Do AS girls date AS guys?

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Ask me in about a month or two. There's this girl I know with AS (I have AS too) and she seems to be quite interested. So don't give up.

From what I understand about AS girls as long as you get to know how AS affects them and you try to respect that things shouldn't be overly hard. In my opinion as long as you find someone on the spectrum that's not too far off from you, if not a bit milder, then you should be fine. As for where to meet these AS girls, don't ask because the one I have a crush on just kinda fell into my life.

I would date an Aspie guy as long as we don't have any major conflicts.

So I may as well respond to the original question now. The answer is definitely yes. I know of an increasing number of AS girls and AS guys getting into relationships with each other at our autism centre, and I see an increasing number of quite solid relationships.

If a "nice guy" is a jaded, failed a***hole, then what do we call a guy who actually is nice?

Oooh, I know, I know! From another thread, he's called a "decent man".

Much to my surprise, the women who cut me down the quickest are ones that have heavy AS tendencies. One girl in particular pretty much said on her profile that she has all the signs yet couldn't close me down fast enough. Given their obviously difficulties in the NT world (one was incredibly good looking) you think they would at least be willing to give an Aspie a shot. For the record, I never use the words "aspergers" but I do mention my introverted nature.

I was later told one was scared to meet anyone to which I ask "what the #$@%@$ are you doing on eHarmony?"

I started getting the sense that my husband is an Aspie about 6 months ago, but kind of put it out of my mind until now. After I started doing some research on it (hoping to improve our communication) I stumbled upon that "Aspie Quiz" and took it, and it told me that I have some Aspie traits...and hanging out on this site, I'm finding that I am relating to an awful lot of things that people are talking about. So...long story short, my husband and I got married without having any idea about any of this. All we knew was that we operate on the same weird wave length.

Which one am I?

For me, if I had to choose between a neurotypical guy and an AS guy (and both were equally great), then I'd go for the AS guy. He'd be more understanding of the suuuper fun crap that goes along with having Aspergers.

Hope that makes you feel a bit better

I agree. nt guys go after aspie women. aspie women date nt guys. so since nt guys are always dating aspie girls and introverted girls as well, aspie guys just don't have alot of luck in dating.

why cant an Aspie be "alpha"?

ha ha. actual I've tried acting like an alpha before too. but it was so bad, that women could tell it was fake.
I don't know. I never heard of an aspie male who was an alpha.

techincal I could be consider an ''alpha'' because I lift weight, hit on women(badly), and don't care really if they date me or not.
but because no woman wants to date me (I probaly would not be consider an ''alpha'' plus I have way too much of eccentric personality. But when I try to smooth talk ladies it comes off very bad.

yes I am terrible with women or women are terrible with me. take your pick.

anyways I will be hanging with couple ladies tonight at community center. need to get my ''alpha game'' on

I've been in a relationship with a women that also has AS for about 2.5 years now. So it can happen. We are both very happy. We relate to each other very well and help each other out when we have meltdowns, ect..

But I also think each relationship depends on the people involved.

My girlfriend's NT, so she naturally has to deal with my weirdness.

my ex gf had hfa which is kinda of like asperger.