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M is right, and BTW, do you actually tell girls this when asking them out? That it's only a cup of coffee.

lol funny , taking my words literally. When I say that I don't expect more than small walk or coffee means that I am not expecting something romantic or wild because you need to know the person gradually ...step by step , that's the purpose of dates in fact.

Btw, what do YOU actually tell girls this when asking them out? "Oh I want to go out with you so I can see if you are good enough to be my future potential wife" ?

LPP, I was speaking in context of confusion between ToS and I. If you got offended, I'm sorry as that was not the intent. But I stand by that as I read his posts and mine, we have different meanings and different structures. No words were ever put in anyone's mouth, as it was said that >I< had an impression... so you are free to withdraw your comment there.

No, not everyone owns their own business. Does not mean that there aren't myriad other ways to get involved.


M.

well besides school, I go out to the mall at least 3 times a week
(to the gaming store-you know warhammer, magic cards that sorta stuff)
I don't ask any girls out right now, I am too flustered (personal stuff) but I do have female friends, which is fine with me
I meet lots of new people, though gaming stores like that aren't the best place to meet women, though I am not really looking TBH, but that doesn't mean I don't know how to interact with women (and I do on a daily basis)
I just am looking for friends (you can't go from 0-30 in one swoop)
I am not the type to simply go up to a girl I don't know and ask her out.

hehehehehe .....you have just contradicted all your above statements and showed agreement with my point.

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hey I didn't say I couldn't, I said I didn't

I have before-I just don't anymore
I was just answering your question

In the last year...

I attended church weekly. I'd say once every few months, somebody will try to set me up with a random (unattractive) girl they knew.

I used to do volunteer work, I'd meet a different woman once every few weeks or so, I went on a date with 2 of them.

I got onto an online dating site and had a gf (in person) for a month before we broke up.

I had 2 drunken 1 night stands (It's a bit of a story for how those gat started)

Right now my big focus is classwork, not my dream girl. But considering the progress I made with only a few hours (if that) bing sacrificed from my week, I'd say that you're overestimating the effort needed to have a relationship with the oppositee sex.

As a female, I cannot stand being around self pity whiners.

I will also not date you just because you ask either. It's about chemistry. Sometimes it takes longer to build up and sometimes it's just not going to happen.

I really hope guys here don't hate women who turn them down as if because they got the nerve to ask someone out that it must go their way.

It's a two way street.

You are doing exactly what you claimed you were against in this thread. After reading you, it seems that you are questioning if Alex really has aspergers or not.

I don't know Alex. There are several contributing factors to how someone turns out with aspergers. I think the problem with aspies is that they find themselves in a group of people that have the same diagnosis but aren't all affected the same.

Alex may have had support and help. I know of people who have not. Naturally if you have more support and help rather than the opposite, you are more prone to overcome certain obstacles than someone who has not.

With personalities and dealing with situations, everyone takes the same event differently and interprets speeches differently. That creates an individual outcome.

Would you classify me as one of those?


I wish people would stop using that term in that context. Chemistry is what makes Hydrochloric acid and Sodium Hydroxide produce saltwater. Chemistry is what makes iron accumulate oxygen over time to produce rust. Chemistry is not a catch-all psychological term to use as a shorthand for psychological compatibility.


On the contrary, a woman that flat out turns me down is a godsend... at the very least she had the common courtesy to not string me along like most women do...

seems most of them do (yet are obsessed about f*****g them)

^ not sure what Kilroy meant on the second part in paranthesis but I know I've been turned down and I don't hold that against them but most people take it like that one guy in my class was friends with a girl I also talk to and she turned him down so now he hates her and they talk anymore at all I got turned down just asking her to hang out with me but I still talk to her b/c I'd rather talk to her and not get anything else than not get anything at all... course I make a point to not invest emotionally until I get to know them which has yet to happen....

I already know what chemistry is in scientific terms however it can be often used to describe a connection, attraction etc..

I'm not going to stop using that term to describe a connection with others just because you don't like it.

Your name looks familiar. Did you ask me in another topic if I would dance with you over a self pitier even if you were the worst dancer in the world?

I'm glad that you prefer flat out turn downs however in my case, often times I didn't even GET the person was hitting on me often until later or we became friends and the person tells me 6+ months later and our friendship ends.

I'm not sure if the females you met knew you were hitting on them and strung you along or if they didn't get that you were interested.

If they did get you were interested and was playing games, yes in agreeance that is not a very good situation.

Don't know you well enough to classify you as a wallowing self pity type. My basic impression is that you probably have some low times but remain strong? I really don't know. What do you think you are?

Still, I have a right to not like it, just as you have a right to use it.


Yeah that was me, in one of my lighter moments.


Well, you're probably right. Most of the time I don't even know if I'm attracted to a woman myself until a month or so in. It happens gradually, but eventually reaches (and surpasses) the level that other people have at their first attraction. I can't just magically flip the emoiton of attraction on like a switch as most NT's can (ironically, it's the only one I can't do so...)


...although I didn't get what you were trying to say here.


I once was a big self-pity type, but I outgrew it. Being alone can have an effect on me sometimes, though, especially since I haven't resigned myself to being alone...

You are totally right and you have the total right of not liking the self-pity whiners and you are totally right that guys shouldn't hate women after rejections.
But this thread is not about self-pity whiners , it is about 2 different approaches of dating.

I recall a question asked for a female's input and I gave my input.