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06 Feb 2018, 5:13 pm

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No but she felt like vomiting and got dizzy and had to go sit down, and people asked what happen

that’s how ugly I am.
I’m also so ugly and worthless no one ever sets me up, but they set up just about all the other single people at work .

It's been explained to you many times over that it's because you believe this, live, breathe, and behave it that others won't set you up with girls. It's your depression, anxiety, and social awkwardness far more than what you look like.

I know some pretty ugly people who are happily in relationships. They're not depressed/suicidal and can be a real joy to be around. Others would set them up with coworkers etc, too.

Chances are you simply believe you're uglier than people think you really are. Everyone is their own worst critic.

It still remains that no one is going to jump at the chance to introduce you to people while you remain in the state you are. No one is thinking "Oh yeah, sly, the guy who's suicidally depressed.. yeah, <girl name> might really be into him!"

Horse-Cart. You've got to get your depression under control before anyone will introduce you to others. Then it'll be "Oh yeah, sly, he's a nice guy, maybe she'd like him?" Even aspies get set up with people despite their social awkwardness. It's the crippling depression that's your biggest constraint.

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06 Feb 2018, 6:14 pm

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If I did Internet dating, I'd probably get lots of rejections, too. I'm short.

I get a lot of rejections in person too, one lady actually got physical sick from me asking her out. Ugly is ugly doesn’t matter if it’s online or in person

Are you saying that you asked a woman, face to face, to go out on a date with you and she looked at you and vomited?

No but she felt like vomiting and got dizzy and had to go sit down, and people asked what happen

that’s how ugly I am.
I’m also so ugly and worthless no one ever sets me up, but they set up just about all the other single people at work .

I suspect that she didn’t really feel that way, but enjoyed the attention her deliberate bitchiness was getting for her. She sounds mean.

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06 Feb 2018, 6:47 pm

Sly really isn't ugly at all. He's pretty average looking. Certainly not enough for somebody to get nauseous about it.

And he probably smells pretty good, too. Because one of his "special interests" is shaving.

People get nauseous if somebody has really bad breath or something. Even people who look like models could have fetid breath.

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06 Feb 2018, 7:23 pm

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That's the thing I keep pointing out. It's sly's own perception of himself that's so negative due to his depression. I know first hand because I used to be horribly depressed. I also, at the time, believed I was as ugly as sly believes he is, because you literally perceive everything through the most negative imaginable filter.

Now I'm not depressed. I don't think I'm "hot," but at the very least I'm average. Some people are attracted to me, others aren't, that's that. I'm in better physical shape & that's certainly more attractive. Although, I've slipped a bit this Winter & it's time to get super strict on diet and exercise again - not just for appearance, but for general health.

Like a broken record.. if sly would treat his depression & get it under control his perceptions of literally everything would improve, including what he thinks of himself when he looks in the mirror.

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06 Feb 2018, 7:52 pm

AnneOleson wrote:

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kraftiekortie wrote:

If I did Internet dating, I'd probably get lots of rejections, too. I'm short.

I get a lot of rejections in person too, one lady actually got physical sick from me asking her out. Ugly is ugly doesn’t matter if it’s online or in person

Are you saying that you asked a woman, face to face, to go out on a date with you and she looked at you and vomited?

No but she felt like vomiting and got dizzy and had to go sit down, and people asked what happen

that’s how ugly I am.
I’m also so ugly and worthless no one ever sets me up, but they set up just about all the other single people at work .

I suspect that she didn’t really feel that way, but enjoyed the attention her deliberate bitchiness was getting for her. She sounds mean.

I dont know she is one of the nicer women at work. Like I was sad yesterday after over hearing she was setting the new lady u with another guy at work, and she noticed later and asked if I was ok and stayed for a bit trying to get me to talk. Also the manager came u right as it happen and she was on clock.

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06 Feb 2018, 7:55 pm

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I don’t think so. Cause average looking people will still have a good amount of people who find the, attractive. As well as others who don’t hence why they average.
No woman has ever found me good looking. They all said I’m ugly or unattractive. Not a single woman has felt otherwise. Hard facts to ingore. If I was average thered have to been atleast a few women who find me attractive.

You seem to have a thing about breath.
I brush my teeth and use gum

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06 Feb 2018, 7:59 pm

To some women, nice breath on a man is much more important than "looks."

I feel the same way about women.

I'm overly sensitive to "bad breath." I'm sensitive about my own breath.

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06 Feb 2018, 9:01 pm

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If that were true, please explain how you’re not a virgin. You’ve stated that you’ve gad sex with at least one woman before, possibly more than one. How is it possible that she/they were repulsed by your appearance and yet still had consensual sex with you?

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14 Feb 2018, 3:58 pm

Back to what this was for

Is this a good sounding ad for Craigslist

I’m seeking a romantic partner to love and cuddle.

I’m really playful and silly. I like geeky things like video games and sci-fi , but also enjoy spending some time outdoors taking walks or hikes. I really love the coast.

Just to get it out of the way I don’t own a car. I have a driver license but I take the bus.
I also work in retail.