Having trouble getting past the first date.

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The_Face_of_Boo
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31 Dec 2017, 4:23 pm

Hopelessly3 wrote:

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So many bad advices here, and kara as usual wants to send any man to therapy just for being upset. All bs again.

Are you willing to follow my “dark side” path?

If the advice is so bad then how about you give him some good advice? I'm honestly curious to see what you consider to be good advice on getting women.

Not here, not now. It’s so NSFW.

Happy new year, fella.

Im assuming it's pua (or similar) google "pua" and you can read it. it's some weird nt thing lol

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

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31 Dec 2017, 5:28 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Hopelessly3 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Fireblossom wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

So many bad advices here, and kara as usual wants to send any man to therapy just for being upset. All bs again.

Are you willing to follow my “dark side” path?

If the advice is so bad then how about you give him some good advice? I'm honestly curious to see what you consider to be good advice on getting women.

Not here, not now. It’s so NSFW.

Happy new year, fella.

Im assuming it's pua (or similar) google "pua" and you can read it. it's some weird nt thing lol

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

you should start your own website :lol:

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31 Dec 2017, 7:04 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

So many bad advices here, and kara as usual wants to send any man to therapy just for being upset. All bs again.

Are you willing to follow my “dark side” path?

>Brags about his great advice.
>Refuses to share it because of some bollocks excuse.

Just get to the part where you explain how much your miracle solution costs.

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01 Jan 2018, 4:28 am

At least you can get first dates. I can't even get that.

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01 Jan 2018, 4:51 am

Sabreclaw wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

So many bad advices here, and kara as usual wants to send any man to therapy just for being upset. All bs again.

Are you willing to follow my “dark side” path?

>Brags about his great advice.
>Refuses to share it because of some bollocks excuse.

Just get to the part where you explain how much your miracle solution costs.

It is not a magical solution; it only works for those who have the looks advantage edge; It seems the OP is very good looking because he gets a lot of First dates in a short time - something that an average guy may only get one in a blue moon.

He needs to exploit that.

SabreClaw... seriously, in wp, had I ever claimed something that didn’t turn out to be true and supported by evidences?

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01 Jan 2018, 5:29 am

The plurals of “advice” and “evidence” are “advice” and “evidence”. No S.

Fart bum.

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01 Jan 2018, 5:34 am

English is so weird.

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01 Jan 2018, 8:12 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

The Boo way was simply starting with casual sex/FWB and see if it progresses to a relationship? Or at least that's how you got your girlfriend, wasn't it?

Though as you refuse to say what your advice is, it's probably something else, because that wouldn't be too NSFW.

Did you at least PM the OP your advice yet, if you don't want to say it more publicly?

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01 Jan 2018, 8:40 am

NorthWind wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

The Boo way was simply starting with casual sex/FWB and see if it progresses to a relationship? Or at least that's how you got your girlfriend, wasn't it?

But the question is I never revealed here: how was I able get FWBs via online means in the first place?

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Though as you refuse to say what your advice is, it's probably something else, because that wouldn't be too NSFW.

Did you at least PM the OP your advice yet, if you don't want to say it more publicly?

Only if he wants, he can pm me.

I am still undecided whether to reveal it here publicly or not, it may cause a flaming war here. It would shock you ladies, that's for sure, to find out how dark the naughty side of your gender on dating apps can be.

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01 Jan 2018, 11:03 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

NorthWind wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

The Boo way was simply starting with casual sex/FWB and see if it progresses to a relationship? Or at least that's how you got your girlfriend, wasn't it?

But the question is I never revealed here: how was I able get FWBs via online means in the first place?

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You bribe them with chocolate.

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01 Jan 2018, 11:04 am

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English is so weird.

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10 Jan 2018, 2:18 am

NorthWind wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Not at all; it is by far more straightforward and honest way than the pua materials.

The Boo way is more animalistic.

From the other thread:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

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OP, I had sex with my current gf on the 2nd date.
And there was sex talk before the 1st date; we are fine lovers now.

