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I'm not doubting, I'm just wondering. The concepts of "feminine" and "femininity" seem a bit nebulous to me, and I wondered what they mean to you.

When I googled "feminine " it suggested, in order,

feminine:-

tattoos, mystique, itch, wash and hygiene.

We've already established that the first of these, the tattoos, doesn't fit with your idea of feminity so I wondered which, if any, of the others did.

Women that care about their image.

Care about what others think.

Don't want to be men.

I could go on & on about my personal list of preferences but these are just a few.

I'd agree with you mainly, from experience - although we must admit that's a sweeping generalisation?

I reckon that women who dye their hair blue, have facial piercings and visible tattoos do care about their image, but that's not the kind of image you're looking for, is it?

It has been my experience, and that of many other women I know, that as we age, we care much, much less about what others think (about us). So, you're looking for a girl/young woman who still doesn't know her own mind?

Not many women want to be men. Most women, though, are less than impressed with sexism, misogyny and male privilege.

I have a friend who is always well-turned out, with hair and make-up done. She has no tattoos, I have never heard her swear, and she likes to go clothes shopping. She enjoys going to social events which mean she has an excuse to wear a dress, often with matching shoes, handbag and new jewellery. She is a good cook, enjoys baking, and is very content to spend time working in the kitchen while her partner relaxes at the computer or in front of the TV. Is she the kind of woman you would see as being "feminine"? She is NT.

^^^^Oh,there's a few that are interesting.Im just thinking on what all the suburban housewives did when I was a teenager.Seemed tedious,like when the Avon lady came calling.
Or the" lets do lunch"together, they can talk about shoes and fake nails.Please,just poke me with a sharp stick instead.
I have a very NT daughter,in beauty school,so I have to listen to her,to show I care and support her,but I don't want to hear that kind of chit-chat from most people.

Most of my friends wear no, or very little make-up. Even the friend I've described here, doesn't wear much, but she is much "girlier" than the rest of us.

One of my friends, for some reason I can't remember, went along to some day out which involved a free make-over at the end. She usually wears mascara, but that's it. She ended up with a full face of make-up, and thought she looked like a clown. When she went home, her three children took one look, laughed and said, "Why do you look like a clown?" When her husband came in, he just looked and was wise enough to say nothing!

Yes this sounds more like the type of woman I am into. Except I hold myself to those same standards. I help out with chores around the house, I don't use swear words in real life, and I keep myself well dressed and groomed.

Some women don't need makeup to look good.

In the Aspie show it yourself pictures thread.. This one: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt16892.html

I noticed that a lot of people are not well groomed & kept up.

It might sound like I'm stealing your lines here, but I'm not...can you look through Google to find a pic approximating of how you would think your ideal woman might look roughly like?

From your description so far, I'd suggest she'd be more of the Guardian type on the Myers-Briggs. And considering how they're supposed to be about 40-45% of the female population (if you believe in such things) then you're at least fishing in a bigger pool, and perhaps some of your strategies might be helpful in attracting this kind of woman.

Ok, I've got a better idea now of what you mean by feminine. My friend probably wouldn't really be your type though as she's a lesbian, but hey! You can't have everything!

That's a very broad question. I love women from all around the world.

Yes Marcia, I know you now resent me and my posts. It's ok.

<< see that picture? Yes I'm a man Not a woman, so no I wouldn't be compatible with your lesbian friends.

I don't resent you at all.

Ah, so in contrast to normal women, geeky Aspie women suffer from horrible gender dysphoria?

Perhaps you need to give us your definition of a man. I'm presuming it will include "Doesn't want to be a woman", complete with "Refer to 'woman'" to see what I'm talking about".

I changed a flat the other day,I was able to do it without having a penis.

You'll have to explain this one to me, I use my penis rather extensively while changing a flat and I'm not entirely sure how you could do so without one.

^^^^ I got a hilarious visual image of how you jacked the car up.Since I don't have one,I just use a regular old jack.