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07 Mar 2018, 9:28 am

Amazingly none of the girls have been impressed by my new BlackBerry.

(yes that was meant humorously)


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07 Mar 2018, 5:30 pm

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You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.


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07 Mar 2018, 5:36 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Amazingly none of the girls have been impressed by my new BlackBerry.

(yes that was meant humorously)


I don't know about impressed but my Spanish-market Nokia E7-00 is a conversation starter with pretty much anyone.
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07 Mar 2018, 6:01 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
imhere wrote:
You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.



I agree with Funky, such women are drama queens over their own silly interpretations.



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07 Mar 2018, 6:48 pm

cberg wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Amazingly none of the girls have been impressed by my new BlackBerry.

(yes that was meant humorously)


I don't know about impressed but my Spanish-market Nokia E7-00 is a conversation starter with pretty much anyone.
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That is so cool!!


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07 Mar 2018, 7:56 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
imhere wrote:
You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.



I agree with Funky, such women are drama queens over their own silly interpretations.


You're entitled to agree with him, but I pose the same question to you. How's that attitude working out for you?


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08 Mar 2018, 4:20 am

funeralxempire wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
imhere wrote:
You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.



I agree with Funky, such women are drama queens over their own silly interpretations.


You're entitled to agree with him, but I pose the same question to you. How's that attitude working out for you?


O this 'attitude' which bothers you so much for some reason is working VERY WELL for me, by having non-drama girlfriends/flings while keeping drama queens out of my life, It's a double-win.

I am not that type of guys who would suck BS just for the sake of getting any woman's approval.



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08 Mar 2018, 9:00 am

funeralxempire wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
imhere wrote:
You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.

If my choices are between staying single forever and having to preface everything I say just to make sure she is aware that my opinion is indeed my opinion or else risk hurting her feelings... Do I even need to finish this sentence?



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08 Mar 2018, 12:16 pm

^ Yeah a relationship based on “walking on egg shells” is not viable.



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09 Mar 2018, 2:45 pm

I thought me being in a relationship was impossible for over a decade. I've been in a relationship for over 6 months now. It's not impossible.



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09 Mar 2018, 2:52 pm

I've thought for more than a decade and a half that it's impossible for me to be in a relationship, and the only reason I haven't thought this for longer is that I began really late to get a fuzzy idea of what a relationship is, let alone how old you're supposed to be before you start having them.

So far, all evidence supports the hypothesis that it is indeed impossible.


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09 Mar 2018, 3:01 pm

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I thought me being in a relationship was impossible for over a decade. I've been in a relationship for over 6 months now. It's not impossible.


how many flaws do you have? what is your weaknesses? if a guy have like 100 flaws like me its for sure impossible.



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09 Mar 2018, 4:47 pm

white_as_snow wrote:
SpreadsheetMaster wrote:
I thought me being in a relationship was impossible for over a decade. I've been in a relationship for over 6 months now. It's not impossible.


how many flaws do you have? what is your weaknesses? if a guy have like 100 flaws like me its for sure impossible.


We're all flawed. If a guy like me can be in a relationship, there's hope for most of us (maybe not the bitter misogynists, but no one deserves to be stuck with one of those in their life).


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09 Mar 2018, 4:49 pm

FunkyPunky wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
imhere wrote:
You are telling someone "she should do this", "it would be better if she that"....why do you think you know better what is best for someone else than she does? Expressing a suggestion is one thing, but the way you phrased this post, that is not what this was....you were telling someone else why they were wrong and your way was better. Do you understand how that comes off? That is NOT geekiness advantage, it's obnoxious.

Oh boo friggin' hoo. He told them that better gadgets are better gadgets. If that's all it takes to hurt someone's feelings because he didn't explicitly state that that was his opinion then they deserve to have their feelings hurt.


So how's this attitude helping your situation? I guess it's easy to always be right when no one's still around to challenge your thoughts. Learning to pick your battles and not constantly belittling others is a valuable skill that one needs to learn, if one wishes to participate in romantic relationships with others.

If my choices are between staying single forever and having to preface everything I say just to make sure she is aware that my opinion is indeed my opinion or else risk hurting her feelings... Do I even need to finish this sentence?


If you prefer antagonizing people to being in a relationship your current attitude is perfect. Don't change a thing man. :lol:


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09 Mar 2018, 5:19 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
white_as_snow wrote:
SpreadsheetMaster wrote:
I thought me being in a relationship was impossible for over a decade. I've been in a relationship for over 6 months now. It's not impossible.


how many flaws do you have? what is your weaknesses? if a guy have like 100 flaws like me its for sure impossible.


We're all flawed. If a guy like me can be in a relationship, there's hope for most of us (maybe not the bitter misogynists, but no one deserves to be stuck with one of those in their life).


Yes, but some people are more flawed than others. And few of us have way too many flaws. I have so many flaws that i cant even get friends.

What is the problem with you? "if a guy like me".

What is a bitter misogynist? A guy who has social phobia, is bullied and feels like s**t?



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09 Mar 2018, 5:30 pm

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Yes, but some people are more flawed than others. And few of us have way too many flaws. I have so many flaws that i cant even get friends.

What is the problem with you? "if a guy like me".

What is a bitter misogynist? A guy who has social phobia, is bullied and feels like s**t?


I don't feel like detailing all of my problems and flaws. :|

As for what is a bitter misogynist, a man who spends all of his time brooding on how women are out to destroy him because none of them will provide adequate romantic, emotional and/or sexual gratification to fulfil his needs. You've encountered them on here before, even if you chose to not notice the problem. Not everyone who's been bullied or suffers from social phobia turns out to be a misogynist, but it's not unlikely that some turn into misogynists as a coping mechanism because it's easier to blame others than accept one's own role in one's problems.


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