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02 Oct 2015, 1:31 pm

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You're right that is baffling. I don't know who's taking that position here though.

Is that you Katy? :lol:


yeah, it's her, who else lol

i bet next time she'll be MissAbodah.

what's the exposition on this?


Lukeda420 wrote:
Missrulez, that was quick. Katy.


SwissPagan, you still need an exposition?



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02 Oct 2015, 2:40 pm

Well....but we have to admit though, she's right on that.

Most men get married, that's an indisputable fact of life.



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02 Oct 2015, 3:09 pm

She's speaking of US adults; and statistics say a bit different story though:

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/rundown/sin ... not-alone/

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Bloomberg reported Tuesday that singles now make up the majority of the adult population in the United States. Economist Edward Yardeni, president of Yardeni Research Inc., first noticed the change when looking over the BLS’s jobs report for the month of August. In that month there were 124.6 million unmarried Americans over the age of 16, meaning 50.2 percent of the nation’s adult population identifies as single.


Some of those "singles" may have been married at some point, yet now currently the trend is that less people actually get married and/or stays married.



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02 Oct 2015, 3:36 pm

Booyakasha wrote:
She's speaking of US adults; and statistics say a bit different story though:



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Bloomberg reported Tuesday that singles now make up the majority of the adult population in the United States. Economist Edward Yardeni, president of Yardeni Research Inc., first noticed the change when looking over the BLS’s jobs report for the month of August. In that month there were 124.6 million unmarried Americans over the age of 16, meaning 50.2 percent of the nation’s adult population identifies as single.


Some of those "singles" may have been married at some point, yet now currently the trend is that less people actually get married and/or stays married.


If nearly 50% of American adults are presently married, then marriages cannot statistically be limited to the top 10% of men in terms of attractiveness



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02 Oct 2015, 3:46 pm

I'm not saying anything about men's attractiveness, i'm just correcting your statistics, katy :P

it's been a long time since we last saw you here :P



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02 Oct 2015, 4:41 pm

I find that when i first meet someone who is interested in me, it's creepy when they touch me. sometimes it is much less innocent than other times though, so it really depends on the situation. last time this happened I was getting really bad vibes from this one dude (he kept inching closer to me and pulled the coffee table in so it trapped me on the couch) and as I was leaving with my friends he grabbed my hand and kissed it. creepy icing on the creepy cake! but I think I have a good handle on when they are actually creepos vs when they are not.

and also lot of people, especially those from outside the us, are much more physically open with each other. so that sort of thing doesn't bother me unless it crosses the line from platonic touches to unwarranted romantic touches via the touch itself and/or other situational evidence.



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02 Oct 2015, 5:08 pm

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Most guys fall into the average/ugly guy category. If a woman talks to you, you are probably a hot attractive guy.
Average/ugly guys have little or no chance because they are not the hot attractive model/sports star/Hollywood actor.
Feminism pushes the idea that all women should only demand the hot attractive guy and reject the rest.
The average/ugly being seen as a creep/weirdo is society's brainwashing that all women should only want the top 10% hot attractive guys.


Categorically untrue. Over 85% of US adults are married or have been married -- so tons of not super-hot guys and girls manage to find love. Keep in mind 2/3 of US adults are overweight or obese too!

Don't take my word for it. Go look at the weddings/engagements section in your local paper -- count the non-supermodels, non-movie star-like guys, blue collar peeps, etc.

Feminism is about EQUALITY. Your attitude towards women ("I deserve sex, the women are cruel to deprive me of it") might be a contributing factor to your lack of dating success. Besides, what do you have to offer a girl? Why should a girl pick you over all the other single guys out there?



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02 Oct 2015, 5:09 pm

Booyakasha wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
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MissZarah

You're right that is baffling. I don't know who's taking that position here though.

Is that you Katy? :lol:


yeah, it's her, who else lol

i bet next time she'll be MissAbodah.

what's the exposition on this?


Lukeda420 wrote:
Missrulez, that was quick. Katy.


SwissPagan, you still need an exposition?



okay, better question, who is Katy?



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02 Oct 2015, 5:13 pm

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I find that when i first meet someone who is interested in me, it's creepy when they touch me. sometimes it is much less innocent than other times though, so it really depends on the situation. last time this happened I was getting really bad vibes from this one dude (he kept inching closer to me and pulled the coffee table in so it trapped me on the couch) and as I was leaving with my friends he grabbed my hand and kissed it. creepy icing on the creepy cake! but I think I have a good handle on when they are actually creepos vs when they are not.

and also lot of people, especially those from outside the us, are much more physically open with each other. so that sort of thing doesn't bother me unless it crosses the line from platonic touches to unwarranted romantic touches via the touch itself and/or other situational evidence.


yeah...I don't see anything innocent about that coffee table scenario...



