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I cant understand why people just go for the looks now days. Thats what we humans mostly do, play the part of a fancy masquerade its funny i experience and observe it from the outside and myself not knowing how to play that game.
I think many people are either NTs or try to become NT, and NTs are fussy about looks and social status.
WtF? Now a days? Uh, you mean.. forever? It's not an NT thing, it's a human thing. People see attractive people and have biological responses in their genitals. It's completely normal, not some strange modern phenomenon exclusive to a small subset of people.
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14 Jun 2018, 9:57 am
Fay wrote:
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rdos wrote:
Fay wrote:
I cant understand why people just go for the looks now days. Thats what we humans mostly do, play the part of a fancy masquerade its funny i experience and observe it from the outside and myself not knowing how to play that game.
I think many people are either NTs or try to become NT, and NTs are fussy about looks and social status.
WtF? Now a days? Uh, you mean.. forever? It's not an NT thing, it's a human thing. People see attractive people and have biological responses in their genitals. It's completely normal, not some strange modern phenomenon exclusive to a small subset of people.
Ah...so you think stuff like instagram as example is the norm. Like Everything is just based on sex, advertisements, video clips are almost soft porns, its normal to dress up like prostitutes back at the 90s when i was a teen yes scantly clad wasnt the norm. You think its normal random people as examle like men sending photography of their genitals to random girls etc. IS Normal?! Yes its all about the looks and success in your gods damn life rater then the person itself. I dont say looks like physical attraction doesnt count. It does at first but its not the fashion that makes you atractive, neither it is your success. After a while none cares in a relationship if your hair is dressed perfectly as example, if your body after ageing still in a perfect shape it does no longer matter that much. Beauty or a career can be gone with a blink of an eye nothing is for guaranted in life. No need to feel offended about other peoples view, it doesnt mean that they judge nor need to be agreed on.
Most of that stuff and more is extremely common as norms in modern day life, especially in the gay community amongst my peers. Maybe looks don't matter to YOU, but there are plenty of people who have been in relationships for 10-20+ years who both hit the gym regularly and eat healthily because they have agreements with one another to remain fit & sexually attractive. Normal is whatever it is for a particular community, relationship, or person. Your views don't apply to everyone else, only yourself and people who share them.
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14 Jun 2018, 10:03 am
rdos wrote:
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Ah...so you think stuff like instagram as example is the norm. Like Everything is just based on sex, advertisements, video clips are almost soft porns, its normal to dress up like prostitutes back at the 90s when i was a teen yes scantly clad wasnt the norm.
Exactly. It wasn't long ago that sex was only allowed in marriage and you couldn't dress like a whore (without getting shunned). You also couldn't select between 1000s of photos of potential partners online, rather you had to pick one you had IRL contact with. I don't think the modern world is more successful than the past. After all, divorces have sky-rocketed and many more people are unwillingly single, which I see as a good sign that things worked better in the past.
Allowed by who? The sex police? Government? Church? WTF? Marriage & monogamy is a very short lived experiment in human history. Who's to say it was more successful? Maybe if you're only measuring by divorce rates. How many people stayed with abusive partners? Or had sexless marriages? Or put up with cheating? Or weren't attracted to their now fat partner? Or disliked their partner's unwillingness or inability to work and provide for them? Just because marriages stayed together doesn't mean they were good marriages. IMO, people having the freedom to do w/e they want w/o so much societal pressure to get married and stay that way is a great thing. More and more people are opting for some form of non-monogamous open relationship, too, which will likely prevent a lot of divorces for those who do decide to get married.
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