This lady has some serious issues with Aspies

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She's wrong and she's just making up this narrative due to some perceived slight against her. Don't take anything she says to hurt, because she's the abusive one. What more is there to say?

It's also funny how these stupid things never talk about the effect aspie girls have on relationships. Yes, they do have an effect.

Observation: issue on whether to tell seems to be decided by the sexs, women here saying to do it, and majority of men saying don't. Perhaps this has to do with how poeople react to a woman with aspergers vs how they react to men with aspergers.
Like others have said there are tons and tons of book and articles about aspie men and how they're bad and some few about how their good. I've never seen any about aspie women? Is it cause aspie women at least from a far would seem to match up more with what society thinks women should be like, while aspie men fly in the face of what society thinks men should be like?
Note: I'm not making assumptions I'm just obersving and asking questions out of real curiousity .


As for my self I'm on ssi/ssdi as well as work part time. Ssi had a really bad negative view from most people . Should I not hide it and only talk about my part time job? At least at first? I don't feel any woman will give me a chance if they know I'm on disability.

See the long term(if it happens) it'd be impossible for me not to disclose my aspergers and adhd. Cause clearly eventually they'll know I'm on ssi and want to know why.
I'm limited clearly to independent like myself as no republican would have anything to do with a "thief stealing their mi way by faking disability from and screwing over seniors as well as from them" (how they see it) is there another independent like me who's female i dont know. Which is partly why I'm afraid to disclose my disability cause it'll just limit my already serverly small pool of possible matches.

Outrider said:


It's only family I truly don't put any effort into to 'act normal' with because they aren't worth the effort because they already care for me unconditionally."

Is this not the crux of the article though? People acting until it's too late? That once you get comfortable with someone, they aren't worth the effort? I would have thought the opposite should be the case. This could be said about NT's too; I was married to a man who was wonderful until 2 months in to our marriage when he showed his true colours and became abusive. There was no hint of that side of him while we were dating.

I don't agree with the male 'aspie bashing' viewpoint she puts forward though as this would be akin to me writing about my experience with my ex husband and hence conclude that all men must be abusive.

We all put on our best front when we meet someone new but imo, to give any relationship the best chance, honesty really is the best policy for both parties.

'Being yourself' is useless advice that is not tolerated with most people, what if 'being yourself' leaves you ostracized/hated/isolated? Are you suppose to alter your behavior or are you just supposed to accept your predicament? It is probably true that women on the spectrum don't have deal with the same stereotypes and prejudices since they're not part of the common perception of autism, doesn't conjure up the same images not to mention there is just more tolerance for women that challenge the norm than men in general. Being invisible is better than being stigmatized. How many women actually have to deal with being physically bullied? How many have ever been punched in the face for 'being themselves'? Cliched nonsense.

I'm quite envious of how they just walk up at ask the women out. I can't do that