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Personal attacks on WP are uncalled for.

That's why you shouldn't have called me a negative person and a hater in the first place.

I haven't the faintest idea what you're talking about anymore. What are these "good things" that we should all be happy about?

^ Fireworks.

You make a good point. It works both ways. Parents should be more involved, families should work together, and young couples should seek and accept the support of both families.

I happen to believe that hedonism is the human psyche in it's most basic, primitive state. When we begin to transcend that is when self-concern awakens to an understanding that the best for all is best for the individual, too. That's where things like corporate solidarity, charity, synergy, and similar selfless values cover primal urges to yield the illusion of "good." We westerners have little concept of corporate solidarity, yet we have some sub-conscious leaning or urge towards marriage and family.

I realize I often sound cynical, but I'm really not. I prefer to say I'm cautiously optimistic. That people desire to create families alone is encouraging, even if they don't really understand why they want to do it. That gives me hope for humanity. It's similar to the millenials' answer to rabid consumerism: DIY culture. They don't plant gardens or take up woodworking out of necessity. They do it because they think it's cool. And for every skill you would ever need there's a detailed Youtube video. I needed a small, custom case for a new keyboard I bought. Materials+table saw cost less than anything I could get at GuitarCenter. So at any time I could build a durable wooden box for all my music gear at a fraction of a commercially available product. The ready availability of knowledge actually makes their laziness an asset rather than a liability. They build wooden boxes as a means of escape rather than genuine need. When the zombie apocalypse finally arrives, they'll already know what to. Survival for them will be just another triviality in the end. But in the absense of readily available knowledge such as in wartime conditions, they'll already have the tools they need and will teach their own children. Then it will be like it was when my parents were children stateside during WWII. Things turned out well for them and will turn out well for our great-grandchildren when their time comes. As long as SOME of us insist on instilling what matters most in our own kids, I'm not worried.

Oh, I'm sorry. Did somebody say something? I think I missed it.

Looking back through this quote tree, I don't see where I did any such thing.

Are you holding a grudge from another thread? Lol, I guess I struck a nerve.

AngelRho is crowdfunding the wedding cermony already.

I like the discussions, disagreements and all. Grudges are a waste of time. I've got a good, positive creative vibe going today and not really in the mood to break it.

I wish! But, no, I'm content with just the first date. It could be the first AND last date for all I really care, but the greater tragedy would be for nothing to happen at all, not even one single date. I say cover basic travel expenses (transportation and lodging) and 3 evening events and meals. Nothing extravagant, just get these two together.

Well it wasn't so much of a discussion as me just being abusive but whatever. If you're not holding a grudge, feel free to explain what this "good news" you were referring to is, because the way I see a leap in logic has been made that I need explained.

Odd, it is not difficult to spot at all.

You WERE actually being abusive? I got bullied a lot in childhood, and it never bothered me unless it was excessively obvious that I was being excluded or physically assaulted. I never figured out how awful people were to me until later on in retrospect, and even then it was only when someone pointed it out. I figure if it doesn't actually bother me, it's just better not to dwell on it.

Blatant personal attacks on WP I actually DO recognize. I don't get upset by it when it happens, but it does bother me that if someone will do it to me, they'll do it to someone else who might not take it so well. If I have to take a few hits for the team, I'm ok if it means expediting a ban on someone who doesn't belong here.

As to logic, well... If you want logic, go to PPR. L&D is a rational person's nightmare. You're dealing with an emotional landscape that is dynamic and unstable. Let's just say by all indications they seem like a good match. That alone is a good thing.

I live independently and support myself, but have a low paying job.

^ Hmmmmm