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22 May 2019, 6:01 pm

You maybe right. I think I have been on both sides.


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22 May 2019, 8:02 pm

sly279 wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Sorry if this is too explicit.

But when your 'boyfriend' takes you to the store in the rain, parks out in the parking lot not even near the door at all...and sends you in alone to go buy the condoms. Maybe end it right there stop having sex with him and sucking his d*ck, to save yourself the ghosting that is likely to soon follow once he's through with you.

That was years ago, but still I can't believe I didn't see it right then and there and just stop seeing him right then.

Sounds horrible he could at least dropped you off at the door
Did humor help?

Seriously that’s f****d up. Sorry that happen


Well that is what I am thinking...I mean it was bloody raining.

Its all good now because its so far in the past, but still makes me kind of mad to think about it.


There’s an important lesson: watch out for red flags and selfish behavior. It won’t get better.

I hate red flags. It’s so general.


I think that it should be clear by the current context that I’m referring to specific behaviors.

It would be hard to write an all-inclusive list.

Don’t yell at me.
Don’t swear at me.
Don’t be manipulative.
Don’t be pushy.
Don’t be controlling.

That sort of stuff.


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22 May 2019, 10:00 pm

I’ve seen the following as red flags
Doesn’t have a good job
Lives with family
Is fat
Etc
It’s basicaly just what some people don’t like but they call it red flags to pretreat universal of it.

Your list could be sumed up as don’t be a a****le

Except yelling people yell at each other when fighting both sides, couples will fight. Same for swearing

What I don’t like is when someone’s in bad mood or tired and yells at me for something unrelated.


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22 May 2019, 10:01 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
You maybe right. I think I have been on both sides.

I’m trying to be more selfish and less caring.


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22 May 2019, 10:23 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
Sorry if this is too explicit.

But when your 'boyfriend' takes you to the store in the rain, parks out in the parking lot not even near the door at all...and sends you in alone to go buy the condoms. Maybe end it right there stop having sex with him and sucking his d*ck, to save yourself the ghosting that is likely to soon follow once he's through with you.

That was years ago, but still I can't believe I didn't see it right then and there and just stop seeing him right then.



He made you wet.


Literally.



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23 May 2019, 6:54 am

sly279 wrote:
I’ve seen the following as red flags
Doesn’t have a good job
Lives with family
Is fat
Etc
It’s basicaly just what some people don’t like but they call it red flags to pretreat universal of it.

Your list could be sumed up as don’t be a a****le

Except yelling people yell at each other when fighting both sides, couples will fight. Same for swearing

What I don’t like is when someone’s in bad mood or tired and yells at me for something unrelated.


I don’t yell very often. I’d have to have a very good reason to.

Some couples yell when they fight all the time, but I’m not into that.


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23 May 2019, 8:21 am

A woman who will play "Hard To Get" will play other mind games, as well.


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