Two kinds of women I wanted to be with.

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08 Dec 2019, 4:20 pm

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I just hate how I never get even an inch towards achieving my goal no matter how many years pass. This year is almost over and I didn’t even get a f*****g coffee date. I already fear by the end of next year, I will still post something like this.

Yeah, that's frustrating. Things take so much time!
But I really see you have made some things better since I started reading your posts. You seem to be slowly emerging from the sea of negativity - and that's good, negativity is an enormous no.

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08 Dec 2019, 4:25 pm

^ At this rate, it would take him about 9-10 years to emerge from it.

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08 Dec 2019, 4:27 pm

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^ At this rate, it would take him about 9-10 years to emerge from it.

Even if so, better this than never.
But this remark is not helpful, anyway.

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08 Dec 2019, 5:00 pm

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I just wish there was a girlfriend waiting for me before the year ends.

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08 Dec 2019, 6:06 pm

magz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ At this rate, it would take him about 9-10 years to emerge from it.

Even if so, better this than never.
But this remark is not helpful, anyway.

Neither yours.

Markis needs something else.

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09 Dec 2019, 12:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

magz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ At this rate, it would take him about 9-10 years to emerge from it.

Even if so, better this than never.
But this remark is not helpful, anyway.

Neither yours.

Markis needs something else.

Counselling

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09 Dec 2019, 1:04 am

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kraftiekortie wrote:

You didn't name the "two types of women."

You're still young.

I know there are overlapping traits between the two but the former is more “geeky” while the latter is more “gothic”.

This woman looks goth in some of her videos and punk in some others: https://m.youtube.com/user/ch527kerosene/featured

Frankly my years of dating experience the cosplay girls, emo and goths (basically the alt-dress-up types) are the most picky. They are also (generally) arrogant, self-centred and narcissistic...

You might as well send this as a draft script for Mission Impossible 7....good luck

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09 Dec 2019, 2:16 am

cyberdad wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

magz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ At this rate, it would take him about 9-10 years to emerge from it.

Even if so, better this than never.
But this remark is not helpful, anyway.

Neither yours.

Markis needs something else.

Counselling

Counselling does not find girlfriends but may help with negativity (if properly worked), so yes.

The way I see Mark, inability to find a girlfriend is a tip of an iceberg. Aiming at the tip of an iceberg won't help, you blow it up, it emerges again. On the other hand, getting rid of the whole iceberg must take time, it can't be done with a single blow.
What the non-tip parts of the iceberg are? Nobody (likely including Mark himself) knows everything but from the posts I have read, I could identify negativity and horribly unhealthy family relationships. And the two have improved significantly since I first read Mark's posts, though a lot more still can be done.

Mark, I relate to you with this frustrating slowness. My progress in three years of very laborous therapy - I used to linger in depression for months, sometimes years, now I can get out of it in about a week. I'm not cured of chronic depression, I still suffer every time I fall, but I've learned a lot about dealing with it. It's no miraculous cure, it's a long, hard and often scary way to go, but it's the right direction.

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09 Dec 2019, 2:36 am

magz wrote:

Counselling does not find girlfriends but may help with negativity (if properly worked), so yes.

There is a saying....Before learning to walk you must first learn to crawl...Marknis is too arrogant to learn to crawl so is a lost case

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09 Dec 2019, 2:41 am

cyberdad wrote:

magz wrote:

Counselling does not find girlfriends but may help with negativity (if properly worked), so yes.

There is a saying....Before learning to walk you must first learn to crawl...Marknis is too arrogant to learn to crawl so is a lost case

Reported both for sarcasm as well as personally attacking me.

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09 Dec 2019, 2:58 am

Sarcasm is not forbidden in L&D but in this particular thread I believe it might be counter-productive.

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09 Dec 2019, 3:01 am

magz wrote:

Sarcasm is not forbidden in L&D but in this particular thread I believe it might be counter-productive.

I am also sick of his personal attacks towards me, especially when I don’t do anything to warrant them.

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09 Dec 2019, 3:05 am

Personal attacks are forbidden all over the site.

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09 Dec 2019, 3:13 am

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Sarcasm is not forbidden in L&D but in this particular thread I believe it might be counter-productive.

I am also sick of his personal attacks towards me, especially when I don’t do anything to warrant them.

Like clockwork....keep moaning and then when somebody suggests something constructive you report them and then go back to moaning

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09 Dec 2019, 3:15 am

cyberdad wrote:

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Sarcasm is not forbidden in L&D but in this particular thread I believe it might be counter-productive.

I am also sick of his personal attacks towards me, especially when I don’t do anything to warrant them.

Like clockwork....keep moaning and then when somebody suggests something constructive you report them

Yet another personal attack. Stop trying to dress it up as anything else. I also didn’t shoot down magz.

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09 Dec 2019, 3:15 am

magz wrote:

Personal attacks are forbidden all over the site.

Nobody is attacking him

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