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02 Oct 2015, 10:50 pm

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I've had people not sit next to me when I was in college, and quite often the last seat to be taken in class was the one that just happened to be right next to me.


So the person sat on the classroom floor and/or simply left the room to avoid sitting next to you? hmmm...


No, I mean't that the chair next to me was usually the last one to be filled, all the others being taken first, if we had a really large class. Usually, when there were many more seats than students, the spot next to me would remain empty.



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03 Oct 2015, 1:09 am

They are probably not counting partnerships in those stats though; were they considering one living with a gf as single?



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03 Oct 2015, 1:16 am

SwissPagan wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
Lukeda420 wrote:
MissZarah

You're right that is baffling. I don't know who's taking that position here though.

Is that you Katy? :lol:


yeah, it's her, who else lol

i bet next time she'll be MissAbodah.

what's the exposition on this?


Lukeda420 wrote:
Missrulez, that was quick. Katy.


SwissPagan, you still need an exposition?



okay, better question, who is Katy?


She's a misandrist troll who keeps on returning here mostly to attack the males; we've banned for at least 50 times now.



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03 Oct 2015, 1:36 am

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They are probably not counting partnerships in those stats though; were they considering one living with a gf as single?


Well apparently statistics just counts currently married couples - although some frequently change partners, but live alone, some live in alternative households, some with their life long partner; some really are single, but what seems to be the thing connecting all of them is that they're not married, and that trend seem to be more and more on the rise.

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But the definition of “single” is a bit vague. Statistically, it simply means unmarried. And that leaves plenty of room for different family structures.

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In 1950, married couples represented 78 percent of households in the United States. In 2011, the US Census Bureau reported, that percentage had dropped to 48 percent. In 2014, the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 124.6 million Americans 16 years and older were single, or 50.2 percent of the population, compared with 37.4 percent of the population in 1976.


http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Society/20 ... -unmarried



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03 Oct 2015, 3:19 am

That may due to marriage becoming less popular while other forms of relationships are on the rise.
But that doesn't reflect whether men are becoming less successful in getting relationships or women getting pickier.
To find out that they would have to count all relationships and average age of first time sex with a non-sex worker...etc



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03 Oct 2015, 6:58 am

Booyakasha wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
Lukeda420 wrote:
MissZarah

You're right that is baffling. I don't know who's taking that position here though.

Is that you Katy? :lol:


yeah, it's her, who else lol

i bet next time she'll be MissAbodah.

what's the exposition on this?


Lukeda420 wrote:
Missrulez, that was quick. Katy.


SwissPagan, you still need an exposition?



okay, better question, who is Katy?


She's a misandrist troll who keeps on returning here mostly to attack the males; we've banned for at least 50 times now.



ah, well, so much for the fun of arguments.



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03 Oct 2015, 8:37 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That may due to marriage becoming less popular while other forms of relationships are on the rise.
But that doesn't reflect whether men are becoming less successful in getting relationships or women getting pickier.
To find out that they would have to count all relationships and average age of first time sex with a non-sex worker...etc


Well according to some sources, it's due to

1. The Recession
2. The Growing Income Gap
3. Shifting Public Attitudes
4. Contraception Use
5. Women In The Workforce

http://www.businessinsider.com/causes-o ... tes-2014-5

and here according to some other sources:
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Sturgeon says the United States has been experiencing a “cultural retreat from marriage” that has several drivers. For one, the economy has provided less-than-stellar job prospects for those who are not well-educated. That’s hit unskilled men particularly hard, as they have not been seen as good marriage material. And both men and women are putting off marriage because they don't think it's likely to last, he said.

Sturgeon also highlighted the growing number of men and women who are living together instead of marrying, many having children outside of marriage. Studies have shown that cohabitating relationships are less stable than married relationships and do not have a great track record for longevity.

Finally, fewer people are affiliated with religious institutions than in the past, also contributing to a decline in marriage, since religions have been among the staunchest advocates of marriage, Sturgeon said.


http://national.deseretnews.com/article ... ZZ1L150.99


Same trend seems to be in UK as well btw:


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There was a time when 50 out of every 1,000 women in the UK got married annually. Now, according to the Office for National Statistics, marriages are at the lowest rate since . Despite an increase after rules on where you could get wed were liberalised, fewer people are getting married than at any time in more than 100 years.


http://www.theguardian.com/news/datablo ... es-uk-data