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11 Dec 2017, 7:08 pm

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It was a reality that a son in China would provide the family while a daughter wouldn’t (because she will be married) - not defending the practice but the idea that having a 1 daughter only would make the parents end up old without any financial support was a fear based on reality.


But a daughter could take care of her parents just as well as a son could if the culture didn't make society treat girls as less worthy and make them think that a woman is only an object that goes from a man (her father) to another (her husband.) This kind of thing happened because sometime way in the past some idiot decided that hey, let's start treating girls and women as lower beings compared to men. That probably came from the fact that women are physically weaker than men most of the time and that they actually needed to stay at home to feed children (since it was impossible for men), but they messed up with the part where they made it in to a thing that someone's worth automatically debended on the fact of what's between their legs. And some cultures still do things that way.

But we're getting seriously off topic here so we should probably stop.


From what I gather in Asia not just China when the daughter Marries off her duty is to the husbands family not hers anymore. She cares for his family. That’s why they want males I guess though even the women who do live in China are also picky(lots of choices due to high male population) anywhere there’s more males then women women get inflated egos it seems. Though part of that is media. Chinese watch western media too.

Gotta get their Prince Charming. Media says every woman deserves a Prince Charming

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11 Dec 2017, 7:11 pm

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XFilesGeek, usually when men say for example that they want a non fat woman, you never see them talking about specific weight numbers, Maximum and Minimum and range and stuff, you never see men saying something like:
"She has to be at least 55 Kg, and Max 59.5 Kg; and has to be able to fit under my elbow otherwise it's a dealbreaker for me".

While on the other hand, when you see women talk about height, plenty of them talk about specific measures and numbers, maximum and minimum and other bla bla. ie. "He has to be a least 6.7' and not more than 7.1' or else it's a dealbreaker".

You can't deny this sex difference.


Height's a lot easier to quantify than weight.

Weight depends on height, body type, ect. And I would actually prefer it if men were more specific about what actually constitutes "fatness." To some men, a few pounds overweight is "fat," while, to others, "fat" means morbidly obese. I appreciate guys like ClosetGenious who at least specify "healthy-weight women."

Mostly, I'm more confused than anything, but thank you for the thoughtful reply.


There’s lots of examples of thin women out there. Anything more then that is fat. Same goes for guys fat.

I know what thin looks like. I just still find cubby women attractive. I wouldn’t reject a woman for being chubby or fat. I’d prefer a thin woman though. But it’s not a requirement.



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11 Dec 2017, 7:26 pm

As for why women prefer taller guys, I would guess that it's about self-esteem. Women tend to want to be seen as feminine, especially around a potential partner. Being small and delicate is considered feminine, and so women might feel as if their femininity was being undermined if their sexual partner was smaller. I wonder if the same is true of men - if they feel emasculated when their partner is taller.


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11 Dec 2017, 9:24 pm

sly279 wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
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XFilesGeek, usually when men say for example that they want a non fat woman, you never see them talking about specific weight numbers, Maximum and Minimum and range and stuff, you never see men saying something like:
"She has to be at least 55 Kg, and Max 59.5 Kg; and has to be able to fit under my elbow otherwise it's a dealbreaker for me".

While on the other hand, when you see women talk about height, plenty of them talk about specific measures and numbers, maximum and minimum and other bla bla. ie. "He has to be a least 6.7' and not more than 7.1' or else it's a dealbreaker".

You can't deny this sex difference.


Height's a lot easier to quantify than weight.

Weight depends on height, body type, ect. And I would actually prefer it if men were more specific about what actually constitutes "fatness." To some men, a few pounds overweight is "fat," while, to others, "fat" means morbidly obese. I appreciate guys like ClosetGenious who at least specify "healthy-weight women."

Mostly, I'm more confused than anything, but thank you for the thoughtful reply.


There’s lots of examples of thin women out there. Anything more then that is fat. Same goes for guys fat.

I know what thin looks like. I just still find cubby women attractive. I wouldn’t reject a woman for being chubby or fat. I’d prefer a thin woman though. But it’s not a requirement.


