Is it pointless to have sex just to say ''you've done it'' ?

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Wow, am I really jealous of you, Miss Sara. You got yourself someone in a relationship with, while I, OTOH, am still single as a lone wolf.

Why can't the relationship between your new boyfriend and you last more than two years?

You seem to seem have feelings for your ex-boyfriend.

This is not a good situation, especially for the new boyfriend.

Pretty sure she means they're long distance and in 2 years or less her boyfriend will relocate and they'll be able to physically be together..

I re-read what she wrote.

I could be wrong:

But it seems to me that she stated that when the new boyfriend "leaves" in two years or less, that she'll try to seduce her ex-boyfriend.

She feels her mother wouldn't approve of this.

"leaves where he is" is what indicated to me that he's somewhere else. Could be long distance, could be living at his parents place.. either way it sounds like she's waiting for him to move from where he is so they can be alone together.

Mikuro is the only person who could provide clarity

Uh if he only lives 3 hours away why wait 2 years?

I'm pretty sure "leaves where he is", by this she meant that she hopes that her relationship with her new boyfriend will be very stable.

^Could very well be…based on a third reading.

"Leaves where he is" could mean moves out of his wife's house.

It probably would but I don't know if it would make me any more happier or satisfied though. I remember having a discussion about it with some of my family talking about how some people resort to finding a prostitute or going to find someone to have sex with in somewhere like Amsterdam. I don't think that if I was to do that I'd feel any better as I seem to think that going to a prostitute (someone you have only just met and don't know very well and probably don't intend to befriend them) would like be a bit like turning up at the hospital for surgery worth a lot of money to have a nose job and then coming out with a new-looking nose in order to just look more attractive. It doesn't make me comfortable even thinking about. It feels as though its better to have sex with someone you know very well and love than with someone who doesn't really love you and is doing it as a job and for money.

Last edited by chris1989 on 16 Dec 2022, 6:12 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I think most people would agree, visiting a prostitute is really a last resort regarding such carnal matters.

I love prostitutes in the right circumstances. I like the clubs where you wear a robe and are surrounded by 50 naked women having drinks and eating dinner. I like some other venues as well.

To a degree it can be all in your head about it being a bad experience. It is kinda hard for me to wrap my head around it being a bad experience under the right circumstances.

I understand people are different. My favorite place to eat dinner can be a brothel. Granted, there are many places I would not eat the food or drink the drinks.

Many places are designed for entertainment. How hard is it to enjoy a bar in Thailand? The whole thing is designed for entertainment.

Yes this is correct

I don't know if I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend though

He is now LGBT

My new boyfriend is 3 hours away and I have no way to visit him because we no longer have a car so we keep in touch through letters

I have never really "seduced" a man before but I want to try

Of course my mom wouldn't approve but it's not her decision to make

HOWEVER, sex is kinda something I'm saving for marriage and it's part of why I want to get married as soon as possible!

Well the whole thing is a two-edged sword. On the one hand, many people believe prostitution should be legalized, one reason being that in a system where prostitution is legal, sex workers of all sorts would be protected. In fact it is legal in a few places, although even in those places it's possible some people who might be called prostitutes still operate on the fringe. On the other hand, there is a widespread perception that prostitution is basically exploitation and nobody, at least no woman, should ever have to resort to that as a way to support herself, so even if it was legal we would still be expected to think of her as a victim and deprived of her self-respect. As a consequence, a prostitute's customers, especially a female prostitute's male customers, are shamed and thought to be contributing to the prostitute's fall from grace simply by being a customer (as well as being a loser). I see no reason why transactional sex can't be normalized. It would actually help with a lot of societal issues. I've been around long enough to know that women are capable of having sex without romantic attachment, so what's so bad if they also make some money along the way?

This also seems to be a question on which feminists don't seem to agree. I have seen feminists who strongly favor legalization and others who don't think enough is being done to eradicate prostitution, especially by way of apprehending and prosecuting the prostitutes' customers.

Some prostitutes have said they love their job. When asked one said "The money, I can do what I like when i like"