any women here who have never dated, never had a boyfriend?

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I've had four boyfriends and plenty of dates.

^ hurtloam, please don't look!! Scroll down fast!

I agree Boo.

For all the gender stereotypes that men are supposed to be the 'strong' ones who hide their emotions and women open and 'in touch' with their feelings, all I ever see whining and complaining about depression/misery/loneliness or showing aggression are boys and men.

Some women seem more influenced by Feminism and the 'I AM A STRONG, LOUD, PROUD INDEPENDENT WOMAN, HEAR ME ROAR' attitude, try to save face by acting completely content with being single because their 'education/career' is more important, and showing the most apathetic, cold and otherwise uncaring attitudes towards men I've ever seen.

And if men complain or object to this at all, apparently 'you are not entitled to my time or attention. Besides, I'm not going to be some submissive little woman echo chamber of a person who just agrees with everything you say to 'stroke your own ego'.

This is why in recent times I honestly would much rather prefer a traditional female.

Someone soft, shy, quiet, yet warm, supportive and caring, and I'd be just as dedicated, loving and caring and supportive back.

Not some 'independent' woman who feels she doesn't even need me in the relationship in the first place (then why are we even dating, you self-reliant, self-efficient future cat-lady hermit?) the need to passive-aggressively make sarcastic and cruel remarks to or about me every second.

And if I complain apparently I have a 'fragile ego' and I'm 'insecure'.

No, I just don't need some mean-spirited, negative ahøle constantly finding satisfaction in sh*tting on my life's work, and then claiming I demand you agree with me every second.

Sarcasm, passive-aggressiveness and mean spiritedness are so common in this Millenial generation, especially young men and women alike constantly throwing smart-alec and downright cruel remarks at one another and it's absolutely horribly unattractive.

I don't care if it's just a person's type of humor.

"Hey, you're a sucking loser and I'm going to break your dam neck! HAHA, that was a joke!"

Personally insulting and attacking almost everything someone says and everything about them constantly is NOT a joke.

I did a thread before on "Sexual invisibility".... it was about how some individuals are not seen by others as sexual beings especially by the opposite sex , making them totally sexually invisible to the opposite sex .

We should all do research on this.

Check this:

http://www.yourtango.com/2015251593/im- ... -boyfriend

As an independent woman I must say it's very difficult to know how much to open up to someone. How do you know whether they like you or if they're just leading you on?

What if you open up to this person and they're actually a total dick and just mess you around.

On the one hand we get criticised for being too cold on the other we're criticised for chasing the wrong man.

We can't win. What do you expect?

Me. I have never been on a date, had a boyfriend, or had sex. I also don't think I'll ever get married. To be fair, I believe this is all by choice.

I'd feel so embarrassed if people in the real world learned I wasn't content being single. There's been a couple people I've had to completely remove from my life because I accidentally opened up more than I intended to.

when people irl make me uncomfortable for my lifestyle choices or my general situation, i do my best to make them uncomfortable for asking or bringing it up. most of the time i know they don't really want to make me uncomfortable, but i want to be sure that they get the message ("i'm not going to talk about it with you, now or ever"). when i did have a girlfriend, i didn't change my tone. i didn't tell anyone irl about her existence. especially not my parents. they would have found a way to ruin it if they were even minimally involved. that nagging "i told you so" attitude, at the first sign of relationship trouble, which they would be scanning for

i don't tell anyone irl about my long-distance friends either (although i do often talk to long-distance friends about other long-distance friends/acquaintances). when i talk irl about things i've been talking about with those friends, i say "i've read on the internet that blablabla". when my parents ask me things like "why are you traveling to that place in particular?", i say "because i know someone there", and i never mention the person again. i want to be sure that they get the message ("you don't know a lot about me, and i don't want you to")

nowadays people are used to my stealthiness. not even my grandfather asks me about girlfriends anymore. he's just happy to see me when i visit. in other words, my personal solution to the problem of "who to trust and open up to" is simply "nobody". by now it doesn't even cross my mind anymore. except online (or irl later, with people i've met online). that's where my real friends are

and apparently, the prime of a persons life is deemed 18-35

I didn't have a date or a boyfriend. It's not important in my life, I don't know why. I have somethings else to think for the moment, I think.

I have an ex-boyfriend. He's the first one and the last one.

There are few more coming, I say let's throw a party.