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28 Nov 2016, 4:45 am

Do people just not want long-term relationships? Is that the problem here? Is it all about one-night-stands now? Is the only way to be attractive nowadays to just trivialize sex, make it no longer something special between two people who care deeply for one another?



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28 Nov 2016, 4:58 am

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Do people just not want long-term relationships? Is that the problem here? Is it all about one-night-stands now? Is the only way to be attractive nowadays to just trivialize sex, make it no longer something special between two people who care deeply for one another?

Sometimes it seems like nobody cares about you. To those people, one night stand seems like a good thing.



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28 Nov 2016, 5:33 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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^ Are you able to convince 40 women to have no strings attached sex with you?
I don't know man. I'm 16 and don't exactly look for that stuff.



:o 16??!

Well, listen son.... you're still too good-hearted - well, it's better to start learning how to be less of that.
What's the point. If someone wants casual sex that is easily obtainable.

And I am pretty sure that good-heartedness doesn't somehow create an unnatractive aura. It is just not what everyone looks for.



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28 Nov 2016, 5:38 am

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confidence is not obtainable without at least one major life success.
But you have had life successes. You are mature from what I can tell and even have had a girlfriend.

Can't you get inner self esteem from within?

thank you for your high estimation but I am very childlike and not really mature other than in survival behaviors. I could not keep my sweetie :cry: I drove her away with my warpedness. :oops: no successes that really matter in this world. what this world considers "success" is simply in being able to consistently and effectively exercise "free will" which has eluded me all my life. when I try to do something effectively it has consistently turned around and said "that's what YOU think."
Well what makes you say you are immature. It sounds like you just had it hard.

I certainly don't get that from other issues. You have a mature understanding of politics and social issues from what I have seen.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:06 am

Shahunshah wrote:
If someone wants casual sex that is easily obtainable.


not easily obtainable according to the masses of lonely men on these forums, basically impossible to obtain in fact for the lions' share of us.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:09 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
Do people just not want long-term relationships? Is that the problem here? Is it all about one-night-stands now? Is the only way to be attractive nowadays to just trivialize sex, make it no longer something special between two people who care deeply for one another?


Good relationship > Casual sex (At least this what they say).

But...

Casual sex > nothing (I am sure of that).

It's that simple.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:10 am

auntblabby wrote:
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If someone wants casual sex that is easily obtainable.


not easily obtainable according to the masses of lonely men on these forums, basically impossible to obtain in fact for the lions' share of us.
Understanable. To a level it might be. Hookup culture from what I know is widspread. And many people on the forum talk about having done it.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:13 am

There's a no new trend hookup culture, it's a myth.

Women and men always f****d.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:15 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's a no new trend hookup culture, it's a myth.

Women and men always f****d.
That's besides the point from what I was saying.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:20 am

Shahunshah wrote:
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If someone wants casual sex that is easily obtainable.


not easily obtainable according to the masses of lonely men on these forums, basically impossible to obtain in fact for the lions' share of us.
Understanable. To a level it might be. Hookup culture from what I know is widspread. And many people on the forum talk about having done it.

the relatively elect [small] group of aspies doing this hooking-up are the highest of high-functioning with the highest social intelligence and highest social rank [NOT omegas]. they are the rock stars of the aspie world, the big fish in a small pond [WP].



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28 Nov 2016, 6:24 am

Auntblabby do you feel as though people with Asperger's are naturally consigned to their position as being less able to function socially?



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28 Nov 2016, 6:52 am

The only thing I can contribute to this conversation is that one of my brothers had 2 GFs in his whole life. He married the second one when he was 33.

My other brother was the life of the party, loves crowds of people, and always had a GF. In between, he would take up running. Then he'd find another GF. He finally settled down and got married, at the age of 33.

So, OP, you're 32? Great things await you! :D

There is one thing I might point out. My people-person brother undertook to drag my quiet brother with him wherever he went. I wonder if Mom was in on that. The only reason for going was that there would be people there. It was at one of these pointless outings that QuietBro met his future wife. They've been married 46 years now and are grandparents.

Never say never! Find yourself a buddy to pal around with. Get out a lot. Sounds awful, doesn't it? But it won't be awful for long.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:56 am

auntblabby wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
If someone wants casual sex that is easily obtainable.


not easily obtainable according to the masses of lonely men on these forums, basically impossible to obtain in fact for the lions' share of us.
Understanable. To a level it might be. Hookup culture from what I know is widspread. And many people on the forum talk about having done it.

the relatively elect [small] group of aspies doing this hooking-up are the highest of high-functioning with the highest social intelligence and highest social rank [NOT omegas]. they are the rock stars of the aspie world, the big fish in a small pond [WP].
I am curious now.

Why do you say that?

What is your experience of hearing of some of the difficulties people with Asperger's have?



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28 Nov 2016, 7:07 am

Look you don't want to be like the guy I'm talking about. He may sleep around bit he has never had a gf. His social issues are quite severe so he hasn't been able to be in a relationship because it's too much work for him.

Relationships are so much more rewarding. I didn't know what he was like when we slept together it was as I got to know him better and went on some nights out with him I saw what he was like.

If you want meaningless sex then go for it get girls drunk and what not but if you want a relationship that will put girls off.

I should also mention this guy wants to have 3 children from different women so he 'passes on his genes'.



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28 Nov 2016, 7:09 am

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Look you don't want to be like the guy I'm talking about. He may sleep around bit he has never had a gf. His social issues are quite severe so he hasn't been able to be in a relationship because it's too much work for him.

Relationships are so much more rewarding. I didn't know what he was like when we slept together it was as I got to know him better and went on some nights out with him I saw what he was like.

If you want meaningless sex then go for it get girls drunk and what not but if you want a relationship that will put girls off.

I should also mention this guy wants to have 3 children from different women so he 'passes on his genes'.
He looks like your typical Wrong Planet guy.



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28 Nov 2016, 7:13 am

He sounds like a typical opportunistic rapist.

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