When did you loose your virginity?

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Some good advice there.
My first piece of advice would be:

Don't rush into it. Don't just rip your pants off and ram her. It's really unattractive and often kills the mood. Be un-selfish and at least get her into the mood so she wants to do the former.

Don't complain if she does not orgasm fast enough. That will mean it just WON'T happen. Pressure to orgasm kills the mood, completely.

I am unselfish when it comes to things like this and would expect a man to give me some respect if I give him so.

Some males like women to orgasm because it makes them (The woman) feel good.
Some males like women to orgasm because it boosts their (The guy's) ego.

The former are better in the sack.

But my problem is that while I have the desire to make her (again, whoever "her" happens to end up being) happy in this regard, but have a complete lack of technical know-how in terms of how to achieve this, so I'm in a bit of a bind here. I'd be a lot more open to the idea of sex if I knew for a fact that I could make a woman happy in the process, but with no skill, and no means to acquire said skill, it's just impossible...

When I was 20. However, it wasn't what I would call consensual. I was was in a scary situation and I felt it would be safer to give him what he wants rather than try to deny him. He lived in the middle of nowhere and is a big guy. And he was very insistant he got it, even though I cried and was in pain. a**hole.

Communication is the key. Every woman is different in what they like and many men don't seem to get this, they think if one woman gets off by touching her a certain way, they all do, and they think they can touch a woman in the same way they touch themselves and can be painful if they do it wrong. And tbh if someone likes you enough to want to have sex, then I doubt being a new comer is going to matter much to your partner.

Getting a bit X rated now if you want to continue this i'll be happy to try and help over in the adult section.

I'm very sorry, I can relate that that, Its not a good first impression to have of sex, after i "lost my virginity" I never wanted it again because it was such a horrible, tearful and painful (emotionally and physically) experience.

In fact I am envious of people who have never had problems like this in their life, take sex for granted "ooh its going to be great". I don't trust a lot of people and am wary of who my "friends" are these days.

I'm waiting until I can obtain adequate protection before that happens. Children would screw my life up bad at this point.

=/ I've been on both sides of that. Although my first sexual experience was consensual, I was once forced to give a male friend oral. Eh though, it wasn't as bad as rape, because, well, it was just oral, so not painful, and after enough complaining he drew back and just went and masturbated, and actually apologized and seemed fairly sincere. We were having a sleep-over.... >_< ... I still don't spend the night anymore, but we started talking again recently and he is a friend of mine still.

A fantastic example of my point about experience and learning...

My easy rule for this -- after you both get going for a while, let her sit on top, the easiest position to let her take control for self-satisfaction. She'll know how to "finish," and then you can finish the way you like. This has worked great for me -- both parties leave happy.

I have an even better way that works for me: First off, you have to suppress your male ego. Second, convince her to tell you what to do. No two women are exactly alike, and no single technique works every time even on the same woman. My woman and I have this "thing" down to almost clockwork, which CAN be exciting, and it CAN be perfectly boring. The truth is it ultimately doesn't matter. The WOMAN does.

I once had this redhead who was mainly unsatisfied with her fiance. She was easy because she wan't shy at all, she was hungry for it, and she enjoyed being pursued and conquered. That was just her thing. I'm not really into that kind of thing personally, but because the feedback I got from her was instant, meaning I didn't really have to ask, we really connected, and I mean REALLY connected in a deep, meaningful, maybe even spiritual way. It was that really weird, special kind of thing that could easily have gone somewhere, but I broke things off with her because I was afraid she'd just end up regretting things if it went too much further. I'm all about having fun, but not to the point someone gets hurt emotionally--or worse, if her would-be husband had found out, she might have ended up without a place to live. They broke up for completely unrelated reasons later on, and since I hadn't seen her in a while I ended up in another relationship with a very special young woman that I couldn't stand to hurt that way.

That's when biting comes in handy.

I used to mess around with a biter. One time I said "Okay, fine" and bit her back hard. And she giggled and bit even harder.

Sorry, but the thread title made me laugh, and for quite different reasons...

.___. I couldn't do that! I get freaked out if I accidentally hurt a bug (except parasites that get on me, my family/friends, or my pets)! I might've done that if I'd been choking or had been more physically coerced that I was.... I was more verbally/emotionally coerced into it, however pathetically stupid that sounds. ^^;;


LOL, wrong move. Chances are pretty high that if a chick is a sadist like that, she's a sadomasochist. I bit a friend in a playfully flirtatious way once, like we sometimes used to do, and she warned me to stop biting harder 'cause she knows I'm a wimp and would do the same back, but I didn't and she bit me back harder. She seemed to be enjoying the whole thing though, except for my whining, lol. ... She retorted, "Your arm's fine! I didn't even draw blood. ... Come on, stop that. I warned you." xD... Fun times.

That is the girl with the absolute strongest reaction I have known to me making "puppy-dog eyes". She goes all softy on me then. She'll start hitting me if I do that more than once though. xD


Because of the use of the word "loose" instead of "lose"? Yeah, it made me laugh too. Heheh.

I think it's appropriate!! ! lol

LOL.