FunkyPunky, you (and someone else) complained before that women always lose interest on first date. That they don’t feel “Chemistry” - I will tell you a secret: “Chemistry” is their gentle wordin of sexual arousal.

Do you know why they lose interest? do you want to hear it? I will tell you: because a woman won’t feel aroused while you two are sitting and having a coffee (even if you are smart and talking smart things) unless you are hot looking like Ben Affelk or Ryan Gosling. Otherwise.... down there, in her pants, nothing will move.

In my expetience, the most guaranteed way to assure “Chemistry” is early good sex.

ALL my first dates that started in a traditional and “civil” way have failed, despite them being very responsive in conversations.

And ALL the dates which happened after a sexual encounter (some eveb started with simply sexual talk online or on the phone) ended up as relationships/flings. Do you know why? Because you already become her fantasy subject even before dating her for real - the “Chemistry” toward you has already been released.

First Dates after sex/sexual talk are very different than the First Dates without any sexual thing before it; the latter case girls would seek for the slightest thing in you to judge you and dismiss you; if you are not hot as a celeb shr won’t fantasize about you, not even for a fraction of moment.
While in former case, and if the sexual experience was amazing; she already sees you as a sexual being, you’re already a real fantasy for her; and she would be way more likely to overlook your faults.

Here; I have finally exposed my secret! I have finally exposed my discovry of the female nature. Muhahah.

This is definitely true. If you can freely talk about sex, the awkwardness is gone.

So you see, men?

Come, gather around my camp fire, and let me give you a universal advice: all the typical dating advice you receive from the ladies here, collect them in one bag, and throw it out of the window to make it food for the feral dogs.

One first date experience that happened with the girl who's about my age (not the current gf) who became my fling before my current gf.

I flirted her online, and the online/voice communication then went from extreme sexual innuendo to....real sexual talk, after that wild night we set up a 'date', the date was in a Karaoke pub with her friends.

I went there, and took a place next to her, the singing was loud, she whispered in my ear "You're so cute and naughty, are you like with all girls?" - and I was like "Nah, only with the very hot girls", while looking in her eyes and lips - she smiled and she squeezed my tight under the table and whispered back "If you keep staring at me like that I will eat you".
After her friends left she dragged me to the WC (luckily it was unisex there) and made out inside.

We f****d for months later until I discovered...well...that she was married with someone living abroad and barely in contact. But that's a different story, and such experiences didn't just happened only with married women.

Now tell me, do you think the traditional gentleman coffee first date would end up like this? Never, it would bore her, like the 1000000 guys who bored her before you - no matter how smart and interesting and nice you were - her p**** will remain dry and therefore it ends up with a failure.

It's time for the men's world to know the truth.

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10 Jan 2018, 7:44 am

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Thing is a I can usually get dates, and the women seem very interested on the phone, with texting or talking. I tell them about my condition, and they always say they're okay with it. Then the first date happens, and then they meet me, and act like I have the plague. I don't see what I'm doing wrong.

When someone asks you who you are, don't respond with a DSM-5 diagnosis. You are SO much more than that.
Cultivate traits within yourself that contribute to making you somebody who you would want to be around. If you can't stand your own company, don't be surprised when the world agrees with you.
If there are some areas which you know are problematic; up your game. Study up and practice your people skills; things like empathy training, active listening, and conversational skills. Just because these things don't come easily to Aspies doesn't mean they can't be learned.
Be yourself, transparently; without pretense or artifice. No relationship can be founded upon deceit.
Take a sincere interest in your date; who they are; their interests, preferences, desires, and aspirations. When they articulate boundaries, needs, and wants; respect them.
RELAX. Anxiety is not your friend. Yes; the probability is that they'll reject you, and you will survive intact; no one has ever died of rejection. It's better for both of you not to waste each other's time pursuing a relationship that's stillborn.
There's no better training than real life. No date is a failure if you got to hone your skills and learned something which will make the next one better. Keep trying, and keep cultivating those things which would make you attractive as a mate.

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