Are most men struggling to get healthy weight women?

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Alliekit
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01 Mar 2017, 6:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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^ what do you mean by "they want more"?

Well retrogamer said even the fat girls want more. I guess that means they want like a funny good guy who has a job of some kind? I'm not sure what he meant by it.

Well, don't be offended at the Alliekit, but to be honest, I notice that overweight women are less picky in the looks department- this is very noticeable on dating sites. They tend don't seem mind my height or me being smaller than them.
And the fitter the woman the picker becomes, especially looks wise, they may become extremely picky.
Most rude comments on my looks and body came from fit women.

For example, it's very noticeable in my experience that overweight women are by far more likely to message me first on dating sites, If I message an overweight woman (they often hide that in their pics), they reply....always.

Also if I swipe right an obese woman by mistake on tinder I almost always get matched with her (which means she accepted me too).

Umm...this is true only for Caucasians though, Asians reply me even the ones with good shapes (they're rarely fat anyway).

I am not suprised they are often judged for their weight so can empathise with what are truly attractive traits and understand looks fade (not all fat people but a lot)

Also I'm genuinely not offended I wasn't insinutting big girls are more picky just responding to retrogamer

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01 Mar 2017, 7:14 am

Personally, I do like larger woman as long as they aren't too big (around 210 lbs is as large as I'm willing to go). I'm 5'11" and weigh about 165 lbs so I consider myself in reasonable shape. I probably could attract women of a 'healthy' weight as the OP puts it but I'm not too bothered about how much a woman weighs in terms of determining suitability as a partner. As long as she's fairly attractive and has an interesting personality, then that's good enough for me.

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01 Mar 2017, 7:26 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Umm...this is true only for Caucasians though, Asians reply me even the ones with good shapes (they're rarely fat anyway).

Geez I gotta move to Lebenon so I can get in contact with all the skinny Asian girls. Or maybe I should just move to China.

In Australia the majority of Asian girls only want to date Asian guys. I think it's because most Asians in Australia uni students. They come, they get their degree, they leave. It's probably different in Lebanon. I'm guessing the Asians there are workers, not students. They probably came to Lebanon because they were trying to escape poverty. The Asians who come to Australia are Chinese middle class who are trying to appease their parents after they failed the Chinese university entrance exam.

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01 Mar 2017, 7:30 am

Alliekit wrote:

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^ what do you mean by "they want more"?

Well retrogamer said even the fat girls want more. I guess that means they want like a funny good guy who has a job of some kind? I'm not sure what he meant by it.

Whatever it is they want, they must want more than a job because I already have a job

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01 Mar 2017, 7:37 am

HelloSweetie wrote:

Might have missed this but how do you guys define 'fat'?

IMHO BMI > 35 is enough to be offputting.

25 < BMI < 35 is a little chubby but not enough to make them unnattractive IMO.

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01 Mar 2017, 7:58 am

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Like I'd rather be with a fat person than someone who is rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc etc the list goes on

I don't think that a fat person is less likely to be rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc. How can you see any of these if you use online dating?

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01 Mar 2017, 9:59 am

Personally, I don't see those really young women as relationship material because I know they are going to change in few years as their minds mature. But, my house was put on the market because the young girl who lived in it decided to get married instead of going to college. The parents thought that was a great idea, and decided to buy a bigger house with the money that had been saved for college.

There are advantages to women marrying older. Old age, wealth, and power is a simple test for genetic superiority.
Some inherited diseases and disorders don't show up until your 30s, after normal childbearing age. By not showing up early, they are more likely to be passed onto future generations.

Older guys typically have more wealth and experience. Young couples often struggle with financial issues such as student loans. May not be an issue for an older guy who has already saved enough for retirement and paid off his home.

A lot of younger guys just aren't ready for a commitment when they are in their early 20s. Women are all set to have kids but the men aren't so sure at that age.

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01 Mar 2017, 11:40 am

314pe wrote:

Alliekit wrote:

Like I'd rather be with a fat person than someone who is rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc etc the list goes on

I don't think that a fat person is less likely to be rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc. How can you see any of these if you use online dating?

I didn't suggest that I meant that there are worse things to be than fat. It's actually not that hard to tell on online dating if someone has personality trait's you don't like, for example arrogance can be pretty easy to spot (ie torso pictures).

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01 Mar 2017, 11:54 am

Alliekit wrote:

314pe wrote:

Alliekit wrote:

Like I'd rather be with a fat person than someone who is rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc etc the list goes on

I don't think that a fat person is less likely to be rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc. How can you see any of these if you use online dating?

Agreed.
I find most males on the spectrum also to be quite arrogant tbh :roll:

As for the BMI, mine is 20.2 and I'm considered a fatty :heart:

Which was also the case when my BMI was 14.8 (underweight/anorexia).

I guess a dating app for males on the spectrum would be full of measurements? :lol:

I do hope that would include the size of their intimate parts :lol:

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01 Mar 2017, 12:03 pm

^ Don't ask me what I think of most females on wp, it will all make you cry.

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01 Mar 2017, 12:19 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ Don't ask me what I think of most females on wp, it will all make you cry.

If it's coming from you it might be from happiness hahaha jk

Also she didn't specify wp so don't get defensive

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01 Mar 2017, 1:18 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

So you weigh 172, but a woman who weighs 175 is way too fat for you? Maybe you should make sure you yourself have a perfect body type before you decide women are un-datable if they weight even two more pounds than you.

You hit it right on the head, here. I think a lot of aspie men suffer from "Internet Male Syndrome"; that is, unrealistic standards molded by years of porn consumption. As if a beautiful woman is a priceless work of art to be scrutinized, rather than a human being with thoughts and feelings.

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01 Mar 2017, 1:45 pm

^ +1

And Boo chillax bro :lol:
Was talking only about my irl experience.
Worked w Aspies irl for a long time and met new ones via my husband and my son's school.
Never met anyone from wp irl.

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01 Mar 2017, 1:49 pm

MushroomPrincess wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

Stop the stupid theories on us, seriously - I am reporting this and putting stop to this misandry here.
A non-overweight woman =/= a pornstar.

So either one extreme or the other?
So if a man doesn't find obesity attractive then he must be after women who look like pornstars only - logic. :roll:

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01 Mar 2017, 2:11 pm

HelloSweetie wrote:

^ +1

And Boo chillax bro :lol:

Was talking only about my irl experience.
Worked w Aspies irl for a long time and met new ones via my husband and my son's school.
Never met anyone from wp irl.

If most As are Bs and most Bs are Cs so most As are Cs....

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01 Mar 2017, 3:18 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Stop the stupid theories on us, seriously - I am reporting this and putting stop to this misandry here.
A non-overweight woman =/= a pornstar.

175 pounds is not overweight or "unhealthy."

And stating that some men have BS standards is not misandry, it's something that needs to be said in threads like these.

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