What kind of woman would think Asperger's is sexy?

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07 May 2019, 3:36 am

I think this thread is useless, there's no way to pinpoint certain what are the type(s) of women who are more likely to find AS as sexy.

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07 May 2019, 4:05 am

Twilightprincess wrote:

I’d prefer dating an Aspie male over a NT one.

I like nerds, am a nerd, and can’t stand alpha males.

What about Alpha Nerds?

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07 May 2019, 4:10 am

My NT mother. Especially ones without social anxiety. She loves the confidence it takes to be unique and be oneself. The two men she's liked the most in her life have been, well not diagnosed aspie but she calls them aspie and they act totally aspie.

It's probably unhealthy but she also prefers me being aspie than if I was NT. Like the opposite of one of those 'autism parents'. She tells me she's really glad I'm aspie because it makes me an individual and that she'd love me if I was NT too but she'd not like me as much as a person.

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07 May 2019, 5:37 am

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She tells me she's really glad I'm aspie because it makes me an individual and that she'd love me if I was NT too but she'd not like me as much as a person.

A parent's love for their child is unconditional

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07 May 2019, 5:44 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I think this thread is useless, there's no way to pinpoint certain what are the type(s) of women who are more likely to find AS as sexy.

Here's a good place to start
https://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Girlfrien ... e-Autistic

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07 May 2019, 7:10 am

cyberdad wrote:

KT67 wrote:

She tells me she's really glad I'm aspie because it makes me an individual and that she'd love me if I was NT too but she'd not like me as much as a person.

A parent's love for their child is unconditional

My dad's wasn't. A decent parent's one is yeah, but once someone's out of childhood their parents don't have to like them and vice versa. Like isn't love.

Parental love is built in but like is about if you enjoy someone's company.

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07 May 2019, 10:50 am

KT67 wrote:

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She tells me she's really glad I'm aspie because it makes me an individual and that she'd love me if I was NT too but she'd not like me as much as a person.

A parent's love for their child is unconditional

I’ve noticed that some parents have trouble bonding with their kids unless they have stuff in common.

I had such an overwhelming feeling of love when my son was born that it’s hard for me to understand parents who don’t bond with their kids, but I’ve seen it happen.

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07 May 2019, 10:52 am

Wolfram87 wrote:

Twilightprincess wrote:

I’d prefer dating an Aspie male over a NT one.

I like nerds, am a nerd, and can’t stand alpha males.

What about Alpha Nerds?

Sure!

I don’t have a lot in common with people who aren’t nerdy.

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07 May 2019, 2:58 pm

KT67 wrote:

cyberdad wrote:

KT67 wrote:

She tells me she's really glad I'm aspie because it makes me an individual and that she'd love me if I was NT too but she'd not like me as much as a person.

A parent's love for their child is unconditional

Subtle but very important difference! I know plenty of people who love their kids, but don't actually like them.

"A parent's love is unconditional" is often passed as fact, but it actually isn't. The exceptions are way too frequent to ignore or even for me to be sure it is actually "the norm".

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08 May 2019, 1:57 am

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"A parent's love is unconditional" is often passed as fact, but it actually isn't. The exceptions are way too frequent to ignore or even for me to be sure it is actually "the norm".

The axiom was in response to "my mom would love me more as an Aspie compared to if I was born an NT".

My point (if it's at all relevant to you hormonal teens) is that all parents develop similar levels of love (whatever the level is) for their child regardless of whether they are a "super Aspie", a low functioning autistic or NT.

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08 May 2019, 2:08 am

Ah ok.

(Just because I'm 21 years your junior doesn't mean I'm a 'hormonal teen' though. Hormonal woman in her prime, maybe :wink: )

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08 May 2019, 2:43 am

well, from a neuropsychological perspective emerging adulthood (hormonal period) is from 15-25 so you fit in.... :wink:

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08 May 2019, 3:15 am

I'm 30 haha

(And I need to quit talking like this with guys, I'm taking it as banter but some guys assume I'm straight!)

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08 May 2019, 3:42 am

KT67 wrote:

(And I need to quit talking like this with guys, I'm taking it as banter but some guys assume I'm straight!)

So you have a rule not to talk to straight men?

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08 May 2019, 5:45 am

No, that's most of my mates.

Just some guys take joking as flirting when it comes from any woman. I want to get into the craic without it being seen like that.

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08 May 2019, 9:06 am

cyberdad wrote:

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"A parent's love is unconditional" is often passed as fact, but it actually isn't. The exceptions are way too frequent to ignore or even for me to be sure it is actually "the norm".

I don't see any "hormonal teens" in here

Both KT67 and Twilightprincess made good points about how (different) neurology might affect bonding between parent and child.

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