I actually prefer a woman that would probably be put by other in the 'chubby' range. Nothing extreme, but a bit more than other people seem to prefer.

Like you see people make posts like this for example
https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/imag ... UHq8aGteIg
I find the second girl more attractive


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11 Dec 2017, 9:46 pm

Came into this thread to see if Boo made any posts.
My curiosity has been satisfied. :D

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12 Dec 2017, 12:34 am

There are guys specifically looking for a bigger girl, but do you know of any girls who where specifically looking for a guy shorter than she is? I don't think I do.



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12 Dec 2017, 2:34 am

TheSpectrum wrote:
Came into this thread to see if Boo made any posts.
My curiosity has been satisfied. :D

/leaves


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12 Dec 2017, 2:56 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
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XFilesGeek, usually when men say for example that they want a non fat woman, you never see them talking about specific weight numbers, Maximum and Minimum and range and stuff, you never see men saying something like:
"She has to be at least 55 Kg, and Max 59.5 Kg; and has to be able to fit under my elbow otherwise it's a dealbreaker for me".

While on the other hand, when you see women talk about height, plenty of them talk about specific measures and numbers, maximum and minimum and other bla bla. ie. "He has to be a least 6.7' and not more than 7.1' or else it's a dealbreaker".

You can't deny this sex difference.


Height's a lot easier to quantify than weight.

Weight depends on height, body type, ect. And I would actually prefer it if men were more specific about what actually constitutes "fatness." To some men, a few pounds overweight is "fat," while, to others, "fat" means morbidly obese. I appreciate guys like ClosetGenious who at least specify "healthy-weight women."

Mostly, I'm more confused than anything, but thank you for the thoughtful reply.


Men won't be more specific because they aren't as picky as women.

That's why women talk in so specific manner.

Also if a guy talks numbers of weight and height, all people would call him shallow and attack him.



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12 Dec 2017, 10:25 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Men won't be more specific because they aren't as picky as women.


Source? Proof? What evidence is there that women are pickier than men?



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12 Dec 2017, 10:45 am

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Men won't be more specific because they aren't as picky as women.


Source? Proof? What evidence is there that women are pickier than men?


There's literally a mountain of evidence to prove that.
Everything from mating patterns of almost all other animals, to our DNA showing we have more female ancestors than male, to statistics released by tinder. Take your pick.

You'd have to be extremely ideological to deny that human females are much more selective. It's a fact.



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12 Dec 2017, 10:50 am

Actually I'll come back for a sec.
This meme is scientific fact!

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12 Dec 2017, 11:06 am

Men do that sort of thing all the time.

Like I said, I do believe women usually prefer men who are taller than themselves. But height is not necessarily a "deal-breaker."

I saw a woman today, who was about my height, showing affection to a man who was about 5 feet even. He looked like any "normal" man----with a beard, etc. He was just "short."



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12 Dec 2017, 11:11 am

Closet Genious wrote:
Fireblossom wrote:
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Men won't be more specific because they aren't as picky as women.


Source? Proof? What evidence is there that women are pickier than men?


There's literally a mountain of evidence to prove that.
Everything from mating patterns of almost all other animals, to our DNA showing we have more female ancestors than male, to statistics released by tinder. Take your pick.

You'd have to be extremely ideological to deny that human females are much more selective. It's a fact.


It’s as asking for a proof that water is odorless.



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12 Dec 2017, 11:17 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Men do that sort of thing all the time.

Like I said, I do believe women usually prefer men who are taller than themselves. But height is not necessarily a "deal-breaker."

I saw a woman today, who was about my height, showing affection to a man who was about 5 feet even. He looked like any "normal" man----with a beard, etc. He was just "short."


I have never seen or read men including units of measurement (Cm, inch, Kg, not even waist width and bra size) in their list of physical standards.

I’ve only seen women being that much specific.



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12 Dec 2017, 11:20 am

All this matters less once people get out of the "dating scene" and into the "real world."

The "dating scene," and the "online dating scene" are true meat-markets.



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12 Dec 2017, 11:25 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It’s as asking for a proof that water is odorless.


Okay, I give up... :roll: