Getting the right mindset : The First step

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There's a new book out on Free Will and how we don't have it. It's by Stephen Wright I think. So that would mean that something was pre determined or is currently being manipulated from within. My belief is it's either George Soros is the master of our Destiny (Skull and Bones group) or it's a pre-determined sigma of algorithms.

My first step is having a nice smile smelling good being dressed night showing that I am the alpha male with my group of friends and being confident but just cause im confident doesnt make me a jerk I do not fear rejection its not like rejection is the end of the world or anything it happens just dont let it get you down

Stay away from Nt's.

Unless you have the IQ of Bill Gates you well never make a success of your life just accept it and move on. Socially disabled people can never make it in a sociable world. The trick s not to care about success etc , I seriously question the aspiness of materially successful aspies do you ?

And if your in doubt about the " modern economy" ie produce nothing worthwhile have a look at all the useless service jobs that are around * that require you to be "outgoing" or a "team player" good god I wish we still had an industrial base , I think I might move to Germany.

*I need to look for one after 11 years on disability that's another thing we can thank NT's for, they have things they call "practical realities" I have to suffer the consequences of other peoples stupidity work related /dr stupidity going well in to the future. If I was an employer what would it matter that I was long term disabled through no fault of my own?

If it was not for my sexual/intimacy needs, I probably would be content to remain as I am now. However, I do have those..
So I still struggle to improve. At least rejection is not so world crushingly bad anymore. But what stings me actually is that my employment usually gets in my way. I never have good schedules for dating (what the heck is a Weekend off anyway??!), so it is harder to put the bit have learned into practice.

Sincerely,
Matthew

I note for posterity that when I wrote my replies I was in a negative mood due to various factors including but not limited to

* working in a place that I didn't actually like in general
* having ex-girlfriend-type coworkers in that very place, always there, every (work)day
* generally doing things I didn't actually want to do

I further note that I deliberately placed myself in those very situations because it all seemed like a good idea at the time, and surely, somehow it was, and is, and always will have been.

In conclusion, I concur with the basic truth that being optimistic is good. Sometimes life seems harder than other times where it seems easier. Ultimately, everything is good. Have a good everything.

I feel that many of my Asperger traits were inherited and many more were learned from my dad. I have always looked up to my dad and patterned my behavior after him. He is socially awkward. He has temper tantrums, doesn’t have many friends, has trouble with conversations, doesn’t like crowds of people, etc. I’m sure he is on the spectrum, but he would never admit it. My personality is almost identical to his. If I somehow changed my mindset, he would be disappointed in me.

My dad is also extremely judgmental and has an amazing memory for the slightest human error. He remembers specific instances when someone frowned at him 30 years ago, when someone was discourteous, or when someone said something incorrect. He often brings up these past mistakes of mine and others in conversations. He holds grudges to the grave. I do the same thing. I am just as hard on myself as I am on other people. I’m trapped by dwelling on past mistakes.

I’m not being watched or judged by millions, but I’m being watched and judged by my dad, and he never forgives or forgets. I don’t live with him anymore, but I still visit frequently. It’s hard for me to get into the right mindset when have to deal with my dad.