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What about stripping and doing amateur porn?

Yes! What's for dinner?

Brains.

But Sly, you like things like wet shaving, video games, guns, and history.

Why not allow at least some of these interests to help you get dates (don't mention wet shaving on your first date LOL).

Sure thing, its an art form!

Oh that sounds lovely

lol I thought about this once, I wondered how much money I could make

Here we don't typically cook for dinner.

Lunch is the big meal, while dinner is yogurt, thyme... light stuff.

But some really eat sheep brains. :/

None of those are dreams(aka goals)
Hobbies are dreams.

Only women into wet shaving are married to men who are into wet shaving. Similar with being into guns. It's usually something their husband or boyfriend gets them into so they share each other's interests.

I don't want a girl into history because she may accuse my knowledge of being all wrong and call me stupid.

Video games is also a traditional male thing. While there are more female gamers not people who claim to play video games aka phone apps, they hide online. Few men on games will sexually harass women on games, others will ask them out, rest get shy around them(like me). I've probably only met 4 and one of them refused to talk to any guys and so had to communicate thru a mutual femal friend. How is video games going help?

Might add many women see video games as childish heck society at large does. Though I'd never let my kids if I had any play 90% of the games made today. But this goes back to the whole beer and sports vs geek stuff. One is considered suit and normal the other is considered chidish and creepy. Iced dealt with it my whole life. Even met a few guys who say they going stop playing and throw away their video games immediately when they turn 18 and be adults.

Like Jacob said. When people think hobbies,money think the standard social extrovert hobbies, art, music, cooking,etc. more and more people are becoming antisocial though now a days.

Only really goal/dream I have is to make a gf happy and maybe have a family.

I have no interest in art or music. My sister got all that. She does a bunch of art and plays few instruments, along with writing.

I can cook frozen chicken and rice, or hamburgs and homage fries. Or lots of other stuff from boxes. Hamburgers, fries, cookies ,and pancakes are all iced ever made from scratch.
Oh and I guess steak, mash potatoes or fried potatoes. I feel like anyone can cook all that though

Waste not want not! Brains are quite nutritious, but high in cholesterol.
I'm quite hungry right now, all of that sounds good. I knew guys that left home knowing how to 'cook' beans on toast.

Sorry for some of the cynical and depressive replies I give sometimes, I hope it doesn't make any one else feel super down or anything but for me I feel it is better to express it here than keep it bottled up. Expressing it and putting it out in the open helps me move past it and forces me to think of solutions to my own issues because it is so easy for me to distract myself and avoid any unpleasant thoughts, I've wasted too many years already.

Getting a hobby or doing a creative endeavor is a great thing to do for yourself, now it is simplistic to think that might lead directly to anything but improving your self-esteem at least in my case is absolutely step one before I can think about anything beyond myself to be honest. Desires are what they are, you can wish and pray for anything but putting hopes on being saved is naive at best. Some people are born more fortunate than others, there is an unavoidable innate inequity to life but that's life as they all say. You just have to try not to compare yourself to others or care what others thing about you, easier said than done for me. It's really frustrating the pace my life moves at, everything moves slower than it should and I've wasted so much time already. Unfortunately we don't all have the resources to do what we want to do, it really pains me how much I was abandoned by the system and the complete lack of humanity in the bureaucracy that is perfectly fine with large segments of the population falling thru cracks the size of the Mariana Trench. That's what makes me bitter and angry more than anything.

I'm usually the more technical/analytical type, and have generally found myself usually more attracted to artistic/idealistic types as a whole. I'm honestly not sure if that's because I'm looking for a foil in my other half, or if it's a chauvinistic idea of what a woman should be (like a more sedate Manic Pixie Dream Girl or whatnot).

As far as creative endeavors, I'm working on it, I swear. I'm a software programmer with some programming burnout, so my main interests of late have been blacksmithing and lapidary, and I'm on mailing lists for leatherworking and silversmithing classes too.

I feel like something has to be wrong with someone not to be able to cook the basics for themselves, I guess some people have always had other people to depend on maybe?

I use to cook a lot more back when I was a teen, I'd cook for my family and it was something I did take pride in but I don't live with them anymore and cooking for yourself sucks. I'm not even hungry nowadays most of time, I can't stand premade super processed foods and something I don't like so I'll just wait until something good now if I don't have any help jump starting my appetite. Food kind of grosses me out now, it's weird but I just don't have cravings like I use to and I've always had a complex about my weight and unhealthy food thanks to my dad so I've lost a lot of weight in the last year.

I've been thinking about getting back into aquariums again, it was something I use to do back in the day and it's something that involves work and caring for living creatures along with being really cool too look at. It's a pretty introverted hobby and I wasn't that crazy deep into it either, I've only had tropical freshwater fish albeit in a large tank but these saltwater tanks seem nuts. I don't know if my lease even allows it to be honest, I think I remember seeing something about it in there and those pet deposits are crazy.

There are lots of things I might want to try or do but it's just hard when you're not a completely independent person with all the means and time to do it obviously. I really need to try to get driving, I was actually pretty enthusiastic about learning back when I was 15/16 but I'm so much more anxious about it now and I live in a metro area of millions that drive like maniacs. There is luckily ok public transportation in this town and I live pretty centrally so I can probably survive but it really limits what you can do. I am introverted person, so much of the things I'd even want to do would be pretty lonely with no else there. What is an extroverted hobby? Dancing? Drugs? Big crowds? Tough sell...

I just really wish things would start moving quicker for me, so much waiting and so much ground to cover with all the hoops you have to jump thru in between.

^^^ it likely would be beneficial if you banished "less than" from your vocabulary when describing yourself, and replace it with "different than."

Better out than in
The reality of this world is tough and fairness is a concept that is extended to those in positions of power, fairness isn't even fair! I think its best not to hope that another will save you, but, I think people will at least assist you to help yourself in small ways, and thats about all a person can hope for. I have a new mantra that motivates me from the poem by W. Purkey, I printed it out in a large font and its the first thing I see every morning "live like it's heaven on earth.” It works for me, life is short.

Fish are therapeutic to watch and caring for a living creature outside of yourself can help to introduce a different perspective on the world. What type of fish did you have?
Maybe make a long term plan for education, returning to it is difficult, think of the brain as a muscle, it needs to be strengthened before it will be able to jump hurdles and run an academic marathon. Building your self esteem could be step one in the long term plan.

I've heard they're quite delicious but I never eat those stuff due to prions.



You see there...there on the lettuces, before they get them fried/grilled anyway.



I do cook sometimes quick for the next's lunch btw, the good stuff on weekends.

Btw, restaurant's food delivery services here aren't just about pizzas but literally everything is deliverable, even complicated stuff such as french and chinese meals.