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03 Jun 2019, 9:03 am

Tell her "I was being friendly with you for so long, would you sleep with me?"
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Nope, don't do.



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03 Jun 2019, 11:10 am

I've actually had women tell me they prefer bad boys over nice guys.

One of my detractors on another forum claims the only solution is to go abroad to a non-Western culture. However, this detractor had his wife come back to the states with him, he loves Trump, and wants America to become a theocracy despite how Christianity messed him up in the first place.



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03 Jun 2019, 11:12 am

Not all women like bad boys.

Most liberal people in conservative parts of the country have relationships. There’s no need to move unless you want to anyway.


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03 Jun 2019, 11:32 am

He lives, probably, an hour's drive from Austin----which is a liberal enclave.



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03 Jun 2019, 11:38 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
He lives, probably, an hour's drive from Austin----which is a liberal enclave.


Then the problem is probably not the locale...

I don’t think that spending a lot of time and energy focusing on one’s location, which probably isn’t the main hurdle in this scenario, will probably help that much. it’s important to figure out what the actual problem is.

You probably need to find people you have stuff in common with and cultivate friendships with people of both genders. Sometimes this involves going outside of one’s comfort zone, but it’s not impossible.


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03 Jun 2019, 11:42 am

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Most liberal people in conservative parts of the country have relationships. There’s no need to move unless you want to anyway.


How do you know that for sure? I am not saying that Mark is right in his claim but what makes you sure that your claim is more correct?

I can relate to Mark somehow, I live in “bible belt” too... more accurately in a “All-Abrahamic books belt” lol (I live in a country of 40% christians, 50% muslims and 10% druze and others)... atheists are very few.

Are you telling me that me being an ex-muslim atheist doesn’t affect my dating chances with the locals? That it doesn’t shrink my dating pool by 10 times at least?

Hell, even the Christians at work don’t like it when they see me not fasting in Ramadan like what is expected from Muslims, and it’s not even a practice related to their religion. In other term they respect Muslims over atheists (and vice versa), and big time too.



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03 Jun 2019, 11:47 am

It's probably hard being an atheist in the Levant...



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03 Jun 2019, 11:52 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
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He lives, probably, an hour's drive from Austin----which is a liberal enclave.
Then the problem is probably not the locale...
Nor is it likely to be the local people; and if it is, then visiting another locale might be all that's needed.

I just spent a week in Austin, and found it to be an awesome place, even though the University of Texas was between terms, and most of the faculty, staff and students were gone. The Crown & Anchor Pub is a great place to hang out. Lots of people, lots of intellectual conversations, and lots of beer.

I'll be going back soon.


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03 Jun 2019, 11:53 am

Even the Rednecks take a break from being a Redneck when they are in Austin.



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03 Jun 2019, 11:54 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Most liberal people in conservative parts of the country have relationships. There’s no need to move unless you want to anyway.


How do you know that for sure? I am not saying that Mark is right in his claim but what makes you sure that your claim is more correct?

I can relate to Mark somehow, I live in “bible belt” too... more accurately in a “All-Abrahamic books belt” lol (I live in a country of 40% christians, 50% muslims and 10% druze and others)... atheists are very few.

Are you telling me that me being an ex-muslim atheist doesn’t affect my dating chances with the locals? That it doesn’t shrink my dating pool by 10 times at least?

Hell, even the Christians at work don’t like it when they see me not fasting in Ramadan like what is expected from Muslims, and it’s not even a practice related to their religion. In other term they respect Muslims over atheists (and vice versa), and big time too.


There are a lot of liberal people in a place like Austin. There were even liberal people in conservative parts of the country I’ve visited, like rural Kentucky (I have family that lives there).

Even if the dating pool is smaller, it’s still not impossible. It helps to be near a big city where there is more people and, thus, a greater opportunity for diversity.


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03 Jun 2019, 12:01 pm

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Even the Rednecks take a break from being a Redneck when they are in Austin.


There’s nothing wrong with being a redneck (or being around rednecks) from time to time.

I’m no stranger to those who shoot squirrels from their back porches and fix everything with duct tape.


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03 Jun 2019, 12:08 pm

I have met some nice rednecks. And I've met some really not-so-nice "liberal/enlightened" people, too.

I would say most rednecks only "dress the part." Most aren't stupid enough to go around shooting squirrels in their backyard, say.

I'm a New Yorker----yet I've liked auto racing (and NASCAR) since I was a kid. I used to watch the Indianapolis 500 religiously (that's not NASCAR---but it was USAC back in the day).



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03 Jun 2019, 12:13 pm

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I have met some nice rednecks. And I've met some really not-so-nice "liberal/enlightened" people, too.

I would say most rednecks only "dress the part." Most aren't stupid enough to go around shooting squirrels in their backyard, say.

I'm a New Yorker----yet I've liked auto racing (and NASCAR) since I was a kid. I used to watch the Indianapolis 500 religiously (that's not NASCAR---but it was USAC back in the day).


I’ve lived in rural areas and have known the real deal.

I often find them really down-to-earth and easy to talk to. I just try to avoid political conversations if at all possible.


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03 Jun 2019, 12:30 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:

Most liberal people in conservative parts of the country have relationships. There’s no need to move unless you want to anyway.


How do you know that for sure? I am not saying that Mark is right in his claim but what makes you sure that your claim is more correct?

I can relate to Mark somehow, I live in “bible belt” too... more accurately in a “All-Abrahamic books belt” lol (I live in a country of 40% christians, 50% muslims and 10% druze and others)... atheists are very few.

Are you telling me that me being an ex-muslim atheist doesn’t affect my dating chances with the locals? That it doesn’t shrink my dating pool by 10 times at least?

Hell, even the Christians at work don’t like it when they see me not fasting in Ramadan like what is expected from Muslims, and it’s not even a practice related to their religion. In other term they respect Muslims over atheists (and vice versa), and big time too.


There are a lot of liberal people in a place like Austin. There were even liberal people in conservative parts of the country I’ve visited, like rural Kentucky (I have family that lives there).

Even if the dating pool is smaller, it’s still not impossible. It helps to be near a big city where there is more people and, thus, a greater opportunity for diversity.



But he has no car if I am not mistaken.
Also most liberals aren’t autistics/living with mom/having low paying job like him, there are other factors in hand here.



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03 Jun 2019, 12:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:

Most liberal people in conservative parts of the country have relationships. There’s no need to move unless you want to anyway.


How do you know that for sure? I am not saying that Mark is right in his claim but what makes you sure that your claim is more correct?

I can relate to Mark somehow, I live in “bible belt” too... more accurately in a “All-Abrahamic books belt” lol (I live in a country of 40% christians, 50% muslims and 10% druze and others)... atheists are very few.

Are you telling me that me being an ex-muslim atheist doesn’t affect my dating chances with the locals? That it doesn’t shrink my dating pool by 10 times at least?

Hell, even the Christians at work don’t like it when they see me not fasting in Ramadan like what is expected from Muslims, and it’s not even a practice related to their religion. In other term they respect Muslims over atheists (and vice versa), and big time too.


There are a lot of liberal people in a place like Austin. There were even liberal people in conservative parts of the country I’ve visited, like rural Kentucky (I have family that lives there).

Even if the dating pool is smaller, it’s still not impossible. It helps to be near a big city where there is more people and, thus, a greater opportunity for diversity.



But he has no car if I am not mistaken.
Also most liberals aren’t autistics/living with mom/having low paying job like him, there are other factors in hand here.


Lots of people these days are in the same boat. Finding someone is by no means impossible here.


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03 Jun 2019, 12:36 pm

Marknis drives.