Ladies - is not wanting a toned body on a partner abnormal?

Page 7 of 8 [ 113 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 Next

Previous topic | Next topic

hyperlexian
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 21 Jul 2010
Age: 53
Gender: Female
Posts: 22,023
Location: with bucephalus

14 Oct 2010, 10:09 am

ToughDiamond wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

i don't cheat in my head when i am viewing porn. maybe it's an empathy thing, but i don't get into a character or imagine myself with someone else. i don't read fiction at all so i don't get engrossed in any sort of story, much less erotica. and when i look at pictures, i'm not imagining myself in some sort of scenario. hard to explain. i have no idea what my husband thinks when he is looking at it alone, but we talk about it when we look together.

Ah, that's quite a difference.....I always used to see the porn subjects as people. If the face was out of the picture, it wasn't so interesting. Mind you it was only nudity and provocative poses, I don't know a thing about anything more hardcore than that. I suppose I'd imagine I was actually there with the lady. Surely that's what the brain makes of a picture though? A picture being a representation of what you'd see if you were in a certain place at the right time? The eye focusses the image of the photo on the retina pretty much like it was the real thing, and the resulting body chemistry changes are the same, that's why it's a turn-on, isn't it?

I seem to objectify sex less as I get older. It's always been important to know who I'm having sex with, but when I was younger I wasn't much bothered once I was "performing," as if I didn't much care as long as she was female...it was very much a physical lust thing. But I got bored and floppy after a few years with the same woman.....these days I don't get bored over time, and it might be the result of making the sex a bit more personal. Can't prove the cause-and-effect though.

i don't have a sense of wanting to be in the picture, or wanting to experience what is inside the picture - it is purely voyeuristic. i could watch live people in the act as well, and it would be equally interesting to me. i would not need to interact or join in to enjoy that. looking at porn is nothing like having actual sex, in my own head. just like, for me looking at a piece of pie is nothing like eating it. i think that maybe porn or erotica is infidelity for some people, or in some situations, but that it maybe is not universal.

i find sex better with people i am in love with, but being in love was never a prerequisite for me to have sex.

_________________
on a break, so if you need assistance please contact another moderator from this list:
viewtopic.php?t=391105

Greendragon
Tufted Titmouse

Joined: 12 Oct 2010
Age: 61
Gender: Female
Posts: 34

14 Oct 2010, 10:32 am

each person has their own personal tastes .. I don't like ripped men. ... just not sexually appealing because of too much muscle. It just isn't ... sensual for me.

_________________
Greendragon flies

mechanicalgirl39
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 Apr 2009
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,340

14 Oct 2010, 10:55 am

I do prefer athletic guys, I don't require that a potential boyfriend be reeeeeeeeeeeally really ripped though. Normal but athletic is what I go for.

_________________
'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)

ToughDiamond
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 15 Sep 2008
Age: 72
Gender: Male
Posts: 14,534

14 Oct 2010, 10:59 am

hyperlexian wrote:

for me looking at a piece of pie is nothing like eating it. i think that maybe porn or erotica is infidelity for some people, or in some situations, but that it maybe is not universal.

If I see a photo of an attractive pie and I'm hungry, I'll want the pie....the digestive juices flow as my belly anticipates the eating. Same thing with porn, though the result shows in a different organ. Of course in both cases I know I'm not going to get what I want, but my body isn't always convinced.

The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 43
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,453
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

14 Oct 2010, 11:07 am

hale_bopp , you seem to like the naturally strong men , not those who are strong because of excessive weight lifting and protein pills. The naturally strong men trigger your instinct for seeking a man with genuine good genes.

hyperlexian
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 21 Jul 2010
Age: 53
Gender: Female
Posts: 22,023
Location: with bucephalus

14 Oct 2010, 11:14 am

ToughDiamond wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

for me looking at a piece of pie is nothing like eating it. i think that maybe porn or erotica is infidelity for some people, or in some situations, but that it maybe is not universal.

if i see a picture of pie, it's just a picture of pie. no anticipation there because it is not real. it might make me vaguely hungry, but that doesn't mean that looking at the pictures would entail cheating on my vegetables. i take a pie out of the fridge and eat it instead of my vegetables, then i'm cheating on my veggies.

_________________
on a break, so if you need assistance please contact another moderator from this list:
viewtopic.php?t=391105

HopeGrows
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Nov 2009
Age: 51
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,565
Location: In exactly the right place at exactly the right time.

