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12 Jan 2011, 7:35 pm

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
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you'd be surprised and wrong on many occasions


Have you ever tried just being happy when your life is just utter sh**? I did once, and I felt like the most pretentious douche ever, for even suggesting to myself that, in spite of the facts, my life didn't suck. That little experiment lasted all of 5 minutes.


Happy for 5 minutes? Sounds like me when I'm fapping.

5 minutes isn't enough. You have to do it for longer than that. There was a time when my life really sucked, but I convinced myself that I was in fact doing well. And you know what? A few months later, I was right.


2 things. 1: Fapping doesn't make me feel like a pretentious douche, and 2: I don't want to feel like that...



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12 Jan 2011, 8:02 pm

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If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.



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12 Jan 2011, 8:22 pm

nthach wrote:
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If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.


Excuses, excuses. I was slapped around by my dad, bullied in school, had regular seizures; my childhood was probably no less $hitty than yours. Now I program computers, make websites, write science fiction, and draw fantasy art, among other things, and my life is a lot more rewarding as a result.

And I don't understand your statement of "There was no such thing as love." Are you saying that you had no familial love as a child, so now you need romantic love? They're two different kinds of love. If that doesn't matter to you, then I don't see why another form of love like friendship wouldn't be sufficient. Or you could get a puppy; they can be very therapeutic.

If having a girlfriend is the only way you can possibly draw meaning from your life, then I can see why you're still single. You are entirely dependent on someone else for happiness and emotional security, which makes you come off as clingy and insecure, qualities that women find extremely unattractive.


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12 Jan 2011, 8:26 pm

nthach wrote:
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If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.


No love in my childhood either.
Can't live in the past!



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12 Jan 2011, 8:30 pm

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
nthach wrote:
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If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.


Excuses, excuses. I was slapped around by my dad, bullied in school, had regular seizures; my childhood was probably no less $hitty than yours. Now I program computers, make websites, write science fiction, and draw fantasy art, among other things, and my life is a lot more rewarding as a result.

And I don't understand your statement of "There was no such thing as love." Are you saying that you had no familial love as a child, so now you need romantic love? They're two different kinds of love. If that doesn't matter to you, then I don't see why another form of love like friendship wouldn't be sufficient. Or you could get a puppy; they can be very therapeutic.

If having a girlfriend is the only way you can possibly draw meaning from your life, then I can see why you're still single. You are entirely dependent on someone else for happiness and emotional security, which makes you come off as clingy and insecure, qualities that women find extremely unattractive.

Like I said, I've been having thoughts of suicide swirl in my head. I feel like I can't change anything in my life. I have a cat, she's not doing jack s**t besides keeping my bed warm.



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12 Jan 2011, 8:41 pm

emlion wrote:
nthach wrote:
LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
nthach wrote:
If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.


No love in my childhood either.
Can't live in the past!


Easy for you to say... you have a future.



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12 Jan 2011, 8:43 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
emlion wrote:
nthach wrote:
LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
nthach wrote:
If I don't find someone by my 30s, I might as well off myself.


Oh, come off it. There are other things in life worth living for besides love. Maybe this attitude of yours is the reason you're unsuccessful in this area. Find a hobby or something.

hobbies only blunt the pain. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. There was no such thing as love.


No love in my childhood either.
Can't live in the past!


Easy for you to say... you have a future.


As do you. If you let yourself.



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12 Jan 2011, 9:34 pm

he won't...so many here won't let themselves



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12 Jan 2011, 10:18 pm

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Like I said, I've been having thoughts of suicide swirl in my head. I feel like I can't change anything in my life. I have a cat, she's not doing jack sh** besides keeping my bed warm.


All the more reason to start something new. You can't keep going in the same direction all your life, especially if where you're going now is unsatisfactory. I spent a four month period consistently thinking about suicide, then I discovered my love for computers and everything changed.


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12 Jan 2011, 10:28 pm

Maybe I should just quit school, get my job at the local car dealership I used to work at back, and move out. I got a BS degree from a BS school and I'm gonna wind up like TOS or Bataar.



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12 Jan 2011, 10:56 pm

f**k dating and f**k women. All they do is stare, laugh, and giggle at you for being ugly and dressing a certain way.



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12 Jan 2011, 11:00 pm

stop slandering people everywhere



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12 Jan 2011, 11:04 pm

Kilroy wrote:
stop slandering people everywhere



what do you mean "slandering" ? and what you mean "everywhere" ?

Edit: I'm just going by my own experiences



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12 Jan 2011, 11:07 pm

saying f**k women is generally seen as slander
yeah well grouping everyone together like that is, well wrong and will get you flamed
I don't care what sort of life you live or past you've had, you can't just go around talking s**t like that
that's not what this forum is for
I am so sick and tired of people using it like that, turned a once charming place into a cesspool of crap



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12 Jan 2011, 11:15 pm

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f**k dating and f**k women. All they do is stare, laugh, and giggle at you for being ugly and dressing a certain way.


Being bitter towards a population is a good way to alienate them.


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12 Jan 2011, 11:52 pm

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
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f**k dating and f**k women. All they do is stare, laugh, and giggle at you for being ugly and dressing a certain way.


Being bitter towards a population is a good way to alienate them.


If it makes it any better, males are the same way towards me. All they do is feign being your friend just to play your video games and watch TV. They treat you like s**t and make fun of you, especially in front of new people and girls.