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05 Jun 2024, 11:35 am

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The level of demonization to which this woman none of us know is being subjected to is ludicrous. You'd think she conned him out of his inheritance, stole his dog, his pickup truck and his old acoustic guitar so he won't even get a hit country song out of his experiences, instead of just not putting out.


It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times. The onus isn't entirely on him to break up, the onus is more in her to select men more appropriately and take their feelings into consideration from the offset


She seems very unsporting. Not good GF material in my eyes. We have different views and I don't touch people like that with a barge pole.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:40 am

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It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


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05 Jun 2024, 11:41 am

Some posts seem like the belong on a platform with a slightly different user base than WP. However, if we were to use a Venn diagram, there’d certainly be some overlap.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:42 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
The level of demonization to which this woman none of us know is being subjected to is ludicrous. You'd think she conned him out of his inheritance, stole his dog, his pickup truck and his old acoustic guitar so he won't even get a hit country song out of his experiences, instead of just not putting out.


And ironically when men have actually done things like that to the women on WP and we mention it, we get no sympathy. Many members think we're exaggerating or lying, but even when we say it's true it's nowhere NEAR as bad as when they don't get sex with a woman.


My inheritance was stolen and my ex killed my dog.
He stole and sold my mother's car.
He pawned away my kids' electronics including X-Boxes.

But hey, that doesn't matter.

Dudes here gotta get laid.


If I trusted opinions here I'd be under the impression that not putting out is the worst form of abuse that can occur within a relationship, much worse than you know, actual abusive behaviour.


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05 Jun 2024, 11:43 am

funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:44 am

Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.


So, even you admit it's baseless speculation when push comes to shove.


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05 Jun 2024, 11:45 am

funeralxempire wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
The level of demonization to which this woman none of us know is being subjected to is ludicrous. You'd think she conned him out of his inheritance, stole his dog, his pickup truck and his old acoustic guitar so he won't even get a hit country song out of his experiences, instead of just not putting out.


And ironically when men have actually done things like that to the women on WP and we mention it, we get no sympathy. Many members think we're exaggerating or lying, but even when we say it's true it's nowhere NEAR as bad as when they don't get sex with a woman.


My inheritance was stolen and my ex killed my dog.
He stole and sold my mother's car.
He pawned away my kids' electronics including X-Boxes.

But hey, that doesn't matter.

Dudes here gotta get laid.


If I trusted opinions here I'd be under the impression that not putting out is the worst form of abuse that can occur within a relationship, much worse than you know, actual abusive behaviour.


Where did I mention abuse or trivialise it?.......the thread isn't even about abuse.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:45 am

funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.


So, even you admit it's baseless speculation when push comes to shove.


Yes. Unrealistic if people can't speculate.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:45 am

Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.

It’s not though. You are jumping to conclusions about this woman when there are many possibilities that could be at work. Your stance is rooted in insufficient evidence and confirmation bias.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:47 am

Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
The level of demonization to which this woman none of us know is being subjected to is ludicrous. You'd think she conned him out of his inheritance, stole his dog, his pickup truck and his old acoustic guitar so he won't even get a hit country song out of his experiences, instead of just not putting out.


And ironically when men have actually done things like that to the women on WP and we mention it, we get no sympathy. Many members think we're exaggerating or lying, but even when we say it's true it's nowhere NEAR as bad as when they don't get sex with a woman.


My inheritance was stolen and my ex killed my dog.
He stole and sold my mother's car.
He pawned away my kids' electronics including X-Boxes.

But hey, that doesn't matter.

Dudes here gotta get laid.


If I trusted opinions here I'd be under the impression that not putting out is the worst form of abuse that can occur within a relationship, much worse than you know, actual abusive behaviour.


Where did I mention abuse or trivialise it?.......the thread isn't even about abuse.

You’re the one who brought up the topic of consent which is absurd.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:47 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.

It’s not though. You are jumping to conclusions about this woman when there are many possibilities that could be going on. Your stance is rooted in insufficient evidence and confirmation bias.


What's wrong with that? I can't exactly drag her into wrong planet so we can all interrogate her. The best source is from whatohavealife which I'm using.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:48 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.

It’s not though. You are jumping to conclusions about this woman when there are many possibilities that could be at work. Your stance is rooted in insufficient evidence and confirmation bias.


Yes. It's literally overcompensating for being piss-poor at reading people's intentions. Maybe it's a trauma response for Nades, but it's still jumping to negative conclusions about people based on insufficient evidence.


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05 Jun 2024, 11:50 am

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Where did I mention abuse or trivialise it?.......the thread isn't even about abuse.

You’re the one who brought up the topic of consent which is absurd.


Consent is a varied topic. Not respecting consent can include not taking no for an answer, pressuring people into dojng what theh dknt want to do but also mocking other for past sexual encounters, making it difficult to meet potential partners and other stuff.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:52 am

funeralxempire wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.

It’s not though. You are jumping to conclusions about this woman when there are many possibilities that could be at work. Your stance is rooted in insufficient evidence and confirmation bias.


Yes. It's literally overcompensating for being piss-poor at reading people's intentions. Maybe it's a trauma response for Nades, but it's still jumping to negative conclusions about people based on insufficient evidence.


This isn't how real life works.



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05 Jun 2024, 11:53 am

Nades wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Nades wrote:


Where did I mention abuse or trivialise it?.......the thread isn't even about abuse.

You’re the one who brought up the topic of consent which is absurd.


Consent is a varied topic. Not respecting consent can include not taking no for an answer, pressuring people into dojng what theh dknt want to do but also mocking other for past sexual encounters, making it difficult to meet potential partners and other stuff.


How is that interfering with consent. It seems like you're trying to insist making someone insecure or cockblocking them is actually denying their ability to consent, which is pure guano.


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05 Jun 2024, 11:53 am

Nades wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Nades wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Nades wrote:
It's the fact she probably picked him because he was vulnerable, hidden her problems around intimacy for months, carried on with seemingly little regard for him and the fact she's done it before numerous times.


<citation needed>


I know people here struggle to read the intentions of people, it's a website for autism after all, but it should be pretty easy to see what was likely going on.

It’s not though. You are jumping to conclusions about this woman when there are many possibilities that could be going on. Your stance is rooted in insufficient evidence and confirmation bias.


What's wrong with that? I can't exactly drag her into wrong planet so we can all interrogate her. The best source is from whatohavealife which I'm using.

Sometimes it might be prudent to consider the source.

It’s not cool that members have to deal with this nonsense, especially members who have trauma and have experienced actual nonconsensual relationships/situations. No one is obligated to have sex with anyone. It seems like in the situation either person could have split up. Neither is more responsible than the other.

It’s time to move on. Not getting laid isn’t the worst thing that can happen to a person. It’s bizarre that people are still harping on it after so much time has passed. Therapy might be something to consider.