A suggestion for some (not all) heterosexual autistic men

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That’s what I did in high school. Hung out in the Village. I was even rejected by the “oddballs” in my high school because I was too square and straight. I would have done better had I gotten into pot and drinking.

Ultimately, though, I did better because I didn’t get into pot and drinking.

I attended a depression Meet Up event in Austin. The people were nice but the group leader eventually got hostile with someone there who she said was a friend of hers as well as a previous “f**k buddy”. They still went to get drunk somewhere even though the place the event was at was a coffeehouse/bar.

Who are the "they" that "still went to get drunk somewhere"? The entire group, or just the leader and her friend, or some larger subset of the group?

If you attend again, you might want to (with the leader's permission) ask if anyone would like to join you after the meeting to hang out at some place where you do NOT get drunk, while the others go off to get drunk? After all, surely there must be at least one or two recovering alcoholics or other non-drinkers in the group?

I grew up in a small Minnesota town of 30k (more or less) people, I knew everyone well because I used my extreme intelligence to become the sole supplier of any and all tryptomines in the area. I can boast about my teenage body count like a normie, but that's where all my existentialism starts. At 19 after a TOXIC attempt at a relationship I found a girl I intellectually, physically and emotionally love. But on a secular, drug addled interpretation of spirituality, my heart was stolen by the girl who took my virginity and it makes 0 sense to me how I can balance forced love, real love and high functioning autism without exploding. I think the biggest issue about stigma and dating is that most aspies let it defeat them instead of strengthening them. The other half may just be that you're ugly. I'm objectively an 11 on the attractiveness scale because I worked 4 times as hard for it. If I learned anything from black market capitalism, you can sell anything to anyone, especially if you have the power of Autism on your side.

People said same about me but here I am 31 now and still forever alone.
So I’d say his chances are low. Do everything he can now, as it gets lower every year he gets older until like me it’s zero chance.

^Telling yourself negative things to reinforce the negativity you feel is helpful how?

The group leader and her “friend”. Most of the group had dispersed by then.

I will try going two more times before I decide whether I should stick with it or not. I did get a flashback when I saw a woman who looked like an ex-friend.

But then there are also others, even on this forum, who had no success until their mid to late 20s. It's impossible to know where I'll fall, but I get the feeling that staying stagnant will see my situation stay the same, where if I keep losing weight, work on doing better career-wise, etc, I stand a better chance. I would agree that it's still something I should be concerned about, though.

I am feeling burned out once again. I don’t have any options to change my life unless I regress back to what I used to be.

I think you could adopt the same weight loss strategy that I have it you wanted to.

I don't know about you, but my confidence levels would improve a lot if I wasn't carrying this extra weight.

It's not the only thing I'll need to do, and it likely wouldn't be for you either, but it's a good thing to start off with to gain momentum that can help with other goals. Not to mention you have noticeably more energy when you're not significantly overweight which can help with other pursuits. I gained about 30kg (65 pounds) in less than 6 months during a particularly difficult period at the start of last year, and I thought I had pretty low energy before then. Well, it's a fair bit worse now, let me tell you that.

After you've been there another time or two, I again would suggest that (with the leader's permission) you extend an invitation to anyone else in the group who wants to hang out longer to go with you to some inexpensive diner or coffeeshop. That way you'll be able to get to know some of the people better.