“I’m looking for men who aren’t trash” what’s that mean?

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18 Dec 2018, 8:56 pm

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It could also mean that this woman has had enough of crappy men....and wants a decent one now.

Maybe she was one of those who was married to a dickhead in her 20's......

Having seen what my housemate went through with internet dating, I'm really not surprised at someone specifying "no trash" on their profile.


Did your housemate enjoy that date last week (when she stayed out late)? Has she seen the man again?

Yes!
They're absolutely smitten with each other.
Success!!
It does happen.


Yay! No wait... Booo

Haha, room for rent at Raleigh's place soon maybe


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18 Dec 2018, 9:03 pm

The point is, Sly....is that there are woman out there who aren't on the dating sites.

Who would respect you for helping your family keep a roof over your head.

I've met these sorts of women. They are out there.



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18 Dec 2018, 9:08 pm

Reasons women reject me without words.

1-Not good looking enough

2-you look like a loser or a**hole

3-you look boring

4-I prefer “Race XYZ” guys

5-You look soft (aka not a jock/aggressive/bad boy)

6-You look threatening (aka you might try to hurt me)

7-You’re not wearing designer clothes

8-I want a “certain lifestyle” and you can’t pay for it

This is all before getting to know me. They make numerous assumptions from the first sight or conversation and either accept or reject your presence.

Women expect a lot from a man but will probably be offended if a man expected anything reasonable from a woman such as: education, career path, good family, decent fitness, kind, respectful, financially responsible, not controlling, etc.

So I just go into the pile of rejected, trash guys. I prefer gambling over dating. With gambling, anything is possible and I have a chance at winning. With dating I have no hope at all, no hope at winning. Life is winning or losing, in regards to dating I am stuck with the same losing hand. In gambling, I have a chance at winning and that keep me going.



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18 Dec 2018, 9:17 pm

I am NONE of the things you mentioned....yet I've had many women, and am married now.

I'm soft/not really masculine.

I'm not that good-looking.

I'm short.

I don't have a well-paying job.

I didn't drive until I was in my late 30's.

I still can't provide a woman with that "lifestyle" you keep talking about....

I've been told that I'm boring.



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18 Dec 2018, 9:25 pm

Raleigh wrote:
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Raleigh wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
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kraftiekortie wrote:
It could also mean that this woman has had enough of crappy men....and wants a decent one now.

Maybe she was one of those who was married to a dickhead in her 20's......

Having seen what my housemate went through with internet dating, I'm really not surprised at someone specifying "no trash" on their profile.


Did your housemate enjoy that date last week (when she stayed out late)? Has she seen the man again?

Yes!
They're absolutely smitten with each other.
Success!!
It does happen.


Yay! No wait... Booo

Haha, room for rent at Raleigh's place soon maybe


f**k that , turn it into a craft room


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18 Dec 2018, 9:28 pm

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This is all before getting to know me. They make numerous assumptions from the first sight or conversation and either accept or reject your presence.


Isn't this an assumption as well, on your part? Did the women really say to you "I knew from the first sight / conversation that I would reject you for this list of reasons"? That's whacked.

And yes, Raleigh -- make it into a nursery so you can be Grandpa R.


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18 Dec 2018, 10:40 pm

http://antifeminismaustralia.com/men-lose-dating-game/

If women want true equality, they also need to take responsibility. Women need to start giving men more attention, compliments, and making the first moves. They need to take some of this burden off men, as the dating game is extremely imbalanced. They need to understand their true dating market value and date within their means. Women need to be less superficial, such as judging a man on his height or the amount of wealth he has.

Men can also assist by doing the opposite. This means giving women less attention, less compliments, and waiting for them to make the first move. Thankfully the dating market is already starting to correct itself, as more men are getting fed up and going MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way).



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18 Dec 2018, 10:43 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
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This is all before getting to know me. They make numerous assumptions from the first sight or conversation and either accept or reject your presence.


Isn't this an assumption as well, on your part? Did the women really say to you "I knew from the first sight / conversation that I would reject you for this list of reasons"? That's whacked.

And yes, Raleigh -- make it into a nursery so you can be Grandpa R.

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18 Dec 2018, 10:45 pm

I interpret this statement as, "I'm looking for a nice man who treats people the way he wishes to be treated. I want a Sweet Pea instead of a bad guy."


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18 Dec 2018, 11:00 pm

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In the old days, dating was much easier for the average man. The only thing a man had to do was be employed. He didn’t have to have muscular body, be extremely wealthy, or have a luxury car. Women were happy enough to have an average looking man who was employed. As most of today’s women are now employed, they are seeking more than just an employed man.


... and in the old days, dating was easier for the average young woman. She had to wear pretty clothes, cook well and impress the mother-in-law while feeling obligated to raise children. Now because of the socio-economic climate she has to work just as many hours as her partner. She will likely have children but isn't home to raise them. The men still want a pretty wife who keeps house and raises children but also she works 10 hours a day and shouldn't be tired. If she is too "feminine" her peers will reject her. If she is too "masculine" the men will reject her.

It sucks both ways.


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19 Dec 2018, 12:37 am

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If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.

Some women just want someone to hold them at night. I assume you can do that.


Most of those women already happily have someone. Most of What’s left is the picky ones who never found a man who meets their requirements hence why they’re single still at 30.


If men and women exist in roughly equal numbers, how can there be millions of single men while every woman has someone?


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19 Dec 2018, 1:16 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.

Some women just want someone to hold them at night. I assume you can do that.


Most of those women already happily have someone. Most of What’s left is the picky ones who never found a man who meets their requirements hence why they’re single still at 30.


