The real reason why you aren't hit on much by women.

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You mean they eat oreos?

No, I mean we both love to eat a lot. He loves his cat food, and I love pretty much all unhealthy, sugary, fattening foods!

Insults are opinions, too. I don't think this will convince most people to respect them, though.

I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth

Neither were you assaulted nor were any references made in regards to anyone's suffering being deserved.

Also, this « victim » mentality is going a bit over-board, largely due to the fact that there were no assaults. Equating such opinions to analogies like rape is a logical-fallacy in of itself. I am no specialist in debate, but I do know what makes for a strong or weak argument, and that example would probably fall under the logical-fallacy of a straw-man or something similar. Feel free to correct me if anybody finds my statements to be inaccurate.

Additionally, I think there are a lot of mis-understandings going on amongst this forum-community, and it's also not worth your own time to be taking offense over statements that were not directed directly towards you, but it would DEFINITELY be worth your time to try & understand why others come to believe the « weird » things that they believe (this was one of the reasons why I read so much source-material on the subject of para-psychology followed by a number of conspiracy topics so that I could get a better understanding of what could convince otherwise post-graduate degree-holders of psychic-phenomena).

See, when I got « trapped/captured/sent » into a psych-ward, back in the day, I most-certainly found much of the psychiatric-verbiage to be quite offensive, such terms as Dis-Order or Syndrome, they had negative connotations, but at least I got those doctors/nurses/students to agree to call it a Condition rather than a Disorder/Syndrome, and I also noticed that we were observed, like a bunch of lab-rats, and notes about our interactions were jotted down by the staff/employees/personnel every like 15 minutes, for which I decided to make fun of them along with the rest of us lab-rats, ahem, I mean us Autistics, with notes of our own like...:

Has tendency to wear white lab-coat, appears to have obsession with wearing such attire, particularly at certain times of the day, such as from the hours of noon to 15h00, likely related to another obsession related to doing a job
Rigidly follows a routine where lab-coat-wearing subject glances at the clock every 15 minutes, followed by observing we captives through the corners of his eyes, then compulsively scribbling notes onto a sheet held by a clip-board
Exhibits peculiarly routine-behaviour after 3PM each day, always removing the same lab-coat, followed by putting it in an exact location, then often acting like he was breathing a sigh of relief before putting the clip-board away, then leaving the building

(For those who don't get this, what we were doing was a kind of parody, turning the psychiatrists into our patients)

Hop up out the bed turn my swag on

I'm not trying to start anymore arguments but if I might ask, what should I do to not be boring?

As far as I've been able to ascertain, it should be a specialized hobby (not general entertainment) and it should be a meatspace group activity. So, I should have at least one of those to be interesting, right? Or is it enough that I socialize in meatspace without having a hobby?

You have to find out what the object of your desire is interested in.

Current events are pretty safe. You'll find many people interested in that.

As far as medieval battles are concerned: not so much.

Maybe. Current events can be controversial. I've gotten into a lot of arguments over current events. Maybe that's OK. It could be better to identify major ideological differences early on.

I wouldn't mind trying out her hobbies but I won't pretend to have been practicing them all along. I should have had hobbies all along. Maybe I should actually start telling people about the martial arts class I go to on Saturdays. I thought I should keep it a secret in-case I got into a fight but maybe it would make me seem more interesting.

That's a blast from the past, I haven't seen anyone call real life meatspace for 15 years. But I think being interesting is more about being open to meeting new and varied people and finding out about their lives, more than taking up butterly collecting or something.

Wtf are you talking about, Boo?
It is amusing that people blame women for rape. When the men must be active participants. Perhaps her skirt was too short and her ass too desirable, but the guy is the one to make something of it.

Open to meeting new people? That's tricky. I have a few different social groups that I just stick to. I get comfortable with the people there.

I've been toying with the idea of trying that Facebook meetup thing. The one where you pick an interest group. I'd feel pretty nervous about showing up out of the blue to an established group. Some groups are very welcoming to new people (like my martial arts group) some aren't (like that gym group I tried to join).

These days, even NTs are isolated. A real pretty girl sat right next to me on the train just five minutes ago, even though there were empty seats nearby. I was trying to summon the courage to talk to her when she pops in headphones and starts texting.

Technology isolates NTs too. Most of the people around me on the train have headphones in, many are looking at phones. A few are looking at tablets or laptops. How did we as a society isolate ourselves?

Martial arts would be very interesting to a girl who exercises. The latest movies is a good topic so you might want to be up to date on movies and books too. I will not go out with anyone who thinks the opposite of myself when it comes to politics because that is a subject that I'm too passionate about. I think one has to show some interests in things the other person is interested in too. Like my Aspie friend is interested in boxing so I read up on some boxing stuff and actually wouldn't mind seeing a boxing match with him. If I had cable, I'd like to gamble on some boxing matches with him - so even though I had no interest in boxing before, I developed an interest because my Aspie friend likes it.

I went to 2 local groups I found on meetup.com this year. One was a weekly movie theater visit, the other was a "geek" group that gets together to watch sci fi films and play role playing games and fantasy board games. The first group folded due to lack on interest, and with the second, I enjoyed going to see things like Interstellar with them, but the games were just too socially full on for me. Athough I'm a big comic-book and fantasy geek I prefer drinking beers and playing darts and pool to "fun" group role play games like dungeons and dragons etc. Needless to say the rest of the group are all much more social and "fun" than me.