roll:


Sorry, but I do have to be attracted to someone and someone who has gray hair and wrinkles reminds me of my father. It's my personal preference, so go roll your eyes at someone else.

:roll: Right back at you.

It was the way you worded it..."why would I?" as though the answer is obvious and of course you wouldn't want to. "I don't want to date someone that has wrinkles and gray hair" would be much less harsh towards people with wrinkles and grey hair, as it makes it clear it is your personal preference, which is fine.


How old are you NurseAngela? If we knew you were say 21 we'd understand you're after someone your own age, but I used to think you were older, like mid 40s, so was surprised by the no wrinkles and grey hair comment.



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23 Jan 2016, 9:26 am

Most people have some wrinkles at twenty, and it's not that uncommon to have a few gray hairs at that age, too :lol:

In fact, some men have more gray hairs at twenty than at thirty, because they stop growing as their hairline recedes.


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26 Jan 2016, 10:11 pm

DoesItMatter wrote:
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You haven't disproven you're attractive by default; you've only confirmed merely being attractive is far from being enough for you. In contrast, men have to work hard to have any attractiveness at all.

lol no
What kind of place do you live in where ALL women are seen as attractive?? Its definitely not that were here >>
Some of you guys must really be staying way too much inside (i guess thats no surprise in this kind of site tho) if you think EVERY SINGLE WOMEN is seen as attractive by sociaty :roll:
And you also have no idea how much the women you see goes through to look attractive


I think spiderpig must mean he finds all females attractive by default...which could very well be, the mistake is assuming every guy finds all females attractive by default.


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26 Jan 2016, 10:23 pm

I think a part of the reason that many autistics I know arne't doing good with women is because they don't put very much effort into looking good. They wear baggy clothes, rarely shower, don't comb their hair or brush their teeth, or even bother to workout they just look bad.

Like if there's a girl and I like and i'm going to see her that day, i'm showering and making sure to put on my best clothes and dress to impress. This one girl who I had a huge crush on last year, I had to carefully plan out everything because in my mind, I coudn't afford to lose her or fail this time. In my mind, she was the most beautiful and special girl I ever met. Love does crazy s**t to you.

But now that it's been 8 months ago that she left, I haven't had a major crush on anyone else so no need to bother looking really good but if I ever do develop a huge crush on someone, you betcha i'm going all in this time. I can't afford to lose this time.



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27 Jan 2016, 2:51 am

I've only ever met one other aspie in my life (that I know of) and he was a total disaster. No hygiene problems but utterly obnoxious in so many ways. Total negative stereotype.

It's really hard for me to say what any guy here is doing wrong. I'd like to be able to help, but unless I know the person, or at least have a picture, there is no way to know. It could be so many things. It could even be something really minor and easy to fix.

Shouldn't they have some sort of service or support group for this? Get women to give aspie men tips on how to get dates?