If men and women exist in roughly equal numbers, how can there be millions of single men while every woman has someone?


Every woman? Where are you looking? I'm single and nearly every woman I know (NT and ND) is, too.
My nephew is in his 20s and most of his female friends are single as well.


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19 Dec 2018, 1:17 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
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It could also mean that this woman has had enough of crappy men....and wants a decent one now.

Maybe she was one of those who was married to a dickhead in her 20's......


I agree. (Speaking of weddings, folks, I'm waiting for my congratulations. I posted my dress on What are You Wearing) :P

Sly, it's not true that women of 30 have necessarily been "too picky" in the past. Perhaps they're just introverted or agoraphobic and they haven't been to places where couples usually meet. It goes both ways. They maybe think that men your age are too picky as well (which I know you aren't, necessarily).


I said most of the women in their 30s who are single.
As evident by dating sites and social media
They think men my age who are single have something wrong with them why else would no woman every have dated them. Being a single guy who’s never had a relationship in his 30s is a huge red flag as has been pointed out in this forum a bunch.
Guys are hardly ever seen as too picky as most would date any woman who’s decent looking. I swip right in 99% of women. Only two women have ever swiped right on me.
And they right I’m a loser, I am basically unemployed, on disability and don’t drive and such women never wanted to date me and they don’t want to either.



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19 Dec 2018, 1:21 am

sly279 wrote:
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It could also mean that this woman has had enough of crappy men....and wants a decent one now.

Maybe she was one of those who was married to a dickhead in her 20's......


I agree. (Speaking of weddings, folks, I'm waiting for my congratulations. I posted my dress on What are You Wearing) :P

Sly, it's not true that women of 30 have necessarily been "too picky" in the past. Perhaps they're just introverted or agoraphobic and they haven't been to places where couples usually meet. It goes both ways. They maybe think that men your age are too picky as well (which I know you aren't, necessarily).


I said most of the women in their 30s who are single.
As evident by dating sites and social media
They think men my age who are single have something wrong with them why else would no woman every have dated them. Being a single guy who’s never had a relationship in his 30s is a huge red flag as has been pointed out in this forum a bunch.
Guys are hardly ever seen as too picky as most would date any woman who’s decent looking. I swip right in 99% of women. Only two women have ever swiped right on me.
And they right I’m a loser, I am basically unemployed, on disability and don’t drive and such women never wanted to date me and they don’t want to either.


I'm sure you've said before, but I'm sorry I don't remember why you don't drive?
I receive a form of disability for my stroke and I can't drive any more (also stroke).
If I call myself a loser does that mean I'm a loser too?


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19 Dec 2018, 1:42 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Aspie19828 wrote:
http://antifeminismaustralia.com/men-lose-dating-game/

In the old days, dating was much easier for the average man. The only thing a man had to do was be employed. He didn’t have to have muscular body, be extremely wealthy, or have a luxury car. Women were happy enough to have an average looking man who was employed. As most of today’s women are now employed, they are seeking more than just an employed man.


... and in the old days, dating was easier for the average young woman. She had to wear pretty clothes, cook well and impress the mother-in-law while feeling obligated to raise children. Now because of the socio-economic climate she has to work just as many hours as her partner. She will likely have children but isn't home to raise them. The men still want a pretty wife who keeps house and raises children but also she works 10 hours a day and shouldn't be tired. If she is too "feminine" her peers will reject her. If she is too "masculine" the men will reject her.

It sucks both ways.


Women work because they wanted to work, they fought to be able to work.
Most Women don’t want to be judged based on their wieght but judge men based on theirs.
I see fat women say don’t judge me in my size then say they will only date a fit athletic guy. Or say don’t judge looks but only will date handsome men
I’ve seen unemployed okmlooking fat women say they only date a handsome athletic thin man who has a good job, car and his own place. But they don’t have any of that. But hey they a woman and thus entitled to such a man.
Where’s the movement against fat shaming men? It doesn’t exist, it’s funny to fat shame men, but it’s not allowed to comment in women’s size.
I’m expected to eat barely anything k work out every living min when I’m not working, work 40+ hours a week, all so I can be good enough for a unemployed obese, ok looking woman?
How can they honestly expect such a man to dat them? I don’t expect a beautiful Petite model to date me, it’d be insane to say I’d only date such a woman. It when women do it other women say good for them that’s empowering. There seems to be this idea that women are just born inheritly more valuable then men. How’s that equality?
I’m not saying yiu think that hut a lot of people do. Hence men get asked what d they offer. It’s never asked well sly what does she offer to earn yiur love, it’s always what do yiu have to offer her sly, nothing, that’s right so go get in shape, get thin, get a better job, learn skills like cooking etc. why does being born with a vagina and boobs make her so high? Isn’t close to half the population born that way, so not like women are rare.
All I have to offer is my love and companionship and if I was a woman that’d be all I need.
You see it here all the time, men have to earn dates with women. Men have to earn sex with women, women’s time is mire valued so men have to earn it. We should pay for dats cause we have to buy women’s time. I don’t think we should teach kids this it’s not equality.



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19 Dec 2018, 1:43 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.

Some women just want someone to hold them at night. I assume you can do that.


Most of those women already happily have someone. Most of What’s left is the picky ones who never found a man who meets their requirements hence why they’re single still at 30.


If men and women exist in roughly equal numbers, how can there be millions of single men while every woman has someone?


You didn’t seem to read my post, this is all I have to say as it’s unlikely you’d read my response
I’ll bold the parts you missed.