Online dating I only attract low value women.

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There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner to be intelligent. It is actually one of the things that I seek- reason being that there are some subjects that I love discussing that require more than superficial examination. If someone isn't big on long discussions and analyzing things, etc etc etc, doesn't really love learning just for the sake of learning- we probably won't be as compatible.

My issue was the statement and restatement, emphasis by the OP on how intelligent he is and then this assertion that people who are not as intelligent are of lower value. I was expressing in my post that because someone doesn't appear as intelligent, it doesn't make that individual a problem and the OP not a problem. It is simply that they are different individuals. But to assume that one is of "lower value" than the other is insulting and rather ridiculous.

RE: height. I can't tell you why other women seek men who are taller. I am about 5'9". I seek men who are my height or taller because I have a personal insecurity. I am completely aware of this and have worked on it, and will tell people about it. I've tried to date guys shorter than me- it didn't work out but I am pretty sure it wouldn't have even if they were much taller.

Being as tall as I am, so much taller than any of my friends and many women I meet... having a male companion who is [at least a little bit] taller than me reminds me that I am feminine too. That's what it is about for me.
Not that men who are shorter than me are of lower value.
Same with men who may or may not be of lesser intelligence- which is something I can't even actually judge in most cases. Maybe I'm just boring, or they have different interests, or my voice is annoying, or [online] they don't type as fast or well as I do... or, or, or.

Or maybe they aren't as intelligent as I? We could get along, so it doesn't necessarily dictate that I *require* a specific level of intellect and immediately if you don't hav XIQ I would not give you a chance. So what i mean when i say IQ doesn't mean anything is that I have met some REAL dumbasses who were in the superior intelligence or genius range and I have met some truly insightful individuals who hover just about 100 as tested.

IQ really doesn't mean much but how you behave and what you can demonstrate does. That's why a lot of people don't run around boasting about their IQ. It doesn't really mean much in the real world.

And because despite being horrible people in the grand scheme of things these people were decent, personable people to interact with on a one-on-one basis.

What you are saying makes no sense, some of these people were literally monsters in human form.

Sometimes people compartmentalize evil. I've heard some Nazis did this. They tortured people in the camps but did not bring their violence into their families.

You can't understand the idea that evil people can be nice?

Not every person who is a monster is constantly doing horrible things to others at every given opportunity. A lot of humanity's worst people were polite, charismatic people who their close friends and political allies considered pleasant to be around. They would have never risen to a position of power to be capable of committing large-scale evil without these personality traits. Questioning this actually makes no sense unless you're talking about poorly written villains from children's cartoons.

Ok.

That's a glaringly obvious example, but you've got it.

Most of the people who commit large-scale evils are able to because they have a large number of loyal supporters. They gain these supporters because they typically have a large number of traits we tend to associate with morally good people. They're charismatic and able to appear empathetic. They're often loyal, dedicated and hard working. They often set lofty ideological goals to work towards and try to get people to cooperate towards those goals. They appear, to the people who follow them, to be good people.

Whether it's dictators, cult leaders or terrorist leaders the same principle occurs.

Really evil people don't go around committing petty little acts of evil like kicking puppies and stealing from orphans, they commit massive evil because the goals they believe to be good bring severe harm to people and their means of achieving those goals infringe on others basic rights. And they're able to do this because they motivate other people with good intentions to assist them.

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That's an interesting about smart people here:
http://www.quora.com/Whats-it-like-to-h ... super-easy

My brother is like that, very high IQ, and intolerant to anything he perceives as stupid or illogical.

Because society's stereotype of a single autistic man (especially one being a programmer) is basically nothing but that.

I suspect JJ is a sock puppet of the banned T. - but I have no proof; just a gut feeling.

The guy who started this thread's problem was not hearing back from ANY of the women he messages on a dating website. Whatever he is doing isn't working. It's not ageist, fat-ist or height-ist to point out that folks tend to want to date someone as attractive/smart/old as they are.

You sound exactly like my ex boyfriend. Your ego is absolutely insane, Guess what.. he is now in his 40's, childless and lonely.

I don't think anyone cares that he doesn't want to date these people. He doesn't have to like them and he doesn't have to want to date them. That is his right. It's his nasty attitude towards other people, his ridiculous ego and inability to see himself in the light other people might see him, and swearing at other people in here that is causing people to get annoyed, nothing else.

Jerry, that's something for your employability. I don't think it has much influence when it comes to dating. That's something to put less emphasis on when it comes to finding a romantic interest.

It doesn't matter if you have a degree from MIT or if you are a brilliant minded mathematical computer scientist, if you are walking around with a sense of bitterness and arrogance, people are going to sense that.

Hey, there is nothing wrong with being proud of one's achievements. Besides running down every guy you see on this forum, what have you done with your life?

similar. you either a friend or a lover in my mind.

not that I don't want my lover to be my companion which is like my best best friend. but it needs to be built up as a romantic relationship. I want to be friends, but not just friends. I can't become romantically involved with a friend.