Tired of this "nice guy" and "bad boy"..

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I am actually sick of these stereotypes. It is like saying there are good people on one end and bad on the other. People are multi-faceted. There is good and bad in every person. No one person is pure "good" or pure "bad".

But I do understand that "bad boy" means a certain thing that generally gets twisted around by different people. "Bad boy" does not really mean bad person or you are a jerk. If you are a jerk you are just a jerk. The bad boy thing means something different than that to me. To me bad boy means someone who is a rebel. The whole "bad boy" to me means like an outlaw (not in the criminal sense necessarily). Someone who breaks rules. An outcast pretty much. Someone who is an individual and separates themselves from everyone else. I always think of mainly Mike Ness from Social Distortion when I think of a "bad boy". I associate "bad boy" as a certain style and behavior set.

I also would say a "bad boy" is someone who stands up for themselves and is not passive or passive-aggressive. They are usually more aggressive a type of person who will beat you up if you look at them the wrong way. The kind of guy who if you talk to their girl they will have a problem with you. They may try to fight you. lol. Basically they are the kind of guy who does not sit on the sidelines and they are larger than life. They have a hard more rugged personality as well. Rough around the edges. Dangerous in some way. Mysterious.

The question is not really whether a "bad boy" is a bad person. Because that is the point that seems lost to some people especially aspies. They think they have to be a jerk or something which is not what "bad boy" means. "bad boy" does not mean treat your woman like crap. That does not work in the long run. Because this is not a true "bad boy" if you do this then you are more like a douchebag.

I expected better from you, to be frank, and I always would. And I'd expect you to see a bigger picture, rather than just be tied up in protecting your own ego (remember your thread in the haven?).

Yes you are right. The question is who is getting laid and getting into relationships with their strategies and who is just talking the talk?

I've also gotten to this point where I don't need the aggravation in my life by coming here.

I come here to give people the help who are receptive to it but everyone else I'm pretty much done arguing with.

Dude, you're still doing it! Stop! Just stick to the topic! Stop causing mayhem then trying to find scapegoats in the thread! All I said was "lol okay". Given all the crap you gave that guy, who are you kidding? Just stop dude. Stop. and no I wasn't mortally wounded. I'm just telling you to think before you go round doing stuff like that.

I'm going to ignore the sudden war that erupted on here over night cause I just laughed it off. But I'd like to go back to the first point you brought up.

I don't believe bad boy necessitates a douche as well. I agree people are multi-faced, no one is truly good or bad. I can stand up for myself against man and women, I take what I want when I want, but I am also a loving soul, I am charitable I believe in giving back, but I am also a thief, a liar, and a pessimist. I am trying to prove anything? No. I am just simply pointing out that I am human, just like you and OctoberTiger, you two proved how human we can be by showing how susceptible we are to petty squabble, but also how quickly conflict can be resolved.

I think you have a place in this world, so do I, so does everyone. Otherwise why wouldn't we be here?

Sorry to hear that.

My thoughts exactly. My advice to the two of yas meet up in real life and talk out your problems like adults, instead of warring over a thread that isn't even yours.