14 Oct 2010, 2:49 pm

"Cheating on my vegetables..." @hyperlexian, you crack me up.

_________________
What you feel is what you are and what you are is beautiful...

ducky9924
Pileated woodpecker

Joined: 12 Nov 2008
Age: 43
Gender: Female
Posts: 189

14 Oct 2010, 3:57 pm

I wouldn't be surprised that the female market for porn is growing faster then mens. Frankly the mens market can't really grow anymore then it has. They tried to study men who hadn't been exposed to porn, and COULDN'T"T FIND ANY.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationship ... -find.html

It's not hard to out grow a segment of the market thats already at 100%.

Moog
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 Feb 2010
Age: 46
Gender: Male
Posts: 17,671
Location: Untied Kingdom

14 Oct 2010, 3:59 pm

ducky9924 wrote:

They tried to study men who hadn't been exposed to porn, and COULDN'T"T FIND ANY.

Lol

_________________
Not currently a moderator

mechanicalgirl39
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 Apr 2009
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,340

14 Oct 2010, 5:36 pm

I wish there were good porn for women. All I can find is crap where the one part of the guy you can see is his penis, or if you can actually get a good view of him he's fat or ugly or both.

_________________
'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)

willaful
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 18 Mar 2010
Gender: Female
Posts: 788

14 Oct 2010, 5:44 pm

mechanicalgirl39 wrote:

I wish there were good porn for women. All I can find is crap where the one part of the guy you can see is his penis, or if you can actually get a good view of him he's fat or ugly or both.

Have you tried one of the businesses run by women, like Good Vibrations?

_________________
Sharing the spectrum with my awesome daughter.

hyperlexian
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 21 Jul 2010
Age: 53
Gender: Female
Posts: 22,023
Location: with bucephalus

14 Oct 2010, 9:18 pm

HopeGrows wrote:

"Cheating on my vegetables..." @hyperlexian, you crack me up.

lol i realized i wasn't being fair to the dinner i have at home. really, i'd be cheating on a slice of cheesecake with a piece of pie. screw the veggies.

_________________
on a break, so if you need assistance please contact another moderator from this list:
viewtopic.php?t=391105

ToughDiamond
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 15 Sep 2008
Age: 72
Gender: Male
Posts: 14,534

15 Oct 2010, 5:27 am

hyperlexian wrote:

Hey, vegetables have feelings too y'know. :evil:

http://www.vegetablecruelty.com/gallery/

mechanicalgirl39
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 Apr 2009
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,340

15 Oct 2010, 7:45 am

willaful wrote:

mechanicalgirl39 wrote:

I wish there were good porn for women. All I can find is crap where the one part of the guy you can see is his penis, or if you can actually get a good view of him he's fat or ugly or both.

Have you tried one of the businesses run by women, like Good Vibrations?

No I've never heard of it! I'll check it out! Thanks

_________________
'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)

mv
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Jun 2010
Age: 57
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,131

15 Oct 2010, 7:57 am

hyperlexian wrote:

HopeGrows wrote:

"Cheating on my vegetables..." @hyperlexian, you crack me up.

lol i realized i wasn't being fair to the dinner i have at home. really, i'd be cheating on a slice of cheesecake with a piece of pie. screw the veggies.

hyperlexian, I'm mostly a lurker, but I want you to know you rock my world.

(Uh, I'm a heterosexual, middle-aged woman, so I didn't mean that in a creepy way)

willaful
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 18 Mar 2010
Gender: Female
Posts: 788

15 Oct 2010, 12:15 pm

mechanicalgirl39 wrote:

willaful wrote:

mechanicalgirl39 wrote:

I wish there were good porn for women. All I can find is crap where the one part of the guy you can see is his penis, or if you can actually get a good view of him he's fat or ugly or both.

Have you tried one of the businesses run by women, like Good Vibrations?

No I've never heard of it! I'll check it out! Thanks

http://www.goodvibes.com/main.jhtml

They're probably the best known, but I'm sure there are others.

_________________
Sharing the spectrum with my awesome daughter.

Page 7 of 8 [ 113 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 Next

Jump to:

Ladies - is not wanting a toned body on a partner abnormal? Post Reply New Topic

Ladies - is not wanting a toned body on a partner abnormal?